What Are the Different Stages of Attraction?

By Clarence Lee

If we analyze the way we respond to other people, we will realize that we feel magnetized by some and repulsed by some others. The magnitude of feelings for others is a direct measure of how attracted we are to them, or how deep our interest runs for these people. It all starts out with the initial meeting. We meet someone and spend time on casual conversation with him or her. Then we get to know more about his or her personality and our interest deepens. Subsequent to these, we feel like the other person has become a friend who we can talk to about anything. The relationship goes from formal to informal, from casual to personal and from strict to easygoing.

If we delineate the differences among the different stages of attraction, we come up with a short list of what actually happens when we fall in love with a person. These steps are illustrated in the following list.

Attraction to Physical Appearance

A person's outward appearance is the first thing that others notice. A person who has 'good looks' will seem more captivating to someone who likes a particular thing about the way that person carries herself or himself. Some like brunettes, blondes and redheads; while others like men and women with jet black hair.

Liking another person's way of dressing is also considered a part of the attraction to physical appearance. As the cliché goes, beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder. What is pretty to someone could be mundane to another person. Another angle to this stage of attraction is getting attracted to a person's sex appeal. There are people who are not particularly good looking but manage to inspire desire in everyone they meet.

Attraction to Personality

After the initial physical attraction comes the fascination with personality. In a sense, getting to know what makes a person laugh or smile, if he laughs or smiles at all, is like filling a black and white picture with color.

A person could be more attracted to a polar opposite of his personality. Some extroverts may prefer the company of other extroverts because they can do the same activities and share the same experiences. Introverts may also prefer extroverts to other introverts because the former increases the chances to overcome shyness or timidity, a trait associated with being an introvert. There is no clear cut rule to evaluating what combination works. It all depends on the environment where the partnership is needed. In a business environment, a union with members showing opposite personalities could work in such a way that what one lacks, the other supplies.

Attraction to Intellect

When you find yourself getting attracted to the way a person thinks and puts his or her thoughts into words, you know that your relationship with that person has gone deeper. Getting to this stage of attraction means you have spent time talking to this person and finding out what his views are about different issues or concepts. The way he or she conveys ideas could be very attractive, particularly if you are a person who appreciates a healthy discussion about everything.

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How to Turn a Girl on in Seconds

By Chess McDoogle

There are specific tips and tricks you can perform to turn a girl on in seconds. These are techniques that automatically turn up the heat tenfold, and they are very easy to apply.

Here is how to turn a girl on in seconds:

1. Ear kisses

While kissing, shift your attention over to the girls ear. Begin kissing or lightly nibbling on the earlobe. If she's wearing an earring you can work your tongue around it (be careful that the earring does not come out and lands inside your mouth! It can happen, and has happened to me!)

Next you want to work your tongue into the ear and perform circles all around. This is incredibly, incredibly stimulating and 9 times out of 10 you will get an amazing erotic reaction from the girl in only seconds.

2. Buttocks massages

This works incredibly well when things are beginning to heat up beyond kissing alone. Women know men have an attraction to the female buttocks and they love it when you pay attention to theirs and show your affection towards it. It makes women feel incredibly sexy, and turns them on greatly, knowing that you are being turned on yourself by their rear.

3. Sex Whispers

This is another highly effective way on how to turn a girl on in seconds. You can literally change the intimate mood from average to highly erotic and stimulating, just by whispering a few words in the girls ear. Girls love to know their physical beauty is being appreciated and is turning you on. Simply whispering something like, "you are so sexy", can turn a girl on in seconds, and heat up your intimacy big time.

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What to Do If You Love Your Guy, But You Haven't Been Able to Reach an Orgasm

By Aaron M

I often get questions regarding some sort of sexually-related frustrations both from couples and singles. For something that should be so pleasurable, there is a lot of anxiety out there surrounding this act. One of the most frequent questions in this regard is from women who are either a) having trouble orgasming with their partner or b) have never orgasmed before. In this article I will address this particular situation, with some insight into why this may be occurring and what can be done about it.

First, I'm not a medical doctor but I am very confident that most, if not virtually all women are capable of having strong, powerful orgasms even if they have NEVER had an orgasm before. There are several key reasons for why you may have trouble climaxing:

1. Mental block (subconscious discomfort with partner)- sex is probably 80% mental. If you have been having sex with your guy for a while, but still have not been able to climax, it may be a sign that you are not mentally with him. You may not have enough trust or comfort with him to feel like you can completely let go and be in the moment. As a result, you may be feeling tense about sex with your partner even though you think that you are completely compatible and in love with him. In my experience, sexual difficulties with a partner is a first sign of mental discord regarding the relationship.

2. Inexperienced partner- this is particularly true if this is one of your first partners and you are relatively inexperienced yourself. Someone who is not familiar with female anatomy, does not know where the g-spot is and does not take his time arousing the woman is not someone who will be able to bring out and develop her sexuality. I wouldn't be surprised if less than 10% of men actually know what they were doing in bed- largely stemming from ignorance and intellectual laziness- which leads to a lot of women going from one relationship to another still completely unaware of how powerful their sexuality can be if unleashed.

3. Hangups from adolescence- often when women find that they cannot even reach climax when they masturbate, that is an indication of some kind of hangup that they have from childhood, either from religious dogma or parents or other authority figures instilling a belief about sex being bad or dirty. If you find yourself in this situation, relax and understand that sex is very natural and healthy. An understanding partner will help you to work through your beliefs and help to build trust and comfort as he helps you to get more in tune with your body and sensations, until your are finally able to reach climax.

I, personally, have had several partners who had either had tremendous difficulty having orgasms or had never been able to do so at all prior to meeting me, and I was able to help them achieve climax, then increase their intensity and volume, until the women became EXTREMELY orgasmic. As a result, I am CONVINCED that difficulties climaxing are a direct result of one of the above three scenarios, and can be easily remedied with the proper mindset and understanding and a loving, patient partner.

As always, being truthful with yourself and having good communication with your partner is the key. Think about whether or not you feel you can truly relax with your partner, and if you can't think about the reasons why. Communicate them with your partner if you feel it is something that can be changed. If you have an inexperienced partner, be patient and try to demonstrate what you need him to do in order for you to reach climax. If you don't know what you like and have never been able to reach climax, ask yourself what kind of beliefs you have had instilled in your childhood, what kind of negative associations do you have with sex? Confronting these demons may be painful at first, but will help you to finally relax and enjoy your sexuality.

Important note: Ladies, never, ever, EVER fake your orgasms with a committed partner. It will only create awful habits. The reasons are many fold:

1. The man will think he is pleasuring you and will never take the time to learn how to be better. As a result he will ignorantly continue to make the same mistakes both with you and other women.

2. You will never get the pleasure you want because you've got the guy thinking he's a champion even though you're not really experiencing as much pleasure as you'd like.

3. Faking orgasms will eliminate the possibility of having open communication with your partner. How are you going to tell your partner you're not getting what you want? Admit that you've been faking your orgasms this whole time? How will that make him feel? Is this the right way to lead a relationship?

Ladies, remember, the correct mindset and open communication is the key. Don't fake your orgasms- honesty will set you free. You, like countless other women are able to climax powerfully, even multiple times. Assess your mindset, eliminate negative beliefs, truthfully evaluate your relationship with your partner, and learn what you enjoy and how to communicate it.

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Women Want More Sex and Better Sex Than They Did 10 Years Ago - Good Sex is Expected Everyday Guys

By Mary Perfela

Women want more and better sex today than ever before. Cultural beliefs and economic equality has lead to more women seeking exactly what they want when it comes to the bedroom. Just under thirty percent of women want sex everyday in today's world, as compared to about sixteen percent in the last decade. And women are getting the quality of sex they want as well. They are finding the right men and reporting that they are satisfied with the sex they are having over sixty percent of the time. But, men are stating that they feel satisfied only fifty percent of the time. This means that women are finding what they want sexually more often than men. Therefore, men better know how to please a women these days or risk being in the fifty percent of unsatisfied men.

The first step in being a good lover is to understand the power of foreplay. Foreplay is a determining factor in whether or not you can bring a women to orgasm, or to multiple orgasms. It has been shown that women who experience twenty or more minutes of intense foreplay are three times as likely to experience an orgasm from vaginal penetration. That is a huge increases in the chances of giving a women an orgasm! If you want to be a noteworthy lover, you best remember this amazingly simple fact. The best foreplay involves some touching under the wrists, the back of the knee, the neck, ears, and stomach. Lightly caress your women's entire body to get her in the mood.

Foreplay is just the beginning of making sure you keep your women satisfied so she doesn't leave you for better. Learn some advanced orgasm secrets to elevate your game men.

How to Tell If Your Woman is Faking an Orgasm - and What to Do Before She Dumps You

By Mary Perfela

Some guys simply can not give their women orgasms. They may not last long enough to properly stimulate her, or they may not want to last long enough to give her a proper orgasm. Whether you can't or you won't, you better change fast before your girlfriend or wife goes elsewhere to satisfy her sexual appetite. Most women won't say a word about the lack of orgasm, especially if they have just started dating someone. The first time they don't get one, they will call their best friend and tell her how she couldn't get off and she needs to find a better man. Then, she will usually have sex with the lousy lover one more time, just to see if he was having a bad day before. If he doesn't please her the second time, then she hits the road, looking for a new guy.

Men need to take action immediately so this never happens to them, and so there are less women out there who aren't experiencing sexual pleasure. Guys, you need to know if a women is faking an orgasm. There are many ways to tell if you are experiencing a fake. One of the best ways to tell is if your women becomes extremely red after the supposed orgasm. If her cheeks are red, and she looks bent out of shape, then she orgasmed. Her clitoris will become extremely sensitive if she climaxed. To find out if she is faking, right after she goes wild with sex noises, take your hand and rub her clitoris like a maniac. If she can't stand the touch and screams in delight, then she had an orgasm.

You need to be a skilled lover so your women will never fake an orgasm and leave you. Learn as many orgasm secrets as you can to satisfy every sex goddess you make love to.