Sex - The Gift For the Guy Who Has Everything

By Kathleen Scarlett-Mancos

A great job, a beautiful woman (You!), nice clothes, a luxurious house, a yacht tied up in the harbor, . . . OK, maybe the yacht is still a fantasy, but it seems to you that your man is the guy who has everything. You love him and he loves you. He is always so thoughtful when your birthday comes and when it is your anniversary. Now, you would like to find him a special present, but the problem is that he won't ever tell you what he really wants. Not only that, but you've already given him all the obvious things on previous special occasions.

So, here's the prefect gift for your special man - SEX! (with you, of course). What better way to say "I love you" and really surprise your man than with a gift of yourself and an invitation to join you for an extended erotic adventure. Wrap up a variety pack of lubricated condoms and tell him you want him to use a different color every night for the next week. Or, give him the non-lubricated variety pack that comes with a selection of flavored lubricants and write him a sexy note inviting him to meet you at a different place and time to try out each flavor.

Did you know that you can get condoms in purple, red, yellow, black, and even special condoms that glow in the dark? And as for lubricants, they come in a tantalizing variety of flavors guaranteed to stir the senses and fire the passions.

Just imagine the smile on your man's face when he unwraps his special gift. Meet his look of surprise with a smile of love all for him. This will be a gift he will remember forever. It is a gift you can enjoy as well. What man wouldn't rather have a month of great sex with the woman he loves than yet another tie, sports shirt, or power tool?

While you are getting creative with your special gift ideas, consider the fun you and your man might have putting the condom variety pack to use with some sexy bedroom furniture that just begs for a creative imagination to put it to great use.

If you're feeling even more frisky, pick out a daring new outfit for yourself, maybe a slinky black cocktail dress or a sexy negligee. Surprise him with how great you look and tell him that part of his gift is that he gets to take it off of you - let him unwrap the best gift of all!

Be creative and use your adventure-loving spirit to liven things up with some of these sexy gift ideas, and a generous supply of condoms and other sexual health products. Then think about what he might decide to give you, the WOMAN who has everything!

The Body - Somatic Body Psychotherapy and Sexual Health

By Erica Goodstone, Ph.D.

As a practicing sexual, relationship and marital therapist for over two decades, I have begun to formulate the following concepts about sexuality and sexual functioning:

Our sexuality it an intrinsic part of our self and our life, not separate from who we are as a man or woman, young or old, attractive or unattractive, healthy or unhealthy.

Our sexual response is a natural bodily function involving a complex feedback loop with the brain, spinal cord, neuromuscular system and pituitary gland. It is designed to function as intended unless interfered with in some way.

Our mind is our major sexual organ with its propensity toward imagination and visualization, anticipation of the future and remembrance of the past as well as its ability to sense and interpret all internal and external stimulation.

The second major sexual organ is our skin along with all of our senses (sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch) but especially our sense of touch.

Healthy sexual functioning involves adequate neural signals from the central nervous system and an optimum balance within the autonomic nervous system, fluctuating between the stress response (activation of the sympathetic nervous system) and the relaxation response (activation of the parasympathetic nervous system).

Sexual arousal (vaginal lubrication and penile erection) is a neuro-vascular event mediated by the autonomic nervous system. Adequate central nervous system stimulation triggers the male erection reflex at spinal cord segments S2, S3, and S4. Adequate parasympathetic stimulation triggers the relaxation of smooth muscles and blood flow within the penis as well as female vaginal tissue engorgement and lubrication.

Orgasm and ejaculation are neuromuscular events. They require adequate central nervous system stimulation to trigger the male ejaculation reflex at multiple spinal cord levels, receptors in the skin of the penis, firing of the pudendal nerve causing compression of the penile urethra and rhythmic smooth muscle contractions and vascular constriction as well as female orgasmic response, a similar but more diffuse response that may be mediated by the vagus nerve.

Sexual desire is a mental-emotional-sensational event which may operate separately from our natural sexual functioning. In other words, our body may be able to perform sexually without our feeling desire or we may feel sexual desire without becoming physically aroused.

As a practicing body psychotherapist, focused on relationship, sexual and body image issues, I have discovered that:

Our body is a hologram, an intricate web of local and distant interconnections.

Our body is composed of energetic, fluid, electrical and chemical responses, all influenced and controlled by our mind.

Our body doesn't lie. It tells the truth if we pay attention and listen.

Bodily symptoms are often metaphors for our mental state, our beliefs or some other aspect of our life needing attention.

Memories and emotions, stored within our bodily tissues, can be evoked through any of our senses, but are often more easily accessed through touch.

Touch is a powerful way to become aware of what our body is doing.

Awareness is the first step on the way to change.

Change is scary. It requires stepping out into the unfamiliar, facing confusion, fear of annihilation, fear of losing control of one s life, and fear of total abandonment.

Release of bodily tension patterns, verbal expression of fears, desires and emotional responses in the presence of a skilled and caring therapist can facilitate change and harness integration of the changes within a newly constructed sense of self.

As a somatic body psychotherapist, I am uniquely trained to facilitate awareness, change and integration within the body-mind system of our clients. How does this relate to sexuality and sexual functioning? As I stated at the very beginning of this article,

Our sexuality is an intrinsic part of our self and our life, not separate from who we are.

If you understand and believe this as a truism, then you can assist any client who presents with a sexual issue, concern or complaint in the same way that you would deal with any other life issue. Listen, pay attention to the client s words and body posturing, observe their breathing and habitual movement patterns, encourage them to describe the verbal and nonverbal communications within their most intimate relationships, explore with them their unique beliefs, fantasies, behaviors and sexual response style. Then assist the client to become aware of bodily response patterns, metaphors and meanings, through your own specific method of body psychotherapy. If you discover you are dealing with some countertransference issues or unresolved sexual concerns of your own, then seek out supervision from a qualified body psychotherapist or nationally/board certified sex therapist.

Dr. Erica Goodstone has helped thousands of men, women, couples, and groups to develop greater awareness of the issues in their relationships and their lives, to overcome and alleviate stressors and discords, and revitalize their relationships and their own mind-body-spirit connection. Dr. Goodstone can be contacted through her web site at http://www.DrEricaWellness.com

The Most Effective Herbal Remedies For Sexual Enhancement For Relationships

By Bernice L

Women might as well realize that there are several herbal remedies for sexual enhancement for their male partners. These actually provide men with better and safer options when it comes to sexual pleasure enhancement.

These are not only safe, but these have been known to deliver optimal results over long periods of time. Herbs have been present for many years, but their potency remains the same even in the modern age of today.

This is specifically important for men who have problems with getting erections, or those experiencing the erectile dysfunction condition.

Web endorsed products on male sexual enhancement are certainly in proliferation, and legitimate products have proven to be effective for an extensive range of clients. If you care to look, you will realize that these enhancement merchandises do have something to offer to the clients.

These products actually contain herbal remedies for sexual enhancement. If your partner faces some challenges in obtaining sexual satisfaction, there are various types of remedies to choose from, like penis medications, topical applications, penis patches and the like.

It is right to expect worthy results from these products, since these have been tried and tested for a long time.

These products and supplements, due to its handy nature and ease of use, are definitely worth looking into. These contain some important herbs necessary for added libido and better erection.

This is why such male enhancement products can be considered to be one of the herbal remedies for sexual enhancement. These products can be used anytime, and since it is placed in a covered area, your partner can make use of it even while doing his regular day-to-day activities.

Most of these male enhancement products serve as stimulation on the penis tissues, to increase blood flow and improve circulation. Moreover, it also encourages an increase in semen production, so that men can experience longer and more satisfying erections.

As an added bonus, the herbal components of these products also offer other health benefits. Its raises the levels of testosterone, aids in better circulation, build-up of skin and muscle tissue, and protects against debilitating diseases such as hypertension and diabetes.

For women on the other hand, quality supplements like Vigorelle and Provestra can provide better sexual libido. HerSolution Pills and HerSolution gel are also highly effective products in assisting in orgasms. Herbal remedies for sexual enhancement are always a better and safer option for partners who want to get the best out of their sexual experience.

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Easy Way to Find G-Spot - Great Love Making Tip to Give Boundless Pleasure to Her

By Waseem Dar

Lovemaking is an art and very few men are adept in this art of making great love to their partner. Many men even don't know how to give her the pleasure she really deserves due to their lack of her body knowledge and also due to the hurry the often show while making love. Remember, better way of making love needs patience and focused movements. If you do this hurriedly, you just waste your time and never send the deepest, and the most intense joy of orgasm.

You can give your partner immense sexual pleasure when you are knowledgeable about how to stimulate her magic buttons which turn her on and she would beg you to do more and more. The main button which makes a woman your real slave is her gspot. If you correctly find it and stimulate it, you will be the winner in the love making game. The gspot is a small spongy tissue which is located right under the pubic bone in her vagina that is in front of the cervix. It goes without saying that your fingernails should be trimmed and your hands clean. Also make sure her vagina is well lubricated before you start, either naturally or with some lubricant. Below is a step by step low down how to locate this magic button to enslave your honey:

Step 1:

Ask your partner to lie on her back and spread her legs apart comfortably.

Step 2:

With your palm facing upward, insert your middle finger into her vagina up to about the first knuckle.

Step 3:

Move your finger around in small circles. Then go in deeper, continuing the circular movements.

Step 4:

Up near the roof of her vagina you should be able to feel a soft, spongy area. Push your finger up against this area firmly.

Step 5:

Ask your partner if she can feel anything. If not, try going deeper or pulling back a bit. You can also adjust the amount of pressure from your finger.

Some men find it hard to locate the G-spot precisely simply because they don't use enough pressure. It's hidden deep inside the vaginal wall, which means a bit of firm pressure is needed to activate it.

And once it's activated, she'll be begging for more!

For more love making tips and positions visit my squidoo lens where I share great love making techniques.

Waseem Dar is a prolific writer who writes about health issues particularly about men's health. His ebook "Erectile Dysfunction No More" is a compendium of highly effective exercises which boost male sexual power to the maximum level without any over the counter drugs involved. If you are interested to know a lot more highly sex boosting exercises, visit his website at http://www.harderectionregained.com

How to Boost Your Sexuality by Using Aroma Oils

By Vladimir Gershfeld

If you've ever wondered how to boost your sexuality naturally, then consider using aroma oils. Aroma oils are natural sexual stimulants which help maintain and boost your libido! Aromatherapy is well known amongst health practitioners and has been used for more than 5000 years.

Aromatherapy essential oils can affect mood, relieve pain, alleviate fatigue, reduce anxiety, promote relaxation, and maintain the libido. It is well known that smells control our mood, emotions, memory and learning. It works whether we realize it or not.

This article lists several aroma recipes you can use to boost your health and sexual performance:

First, prepare a relaxing bath.

Boil a Bay leaf, about half pack, for a 5-10 min

Boil a Chamomile (2-3 table spoons) for about 5 minutes.

Once it's done, pour out both into a bath.

Add a few drops of lavender as well.

Take a bath for about 10-15 minutes. Do this for a few days before bedtime, this will relax you and help you to get rid of stress and negative emotions, which kill your desire and mood for sex.

Note: If you have heart problems, consult with your physician first, before taking the aroma bath.

Here are a couple more herbs you can add to the mix (or take seperately) to increase the effect:

Secret of Venus: It effectively boosts man's desire and libido. Mix 3 drops of each: ylang-ylang oil, rose oil, sandal oil and musky oil. If you do not have one of the ingredients, use the rest ones, they will work!

Night Magic: It wakes sensuality and tenderness of both partners, boosts libido.

The above oils can all be found in any health food store or ordered online. Each oil comes with instructions so you can use them effectively.

Good luck!

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A Strong PC Muscle is the Foundation For Female Ejaculation

By Tony Higgins

The PC muscle is a hammock-shaped muscle, stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone. This muscle e.g., controls your bladder, and when you go to the toilet, you can locate it by stopping the stream of urine. The muscle you feel contracting when you do this is your PC muscle.

You can strengthen it by voluntarily contracting it, over and over again, during activities like driving a car or watching television. Strengthening the PC muscle will give men and women several sexual and health benefits.

A strong PC muscle is the foundation for women who want to experience "female ejaculation". Female ejaculation (a.k.a. squirting or "shejaculation") is a relatively uncommon phenomenon. Women who have experienced an orgasm with ejaculation know that it is a very intense experience, which once experienced, you will like to repeat.

The female ejaculate is produced in the Skene's glands (a.k.a. female prostate). Female ejaculation can be achieved by stimulating the G-spot. Many women confuse the feeling of "being about to ejaculate" with having the urge to urinate, and this can cause difficulties in "letting go." But when you empty your bladder before having sex, you can avoid this confusion, and instead of cramping up, you can just let go.

There is a lot of information about female ejaculation available on the Internet. When you go to a search engine and type "female ejaculation," you can learn all there is to learn about it. What I just want to point out here, is that one thing all women who can ejaculate have in common, is a strong PC muscle. The stronger it is, the better your chances of learning how to ejaculate, and experiencing this special kind of orgasm yourself.

Visit http://www.sex-manuals.com, to download the Ebook: "The Sex Muscle," and learn more about the PC muscle. I ask for a small, voluntary donation, AFTER you have read the Ebook, and you donate ONLY if you are happy with it. If you prefer a paperback version of the book, please visit http://www.lulu.com - "The Sex Muscle" for more information. Ebook or paperback: both options will help you to super-charge your sex life! Tony Higgins

A Strong PC Muscle Increases the Volume and Force of Your Ejaculation

By Tony Higgins

The PC muscle is a hammock-shaped muscle, stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone. This muscle e.g., controls your bladder, and when you go to the toilet, you can locate it by stopping the stream of urine. The muscle you feel contracting when you do this is your PC muscle. You can strengthen it by voluntarily contracting it, over and over again, during activities like driving a car or watching television. Strengthening the PC muscle will give men and women several sexual and health benefits.

Doing PC muscle exercises improves the blood circulation of your genitals, and thus the functioning of your genitals. Every organ needs good circulation to function well. Only with good circulation, oxygen and nutrients are quickly transported to your genitals, and carbon dioxide and metabolic waste products are quickly removed from your genitals.

PC exercises improve the health of your genitals and thereby increase the ejaculate volume and the sperm count. Now depending on what you want from sex, this can be either hardly relevant or very important.

If you want to reproduce, an increased sperm count obviously increases your chances, so then this is good news. And the increased ejaculate volume, that depends on you and your partner's point of view.

Some women love to see huge amounts of ejaculate. Others do not care whether it is much or little. So this is strictly a matter of personal taste. But regardless of your preferences, there are no disadvantages to increased ejaculate volume and increased sperm count, so this is never negative.

Training the PC muscle also influences the force of your ejaculation. During ejaculation the PC muscle contracts, and forces the ejaculate through the urethra. And the stronger your PC muscle, the more forceful this happens, and the farther you shoot your ejaculate.

Training your PC muscle enables you to "shoot like a porn star!" Some women love to see this; they are really fascinated by seeing the sperm flying through the air. For them it is a sure sign that they have satisfied their man, and it gives them a sense of power, that they have "tamed the beast."

There is another reason this may interest you. If you see that, over the years, the force and distance of your ejaculation decreases, it is easy to doubt yourself. You may start to wonder whether your sexual capabilities are slowly decreasing.

But when you train your PC muscle, your doubts will disappear, when you regain your ability to ejaculate forcefully. With dedicated training you can shoot farther then you could when you were a teenager! It is not age that determines the force of your ejaculation or your sexual performance, but the strength of your PC muscle.

Visit http://www.sex-manuals.com/sex-muscle.html to download the Ebook: "The Sex Muscle," and learn more about the PC muscle. I ask for a small, voluntary donation, AFTER you have read the Ebook, and you donate ONLY if you are happy with it. If you prefer a paperback version of the book, please visit lulu.com - "The Sex Muscle" for more information. Ebook or paperback: both options will help you to super-charge your sex life! Tony Higgins

A Strong PC Muscle Gives Men Several Health Advantages

By Tony Higgins

The PC muscle is a hammock-shaped muscle, stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone. This muscle e.g., controls your bladder, and when you go to the toilet, you can locate it by stopping the stream of urine. The muscle you feel contracting when you do this is your PC muscle. You can strengthen it by voluntarily contracting it, over and over again, during activities like driving a car or watching television. Strengthening the PC muscle will give men and women several sexual and health benefits.

A regular PC muscle workout improves the general health of your genitals, by improving the circulation of your genitals. To understand this, you have to understand the importance of good circulation for your health.

Circulation is crucial, because it transports the oxygen and nutrients needed for metabolism to the cells, and it removes the metabolic waste products and carbon dioxide from the cells. The better the circulation, the more efficient this process, and the healthier the cells will be.

PC muscle exercises increase the blood flow to your genitals, thus improving the general health of your genitals. If you combine this exercise with a healthy life-style, you have the best foundation for remaining sexually active your whole life.

One function of the PC muscle is bladder control. When the PC muscle gets weaker, when you get older for example, it becomes more difficult to control your bladder, which can lead to urine incontinence. Training the PC muscle can cure this urine incontinence. People who visit a doctor with urine incontinence often receive instructions to train their PC muscle. Because it works: once the strength of the PC muscle is restored, the bladder control is restored.

But why wait for those problems to start before we start training? When you get into the habit of training your PC muscle, for all the sexual benefits, you will also prevent the development of a weak bladder, regardless of how old you are. If you already have a weak bladder, or experience some "dripping" after you go to the toilet, you will notice that with regular PC workouts these are problems from the past.

Kegel exercises also improve the health of your prostate by increasing the circulation and by massaging your prostate every time you tense and relax your PC muscle. The prostate is an organ that, specifically for older men, can be troublesome. To keep the prostate healthy every man should get into the habit of doing PC muscle exercises.

Besides the improved circulation that PC exercises give to the genitals, there is another mechanism that benefits your prostate. Every time you tense your PC muscle, you put mild pressure on the prostate, and blood is gently squeezed out of the prostate. When you relax the PC muscle again fresh blood fills your prostate. This continual massage that stimulates the prostate's circulation is very beneficial, and will help to keep it healthy.

The PC muscle is one of the pelvic floor muscles. Pelvic floor muscles form, together with your pelvis, a basket-shaped form that supports your intestines. Weakening of the pelvic floor can cause several medical problems, e.g., prolapsed pelvic organs and hemorrhoids. An added benefit of training your PC muscle is that you dramatically lower the chance that these medical problems happen to you, because you keep your pelvic floor fit and strong.

Visit http://www.sex-manuals.com/sex-muscle.html, to download the Ebook: "The Sex Muscle," and learn more about the PC muscle. I ask for a small, voluntary donation, AFTER you have read the Ebook, and you donate ONLY if you are happy with it. If you prefer a paperback version of the book, please visit lulu.com - "The Sex Muscle" for more information. Ebook or paperback: both options will help you to super-charge your sex life! Tony Higgins

A Strong PC Muscle Gives a Woman Control Over Her Vagina Muscles

By Tony Higgins

The PC muscle is a hammock-shaped muscle, stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone. This muscle e.g., controls your bladder, and when you go to the toilet, you can locate it by stopping the stream of urine. The muscle you feel contracting when you do this is your PC muscle. You can strengthen it by voluntarily contracting it, over and over again, during activities like driving a car or watching television. Strengthening the PC muscle will give men and women several sexual and health benefits.

Women can train the vagina muscles with PC muscle exercises. You strengthen the muscles of your vagina, and the stronger they get, the more control you will have. When you tense these muscles during intercourse, they will squeeze the penis of your lover, like a hand that encircles it. You will have a better grip on the man and his penis...:-)

Some women are very skeptical when they hear about muscles in the vagina, and the ability to develop and control them. But think about women with vaginismus. This is a medical condition: a woman with vaginismus involuntarily contracts her PC muscle to close her vagina, when e.g., a man tries to enter her. This condition alone proves that the vagina has muscles. You can learn to develop and control these muscles.

It will take time to build up strength and control, but every woman who does these exercises regularly will be able to develop her vagina muscles. When you are very dedicated to your training, you can develop your strength to the point where you have to be careful not to hurt your lover.

It is a myth that you have to start these exercises in your early youth, to be able to develop control. Every woman who does these exercises, at every age, will improve the strength and control of her vagina muscles. And every improvement you make will increase the sexual satisfaction of you and your partner.

Visit http://www.sex-manuals.com, to download the Ebook: "The Sex Muscle," and learn more about the PC muscle. I ask for a small, voluntary donation, AFTER you have read the Ebook, and you donate ONLY if you are happy with it. If you prefer a paperback version of the book, please visit http://www.lulu.com - "The Sex Muscle" for more information. Ebook or paperback: both options will help you to super-charge your sex life! Tony Higgins

A Strong PC Muscle Can Help You to Improve Your Ejaculation Control

By Tony Higgins

The PC muscle is a hammock-shaped muscle, stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone. This muscle e.g., controls your bladder, and when you go to the toilet, you can locate it by stopping the stream of urine. The muscle you feel contracting when you do this is your PC muscle. You can strengthen it by voluntarily contracting it, over and over again, during activities like driving a car or watching television. Strengthening the PC muscle will give men and women several sexual and health benefits.

One benefit for men is that a strong PC muscle can help you to improve your ejaculation control. You can use your PC muscle as a "brake": by tensing it as hard as you can for about ten seconds during intercourse, you can lower your level of arousal, and postpone ejaculation.

What happens after penetration is that your arousal increases, either slowly or rapidly, depending on the speed of your trusts. If the arousal keeps climbing without control, you will eventually reach the top and ejaculate. If you want to enjoy sex to the full, you will have to learn to stop this increase of arousal, to keep it below the level of ejaculation, until you want to ejaculate.

There are several ways of controlling this increase of arousal. You can slow or stop your movements for a while, you can breathe slower and deeper, or you can tense your PC muscle as hard as you can for about ten seconds.

When you tense your PC muscle, you will notice that your arousal drops, and that you do not have to stop moving, which can be frustrating for your partner. When you use this method of ejaculation control, you will be able to last much longer before you ejaculate.

This is a great method for ejaculation control that will increase the pleasure for both you and your partner. It takes practice, and most men will have to train the PC muscle for about two months before it is strong enough to do this, but it is well worth the effort.

Visit http://www.sex-manuals.com, to download the Ebook: "The Sex Muscle," and learn more about the PC muscle. I ask for a small, voluntary donation, AFTER you have read the Ebook, and you donate ONLY if you are happy with it. If you prefer a paperback version of the book, please visit http://www.lulu.com - "The Sex Muscle" for more information. Ebook or paperback: both options will help you to super-charge your sex life! Tony Higgins

A Stronger PC Muscle Gives Women Stronger Orgasms

By Tony Higgins

The PC muscle is a hammock-shaped muscle, stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone. This muscle e.g., controls your bladder, and when you go to the toilet, you can locate it by stopping the stream of urine. The muscle you feel contracting when you do this is your PC muscle.

You can strengthen it by voluntarily contracting it, over and over again, during activities like driving a car or watching television. Strengthening the PC muscle will give men and women several sexual and health benefits.

One benefit of a stronger PC muscle, is that your orgasms will become stronger as well. During orgasm, your PC muscle quickly and repeatedly contracts. These contractions are for a big part what makes orgasms feel so good. And the stronger your PC muscle becomes, the stronger the contractions, and thus the stronger your orgasms.

Doing PC exercises also increases the blood-flow to your genitals. This does not only improve the health of your genitals, which need good circulation, just like any other organ. It also increases your sexual sensitivity.

You will notice within a month of training that your orgasms become stronger, more intense. This connection between orgasms and the PC muscle becomes also clear, when you realize how pleasant it feels to train your PC muscle. It simply feels good, is a sensual pleasure, to tense and relax the PC muscle.

It is also normal to get aroused during the training, and to start fantasizing about sex. There is nothing wrong with that; you are training your sex muscle! Enjoy your training, and the benefits of your training: the better you train your sex muscle, the stronger your orgasms will become.

Visit http://www.sex-manuals.com, to download the Ebook: "The Sex Muscle," and learn more about the PC muscle. I ask for a small, voluntary donation, AFTER you have read the Ebook, and you donate ONLY if you are happy with it. If you prefer a paperback version of the book, please visit http://www.lulu.com - "The Sex Muscle" for more information. Ebook or paperback: both options will help you to super-charge your sex life! Tony Higgins

Top 10 Sex Don'ts For Couples

By Susan Derry

If you are not getting all the sex you would like, check to see if you are guilty of any of the following "turn-offs." Avoiding some or all of these no-nos could help spice up your love life.

1. Participating in Activities that Leave Either of You Feeling Used or Dirty

What is sexually arousing to one person may be a real turn off to another. Your activities in the bedroom and elsewhere should never leave either of you feeling dirty or used.

2. Letting Work, Parenthood Or Other Stresses Make You Celibate

Let's face it quality time for each other and for lovemaking will not happen without some forethought and commitment. If your relationship is important to you make time for bonding.

3. Expecting Your Partner to Turn You On

Making love to a corpse is not a turn on for most people. Be an active participant and enjoy touching as well as being touched. Take some responsibility for getting yourself excited.

4. Letting Your Appearance Go

Yes your partner should accept you for who you are, but even an old house looks better when it is painted and cared for. Take care of your physical self. Exercise, eat properly, and get enough sleep. A healthy you is a sexy you.

5. Sex Only on Saturday in the Bedroom, in the Dark

Too many prerequisites for sex can dampen the mood and kill spontaneity. Be willing to experiment and expand your sexual repertoire.

6. Questionable Body Odor

Wafting body odor is a huge turn off. Be respectful of your partner, wash before sex. It is also a good idea to shave what needs shaving.

7. Criticism in Bed

Nothing kills the mood faster than criticism about body or technique. Offer compliments not criticism. It is important to talk about what you want in bed, but do it in a positive way. Talk about what you want, not what you don't like.

8. Distractions and Interruptions

Keeping one eye on the television or answering your phone during sex is a definite no-no. Create some uninterrupted time to enjoy each other.

9. Obsessing About Hiding Your Body

Allow your partner to love and accept you as you are. Problems with body image can hamper your love life.

10. Ignoring or Taking Each Other For Granted

Ignoring your relationship is going to have consequences in the bedroom. Pay attention to each other and take time to strengthen your relationship.

Susan Derry, B.Ed., M.S.Psy., R.P.C. Professional Counselor & Life Coach Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking, a sex manual for couples Co-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course Offers a free Nurturing Marriage Ezine

How to Spice Up Your Sex Life With Foods?

By Rajgopal Venkataraman

In ancient times certain food items were thought to have the power of improving the sexual life of an individual, increase the sexual drive and even cure problems of fertility and sexual dysfunction. These food items were identified as aphrodisiac foods. From delicious delicacies to entice the lover to fooling around with juicy succulent fruits during the act of love, food can play an important role in spicing up your sex life. However what's surprising is the fact that you don't have to go hunting for some exotic and expensive fruits or spices to get your aphrodisiacs. Look into your vegetable basket or grocery shelf at home and you will find a great variety of foodstuffs that can spice up your sex life.

1. Cloves: Cloves are great natural aphrodisiacs and also improve mental and physical fatigue. If your partner complains of fatigue when you are in the mood for sex just feed him or her some cloves.

2. Ginger: Not only does it add flavor to dishes but also Ginger is good to excite your senses. Ginger in reasonable doses can cause healthy hot flashes.

3. Garlic: Garlic?? Hardly a turn-on especially when one's mouth smells of this pungent bulb. However garlic stirs sexual desires wildly. What's that saying? To gain something you have to lose something. So forget the smell of garlic turning you off.

4. Tomatoes: Tomatoes symbolize Venus and Aphrodite and paired with basil and mint, tomatoes create a lot of heat and passion.

5. Coriander: Coriander can not only spice up your curries but also your sex life. Dried coriander seeds have an euphoric effect especially on women.

6. Onions: In ancient India widows were prohibited from using onions and garlic as they kindle your sexual urges. In France newlyweds are fed onion soup to restore and boost sexual energy.

7. Horseradish: The pulp of this vegetable has natural aphrodisiac properties.

8. Carrots: Apart from their physical resemblance to the male organ carrots are a powerful sexual stimulant for men. In ancient Middle Eastern culture carrots were used to aid seduction.

9. Bananas: The banana flower with its phallic shape is partially responsible for its popularity as an aphrodisiac food. Banana is also rich in potassium and vitamin B which are a necessity for sex hormone production.

10. Grapes: This is one fruit which has often figured as food of love. Pictures of lovers teasing and feeding each other with grapes are quite common. But now we know why. Related to Dionysus, wine and fertility, grapes have long been considered the food of Gods.

11. Saffron: Saffron has stimulating effects on the erogenous zones. Studies have proven that saffron has the same effect as hormones.

Scented candles, massage oils and caviar are always a welcome treat but for the not-so-special occasions you can give always peep into your refrigerator or your vegetable basket for some help.

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How to Arouse Your Senses and Have Great Sex

By Rajgopal Venkataraman

The sexual act is just not a mundane expression of a man and woman's union. There is a lot of background activities involving our 5 senses and if one is able to please the senses to the hilt then the sexual act and its completion can be more rewarding. Here are some great tips to get your senses aroused like a radar for great sex.

SIGHT:
1. Move in front of the mirror and get front-row seats for the action!
2. Make eye contact with your partner. Closing eyes during love-making is a bad habit and can plant seeds of suspicion in the partner that you are imagining someone else.
3. Watch porn together if your partner does not object. Never expect your partner to perform like the stars though and do not overdo it.
4. Lights should be soft and filtered.
5. Use the warm glow of candles for special effects.
6. Take turns doing a strip-tease for a romantic number.

SMELL:
1. Pheromones, the perfume of sexual attraction can be a great turn-on if your partner is comfortable with it but do not overdo it.
2. Rose petals scattered on the bed or a sensual bath in a bathtub filled with them can be a great turn-on.
3. Wipe gently your lightbulbs with perfumed oil and they send calming or sensual scents around the bedroom.
4. Sprinkle scented dusting powder on the bedsheets.
5. Slightly menthol scented hygiene washes can be used to wash your body for that fresh tingly smell.
6. Use mint or a mouth-freshener before kissing your partner.

TASTE:
1. Chocolate sauce, strawberries, grapes or whipped cream will help you explore the world of sexy tastes.
2. Flavored warming massage oils come in multiple flavors like strawberry, cherry and banana. These sexy oils not only create heat and lubrication, they taste good, too!
3. Hand-feed each other fruits with peculiar textures like pomogranate and lychees for a truly gratifying effect.
4. Drink champagne from sexy champagne glasses, caress the long stem and lick each other's lips.
5. Edible underwear in different flavors can also be experimented with.

SOUND:
1. Give your partner some auditory arousal with hot compliments. Do dirty talk and tell each other what you would like to do to them.
2. Play a slow, romantic CD. Moan when your partner hits the right spots during the act.
3. Read erotic stories aloud to each other.
4. Make sure your bed does not make squeaky sounds.
5. Shut out distracting noises like street sounds and television sounds by taking appropriate measures.

TOUCH:
1. Keep your room at the right temperature and adjust as the session becomes more steamy!
2. Make sure the mattress is comfortable and cover your mattresses with silky/satin bedspreads.
3. Arrange some lightweight, soft pillows on the bed and they can come handy while experimenting various positions.
4. Stroke each other's hair and to further arouse this, give each other a back massage. Use feather, flowers, and petals to stroke the body and send shivers down the spine.
5. Hold an ice cube in your palms and as it melts let it drip on your partner's abdomen or chest.
6. Trigger the nerves that connect the genitals with a foot massage.
7. Lick each others trigger zones and breathe on the neck and ears.

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How to Know If She is Satisfied With Your Performance in Bed - This is Something Every Man Must Know

By Pushpa Pal Singh

So what is the reason why women fake orgasms? The reason why women fake orgasms is simply due to the fact that their partner is not able to satisfy them in bed. You see women are not too open when it comes to the matter of telling their partner whether he is good or bad in bed. This is the major reason why you must know this before it's too late. Read on to discover some of the most effective ways you can use to know whether she is satisfied with you in bed or not...

She wants to have sex more often- When the girl is really enjoying having sex with you she would be willing to have it more and more often. At the same time her interest levels and enthusiasm will go up to stunning extents. You see this happens when she has a compatible partner who understands her needs.

She screams with absolute pleasure every single time- This is another way to know whether she really likes your performance in bed or not. If she screams and moans constantly with pure pleasure then it's more than obvious that she is having a great time with you in bed and is truly enjoying herself.

She tells you that you are good- She will never tell you that you are good out of the blue unless she really means it. Therefore if your partner tells you that she really liked it and enjoys your company then it's quite obvious that you are doing all the right things and she is having a great time with you.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know. This is something you can't afford to miss at any cost click here- Tell Me The Secrets

How to Be Good in Bed - Give Her the Magical Experience That Would Make Her Scream With Pleasure

By Pushpa Pal Singh

Well you don't come to this world with sexual skills and yes you do learn it with time, experience and practice. But you see you don't have to use the old hit and trial to really get somewhere when it comes to sex. By taking tips from professional you will be able to get astonishing results. There are some secret underground ways using which you will make any woman blast into a screaming orgasm. Read on to discover what these ways are and achieve startling results...

Focus of her first- A lot of guys out there try to pleasure themselves more than they try to pleasure the girl. You see in order to be good in bed you must shift your focus from yourself to the girl. When you spend the most amount of your time in trying to pleasure her she would do the same towards you and both of you will have a great experience in bed.

Always try something new- Always have the element of surprise where you should give her something she wouldn't expect but would absolutely love it. Doing the same routines every single time makes sex boring and worthless. The passion can only last so long and after a while you don't even feel like having it anymore. Therefore always make sure that you try something new every time.

Let her know that she makes you feel good- Now this is the most important part of truly satisfying her. You see not only do you have to physically satisfy her but emotionally as well therefore telling her that she makes you feel so good will triple the passion and she would love the whole experience.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know. This is something you can't afford to miss at any cost click here- Tell Me The Secrets

Problems in Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting With M

By Levi Reiss

Whether heterosexual, homosexual, or somewhere in the middle we all want to improve our sex life. Who wants to be alone? We can't offer you an article, magic pill, perfume, potion, or pick-up line that will automatically send you and your intended partner to the bedroom. However, I really do believe that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are. We present a double series of articles for the letter M.

This article focuses on the problems and pitfalls that prevent you from improving your sex life. Another series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help you get what you want. Here we examine macho and malice.

M is for macho. Guys, wake up. In many circles being macho just doesn't make it anymore. What might have flown once in the fairly distant past just shows how out of touch and how unlikely to touch you are. Being macho doesn't only mean strutting your stuff. It's a whole attitude; one that often includes attitude. Story time. This one actually dates several decades back. Hopefully it would occur less frequently today. A very attractive friend of a friend who never became that kind of friend was an excellent cross-country skier. When guys would date her they never stopped to ask any questions. They carefully told her in simple terms how to put on her skis and which wax to use. She would then proceed to ski circles around them. There were no second dates. Couldn't these macho geniuses at least imaged guessed that someone else would have already shown her the basics of cross-country skiing? Is there a female equivalent to macho? Undoubtedly.

M is for malice. Don't be malicious when something goes seriously wrong in your relationship. In fact don't be malicious even before something goes seriously wrong in your relationship. If worst comes to worst just walk away. Obviously we are not talking about marriage and children. Then you have to get your act together, while you are in the process of getting your acts apart. Generations ago people were told that they had to make it work somehow. The line was: Do everything possible to stay together, even if you hate each other. Sometimes it worked, sometimes people managed to patch up their differences and put it back together. Sometimes. But in far too many cases being prisoners together was a simple recipe for maliciousness. This way of doing things was supposed to protect the weaker sex. It didn't. Wouldn't it be nice if you could take a little maliciousness test before getting involved head over heels and heels over heads with that special someone? There isn't. What luck, bad luck for the victims and good luck for the jerks. Of course the truly malicious would manage to cheat their way through the test. And some poor souls who aren't the least bit malicious would somehow manage to fail it.

Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com - You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com

Problems in Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Continuing With M

By Levi Reiss

Whether heterosexual, homosexual, or somewhere in the middle we all want to improve our sex life. Who wants to be alone? We can't offer you an article, magic pill, perfume, potion, or pick-up line that will automatically send you and your intended partner to the bedroom. However, I really do believe that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are. We present a double series of articles for the letter M.

This article focuses on the problems and pitfalls that prevent you from improving your sex life. Another series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help you get what you want. Here we examine malnutrition, megalomania, and miser.

M is for malnutrition. This subject is no laughing matter. Thousands of young women are literally starving themselves for beauty (read sex object) reasons. This is a real tragedy and must be stopped. Clearly there is no easy solution. Some countries have banned severely underweight models and all I can say is good for them. Our daughter has an attractive friend an excellent cook who goes around making speeches on campuses against anorexia. She should know; she was there. It is terrible to think of all the women who are pushed into prostitution to put food on their family's table. One of the key ideas of the sexual revolution was to enjoy some of the best life has to offer without victimization. It hasn't worked.

M is for megalomania. There is a danger if you go to bed wearing a Napoleon costume. Don't get carried away or they may have to carry you away. This goes for you too, Carrie. I'm not going to name any names but they say a lot of dictators are real duds in the sack. On the other hand, some dictators have voracious sexual appetites. Now a voracious sexual appetite may mask being a dud in bed, but that isn't always the case. Dictators get what they want, at least while the going is good. And megalomaniacs can be like little, little dictators with no one to dictate to except for their unfortunate partners. What happens when two megalomaniacs get together? It looks like a power struggle to me. And sex is only a small part of the mix.

M is for miser. Squeeze your partner, not your pennies or nickels. Hold onto your partner, not onto those bills in your wallet. You don't have to throw your money around Diamond Jim Brady but remember money was made for spending. If you can't afford a restaurant, make something special at home. And it doesn't always have to be a Jello surprise. If you're on a beer budget try one of those imported beers once in a while. I'm not allowed to name names. Or go for a local beer from a tiny brewery. They will have to charge you more than the giants (I'm not allowed to name names) but believe me, it can be worth it. And I'm not even talking about the fringe benefits; I'm talking about the beer.

Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com - You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com

Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting With M

By Levi Reiss

Do you want to improve your sex life? It seems that most people do, whether they are heterosexuals, homosexuals, or somewhere in between. If you are like most of us, you want more sex and you want better sex, and you want it now. Don't believe that there is a magic pick-up line, pill, potion, or perfume that will make it happen immediately, if not sooner. But we do believe that our articles can make a major difference in your sex life, and even in your love life, if that's what you want. Why not give them a try?

We have so many suggestions for improving your sex life that we are putting together an alphabetical list of what to do. Just so you don't miss out, we are also putting together an alphabetical list of what not to do. Don't waste all your time, effort, perhaps money, and perhaps love by putting your foot in your mouth when what you really want; we all know what you really want. We present a double series of articles for the letter M. The focus here is on magic, massage, and matter.

M is for magic. Sex can be magic. Someone is always putting something into or taking something out of a box. It didn't really disappear. At least let's hope not. Those little bunnies are nice and furry. But don't ever, ever try to saw a lady in half. In spite of the continued progress of women I have yet to see a female magician who saws her male assistant in half. Maybe I don't go to enough magic shows. I'd like to mention one more difference between sex and magic. (I am sure that you can make your own list). With sex there's no Poof. Or maybe for you there is and I've just been missing something over the years.

M is for massage. I'm not talking about those gritty so-called massage parlors in which a so-called masseuse gives you a so-called massage for two minutes before starting the action. Learn how to give your partner a massage and integrate this activity into your lovemaking. This won't be the same as a "real" massage given by a professional masseur or masseuse but it still can be great. Once you get in the habit you'll want both types of massage. One more bit of advice: Save the massage table for massages.

M is for matter. Can you guess how I'm going to start this bit? Size matters. On the other hand, (let's hope that doesn't mean what it might mean) I remember an experienced friend who always said, "It's not how big he is, it's how mad he gets." We do not authorize any drugs or equipment that purport to increase size. I can understand that many women choose to have breast-reduction surgery, especially for medical or comfort reasons. But I have never heard of guys undergoing or even contemplating penis-reduction surgery. I suppose it could be part of his why-tonight-instead-of-waiting-until-we-know-each-other-better argument. In answer to Maureen's question, "Why the rush," Matthew could answer "Because next week I'm undergoing penis reduction surgery." Good luck on that answer, Matt. And good luck on the surgery.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com - You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com

Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Continuing With M

By Levi Reiss

Do you want to improve your sex life? It seems that most people do, whether they are heterosexuals, homosexuals, or somewhere in between. If you are like most of us, you want more sex and you want better sex, and you want it now. Don't believe that there is a magic pick-up line, pill, potion, or perfume that will make it happen immediately, if not sooner. But we do believe that our articles can make a major difference in your sex life, and even in your love life, if that's what you want. Why not give them a try?

We have so many suggestions for improving your sex life that we are putting together an alphabetical list of what to do. Just so you don't miss out, we are also putting together an alphabetical list of what not to do. Don't waste all your time, effort, perhaps money, and perhaps love by putting your foot in your mouth when what you really want; we all know what you really want. We present a double series of articles for the letter M. The focus here is on make-believe, moment, and mystery.

M is for make-believe. Have some fun in the sack. It's not all work and it's not all "reality." You're allowed to fantasize. I'm talking like costumes and accents. Why not pretend you're Marie-Antoinette and Napoleon? Just make sure there are no guillotines in the house. It's less dangerous to pretend you're Napoleon and Marie-Antoinette (see how fast roles can change) than to pretend you're Marie-Alice and Ned, a couple who you have met recently. Unless you have no conception of history how can you be jealous of someone who has been dead some two hundred years? But when it's people you actually know playing make-believe can let the cat out of the bag. And once out, it can be hard to make that cat get back in the bag. Believe me.

M is for moment. When the time comes be ready. That certain smile may signal a rare even once-in-a-lifetime (for the two of you) moment. Well maybe twice in an afternoon. Guys, I know it can be difficult. You don't want to be turned into a sex object and besides you have a headache. Remember as Tom Lehrer once sang ostensibly about Boy Scouts: Don't be nervous, don't be flustered, don't be scared. Be prepared. And remember a condom's shelf life is longer than it's wallet life.

M is for mystery. Some say that sex is one of the great mysteries of life. How does it happen? Why doesn't it happen more often? Why can't men be more like women? Why can't women be more like men, take Samantha (from SATC) for example. Be a bit mysterious. You don't have to tell the story of your life the first time you meet. Or even the tenth time you meet. Make sure there is something of you left to discover. And I'm not only talking about the birthmark inside your thigh, but that's fun too. One more thing: Who kept the toilet seat up is usually not a mystery. Unless you're dating a woman with several sons.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com - You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com

Advanced Masturbation Tips For Men and Women

By Knut Holt

Masturbation can be much more than just a method of getting a quick orgasm. It can be a long lasting and intensely pleasurable experience, if you do it the right way. You can have a great masturbation experience alone, together with your wife or together with a friend. You can also mutually masturbate each other. Here are some tips you can use to get as high an experience as possible.

- Set apart some good time for your masturbation. Also do it in a warm and comfortable place. Tune the light in the room to a relaxing and pleasurable level, but do not let it be totally dark.

- Sit down in a relaxed manner some minutes to stress down. Listen to some relaxing music or look at some erotic pictures. A cup of coffee or tea at this point can help you stress down and at the same time help arouse your sexual excitement.

- Then gently take off all your clothes one by one in the same relaxed mood. Begin taking off your shirt, then your pants, then your undershirt, and at last strip yourself completely naked by pulling off your underpants.

- Then lay or sit down completely naked in a relaxed position. You can also choose to sit down at first in a chair, and later on during your masturbation you can lay yourself comfortably down on the bed or some other good place.

- Begin your masturbation by caressing several of your sensual body parts, like your breast and breast nipples, the area under your shoulders, your stomach area, your buttocks and your thighs. Then gently approach your more intimate zones with caressing movements.

- Then begin caressing and stimulating your genitals or your rectal zones. Spread opens your closed areas to get to the most intimate points in your body by your fingers. But still do it all in a relaxed manner without the aim of reaching the orgasm.

-You will by now feel an intense pleasure in your intimate zones that radiate up into your stomach, down into your thighs and up along your spinal column.

- Take from time to time your hands away from your intimate zones to caress other body parts. When doing so you can also stretch out your body in several ways. By stretching your limbs and at the same time caressing your body, you stimulate a lot of erotic points around in your body that add to the intensity and deepness of your total experience.

- Eventually the time has come to stimulate your intimate points more strongly. Now intensely masturbate your most sensual points so that you nearly reach the orgasm. Just before the orgasm is about to occur, you stop the stimulation and relax completely some moments. You can repeat this action many times. With some training you can even stimulate yourself so that you get a little orgasm that do not take away your arousal.

- By now you may have reached a mental and physical sexual ecstasy of an incredible intensity that comprises your whole body and mind.

- Eventually the time has come to complete the experience with a big orgasm. Just stimulate your sexual organs strongly and continually until you reach your full climax.

- But after your climax you will still experience a wonderful thing. Even though you feel completely satisfied and relaxed, you still feel that intense sexual ecstasy in your intimate zones, the rest of your body and your mind, and you can lay for a long time completely relaxed and enjoy these wonderful feelings.

- After laying some time in that relaxed mode, you may however sometimes experience the rise of a new full arousal and feel the urge to masturbate for a new total climax. Then do so. After a second or a third full climax you will feel an even still deeper satisfaction. You will probably also feel very tired, but in a very good way.

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The G Spot, How to Send Her Over the Edge

By John Phillips

Does the mythical G spot exist? Ask any satisfied woman that has experienced the kind of deep orgasm that they say the G spot gives them, and you will get a resounding Yes!

First of all, the name. G spot? What is that? The G spot is named for Ernst Grafenberg, the German physician that described it for the first time in 1950.

The G spot is located on the outer wall of the vagina, about one and a half to two inches up. It's about halfway between the pubic bone and the cervix. The G spot can be described as a spongy bean that swells to about the size of a half dollar when stimulated.

Normally a womans orgasm is thought to come mainly from the stimulation of the clitoris. But many women describe a second type of orgasm, deeper and more intense than a clitoral orgasm alone. This deeper, more intense orgasm is thought to come from stimulation of the G spot.

You can help your partner reach this deeper orgasm by starting to notice and sensing differences within her vagina. During clitoral stimulation, you may feel some rhythmic clenching of the vaginal walls. By switching to stimulating the G spot, in a way that is comfortable to her, you may start to feel a different kind of contraction, deeper within the uterus and deep pelvic muscles. Now by alternating back and forth between the G spot and the clitoris in a rhythmic pattern, again in a way that is comfortable for her, you can help produce contractions and orgasms that are both vaginal and uterine.

Although this may take some practice at first, (but who's complaining?) the payoffs for your partner, and you can be enormous. Women who have experienced this type of orgasm report that they are just below the point of having an orgasm for 24 hours!

John Phillips is owner of http://www.500lovemakingtips.smmsite.com For a free book containing tips and ideas on keeping romance alive in your marriage or relationship, go to: 101 Romantic Ideas

Spice Up Your Love Life With Sexual Fantasies

By John Phillips

Face it, we all have sexual fantasies. Some of these fantasies may be considered more "normal" than others. But really who's to say what's normal anyway? If you have a sexual fantasy that you want to experience, the best way to do so is to suggest it to a partner that you completely trust. Don't force your fantasy on a person that may not be open to it. Living out any fantasy starts with developing a very strong sense of trust.

If your partner is open to your suggestion, go slowly. Make sure you establish in advance that is either of you gets uncomfortable, you'll stop immediately.

Common fantasies for men include the much ballyhooed "two women at one time", and being "taken" by a powerful woman. Women's fantasies include making love to a total stranger, and being taken by a strong man.

There is nothing wrong with playing out fantasies, just as long as both participants are in total agreement on the ground rules, and that no one will get hurt either physically or mentally.

Properly set up fantasies and role playing can be just the thing to spice up a dull or sinking love life. Many couples report that being able to discuss and actively talk about fantasies that either person may have, and to agree on perhaps trying out a wild fantasy has saved their love life, and made it stronger.

If you and your partner have decided to try a fantasy, you may want to look online for costumes or toys that will help the fantasy come to life with much more realism. Nurses outfits, padded handcuffs, French maid outfits, and other costumes are readily available on numerous sites online.

John Phillips is owner of http://www.500lovemakingtips.smmsite.com For a free book containing tips and ideas on keeping romance alive in your marriage or relationship, go to: 101 Romantic Ideas

Why is Sex Not an Olympic Sport?

By Jet Ambrosio

Beijing 2008. Unarguably the greatest exhibition of spirit and skill by the human race; an event that will forever be stamped in the billions of souls who are witnesses to it. Not only is it an awesome 'coming out party' of a world superpower, it is a grand showcase of our species' achievements, not only in Sports & Sport Science, but also in Engineering, Technology, Business, Public Policy and Foreign Affairs.

At the heart of it all is the tenacious athlete, a finely tuned machine on mission for a nation's glory.

Records have been set. . .and broken, even on the same day! All this as the human body visibly gets stronger, faster and higher. It can only be expected that more inconceivable records will be set and broken in the coming years. (Well, perhaps Phelps can rest on his swimming laurels for a while.)

But SEX is a different ballgame altogether. It's an Art, not a Sport. While Olympic athletes busy themselves with clocking faster times, lifting heavier weights, executing maneuvers with the highest degree of difficulty, sex has nothing of the sort.

But unfortunately, most guys come to Sex with an Olympic mindset; it's been so ingrained that they don't even notice it. This is a real tragedy because sex is not about "faster, stronger, higher".

Here are some of the most pervasive sexual fallacies that reflects an Olympic approach to sex. Perhaps I will write about them more fully in the coming days, but here they are very briefly:

Guys think that the bigger their genitals are, the better it is for the woman. As if there's some ranking where the most well-endowed men are considered the best lovers. You already know that this is nowhere near truth, for one cannot objectively evaluate size, without also considering, among other things, HER size and your technique.

Another example. Many guys have come to believe the musings of porn and think that the faster and harder they are at sex, the better it is for the woman. As if faster and harder is the road to glory. Again, this is not true! Sometimes, gold is found in slower and gentler affairs. Besides, a woman might be moaning, not out of pleasure, but out of pain. There's a huge difference!

Last example. Ever since men read the memo that women want more foreplay and want sex to last longer, they have interpreted this with an Olympic color - thinking that the longer the foreplay or sex lasts, the better it is.

That's a fallacy. For foreplay is sometimes not even required. And sometimes, long-lasting sex not only gets boring but very irritating, resulting to a numb woman eager to get some sleep.

I always tell my clients that the way to successfully sidestep these woes is by taking to heart one very important thing - the concept of CALIBRATION. This is the 8^th item in the Profile of the Great Lover.

It's one of the most important thing to learn when it comes to something so preference-heavy like sex. Like I always say, "Some like it hot, some like it cold, but everybody likes it 'JUST RIGHT'." Different people have personal preferences and therefore subtly differing expectations as to what great sex is.

(But this is not necessarily mean gunning to be smack right in the middle of two extremes. It's getting to the optimum point - wherever that lies for a particular woman and situation.)

Sex is a high art. The Great Lover is flexible enough to respond to different partners and sexual situations. He can morph from a savage beast to a gentle lover, vice versa, and everything in between. He knows when to go at it fast & furious, and when to pull back and tease. He refuses to be boxed by rigid sexual patterns or a one-size-fits-all approach to intimacy. He is a seasoned barista who can concoct creations for any sexual situation.

CALIBRATION. Sex is not a one speed, one size, one step affair. Bigger is not necessarily better. Faster is not necessarily better. Longer is not necessarily better.

The Great Lover, he knows how to play the cards right.

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To Talk Dirty You Need to Build Your Vocabulary

By Denise Bergeron

If you are looking to start talking dirty then one of the things you will need to do is build up a vocabulary of words and dirty talk phrases to use. If you have used all the naughty things you can think of while in bed and are running out of new dirty things to say to you boyfriend or partner then I'll give you some advice.

A good place to find new dirty talk words and phrases is the old standby adult movies. Adult movies have both dirty talk and dirty actions and you can take dialogue from both of them to use.

Besides adult movies hot and steaming rated R or NC-17 love movies can be good as well. These might actually have more lines in them then a straight up "adult movie". If you can't think of the last movie that made you hot and bothered just go to your local video store and ask them to recommend something that is truly steamy.

While watching these movies if you see a particular hot scene you should pause the movie and try to repeat what they said in you most dirty voice. This will help you get comfortable in talking dirty and will also reinforce the scene and words in your mind so you can use them at a later time. The three top movies I tell my clients to get are The English Patient, Basic Instinct, An Affair of Love (Une Liasion Pornographique) and The Big Easy. And decent video store should have one or two of them.

So there you have it, dirty talk vocabulary can be taken from all over but one of the best places to get it is good old fashion movies.

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Dirty Talk - What to Say

By Denise Bergeron

Dirty talk does not have to be trash talk like something you would hear in a porno film. If you are looking to start talking dirty then we have a couple tips for you.

First remember that one of the best ways to dirty talk is to ask for what you want. Instead of just moaning and grunting in bed you should tell your man simple things like "faster," "harder," or "deeper." This will vocally allow him to know what you like and how you like it without saying too much and saving yourself some uncomfortable moments.

Once you are comfortable practicing the above dirty talking then you can move to the next step which is to add some praise into it somewhere along the line. So an example of this would be "Oh, yes! Right There That Is the Spot, Do It Faster" this simple phrase is naughty but not to the level you would hear in a porno. If said in your most sultry voice it will be very sexy and your dirty talk will be pleasure to his ears.

To talk dirty you don't need a trash mouth and as a matter of fact if you say the wrong things just to blurt it out it might just ruin the moment. Think before you say something dirty and always be sure the time is right to say it. Talking dirty can be fun and is one of the best things you can do to spice up your love life. Do it right and your man will be asking you to talk dirty every time you hit the sheets.

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Adult Role Playing and Dirty Talk

By Denise Bergeron

The most common bedroom fun that brings on the dirty talk is good old-fashioned adult role playing. You know what I mean - it's hard not to get into character when you're supposed to be a French maid, a buxom nurse, or a wicked dominatrix. The words usually come as easily as your body slips into that costume.

But what if it's a completely new situation and you've never engaged in role playing before? Boy, are you in for the sexy discovery of your lifetime!

Adult Role playing is exactly what it sounds like - you are playing a role. When you take that into the bedroom, it's meant to appeal to a fetish of some kind, such as a man who loves the idea of Nurse Goodbody getting him off while she gives him that sponge bath, or the maid giving him a bit more than he bargained for when it comes to "cleaning house."

When you're in the character, it's important that your language reflects it. For instance, if you're dressed as a nurse, think about what a nurse might say about body parts and keep the scene as realistic as you can. If you're going to be playing the part of the nurse or the doctor, get clinical about your terms!

If you're the maid, perhaps pretending you really are French is a good start. Learn a few handy phrases in French, along the lines of "What would you like me to clean?" or "What do you want me to do?" will work. Put on a thick French accent when you do speak in a language your partner understands. No matter what, stay in character!

You can play anything at all. The prostitute ("It's another fifty if you want me to do that"), the dominatrix ("Get down on your knees, NOW), or even the flight attendant ("Just lay back, sir...") can spice up the bedroom with both your dirty ideas and your dirty words.
Keep in mind what role you're playing, dress the part, and finish it off by speaking the part, too!

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Is She Faking an Orgasm? - 3 Things to Note and Catch Her Red-Handed

By Crid Lee

Many women tend to fake orgasms when their men cannot satisfy them in bed. Sometimes, it can be really devastating for you if your girl tends to consistently fake orgasms in bed. This means that you cannot satisfy her during lovemaking. In order not to disappoint their men, some women fake orgasms during lovemaking and make their men assume that they are performing well in bed.

However, if she is faking orgasm, there is nothing for you to be happy about. You need to find out fast so that you can try to perform better and satisfy her. So how can you know if she is faking an orgasm? Read on to discover the secrets.

1. She is not tired at all. Having an orgasm requires a lot of energy and physical effort from your girl. This will usually make her seem worn out. Therefore if she does not seem worn out at all, it is a good chance that she is faking it.

2. Her breathing is normal. When a woman is about to experience an orgasm, she will tend to breathe heavily due to the level of excitement and intensity. So if your girl is breathing normally and tells you that she has an orgasm, then she is most probably faking it.

3. She does not seem to be emotional after you are done. When a woman has experienced a real orgasm, she would show a lot of emotion and tend to embrace you tightly. Normally, if she is faking an orgasm, she will get on with her own things immediately after lovemaking. This shows that she is not affected by the intensity of a real orgasm at all and has faked it.

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3 Ways to Make Her Orgasm Real Quick - Something That Every Man Cannot Afford to Miss

By Crid Lee

The best feeling that a man can get during sex is to see his girl satisfied to a mind-blowing orgasm. During lovemaking, girls take longer time to orgasm when compared to men. Therefore, sometimes you will tend to reach climax faster than your girl and leave her unsatisfied from the lovemaking session. To really pleasure your girl in bed, you need to know how to make her orgasm quicker than you.

Now, let me share with you some tips to make your girl orgasm extremely fast:

1. Stimulate her mind first. The first thing that you need to do is to get her mentally turned on. Start talking about it and increase the sexual desire and anticipation inside her. Most guys seem too eager to get physical with their girls without putting in the effort to get emotional with them.

2. Satisfy her sexual fantasy. You need to get her to share with you her most sensual fantasy and ask her the wildest thing that she wants to do during sex. Once she has shared with you her fantasies, you need to try your best to fulfill them for her. If you can fulfill the fantasy that she always crave so strongly for, there is no way that she cannot experience a mind-blowing orgasm before you.

3. Engage in prolonged foreplay. Now, it is the time to get physical with her. A girl can achieve multiple orgasms during foreplay alone and you should always take advantage of this. Stimulate every erogenous zone of hers and arouse her as much as possible.

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Tips For Great Sex

By Chess McDoogle

Improving your sex skills is the best way to make yourself a better lover. Someone whom your partner will want to become intimate with again and again. Here are tips for great sex:

1. Work on your foreplay.

This is a very important aspect to great sex. Think of it as warming up an engine in a car. Your car can run phenomenal when it's warmed up properly. But if you try to start it and just take off, the chances of it stuttering along and even stalling out are much greater. Simply put, foreplay is a precursor to amazing sex.

2. Vary up your positions.

Being a one dimensional lover is incredibly boring. Just performing one position, the same position, over and over is predictable and not very exciting. Yet surprisingly that is how most couples practice their sex intimacy, and in turn end up with a monotonous sex life. Instead, just switch up your positions during sex. It makes for longer sex, and a much more exciting sexual experience.

3. Show your lover something new.

Probably the best tips for great sex to heighten sexual intimacy, is to surprise your partner with a new erotic trick or technique. Variety is the absolute key to an exciting and erotic sex life. There are many pleasurable techniques that most people never use during intimacy. Simply by applying one new technique a week, while "recycling" the one's that you find work the best, can lead to an amazing sex life which will never fall prey to becoming stale or boring.

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Great Sex - What My Father Didn't Teach Me

By Bruce Dennison Scott

Life at times is so funny. I'm 28 years old and am still learning about women or should I say, I'm learning about my woman. I guess you could say that I was some what of a nerd. In high school, I liked reading and computers. I played a couple of sports, but wasn't much of a jock. I was ignored by the most popular hot chicks, but somehow I managed to be noticed by other girls. Mainly the ones that didn't care what others thought of them. I think this is where I grew fond of women who speak their own minds and aren't afraid of going after what they want and doing what they love.

I can remember when I was 17 and my dad caught me masturbating in the shower. He sat me down and talked to me about girls and how to protect myself. Not just from diseases, but also from becoming a father before it was time. He didn't really teach me anything about technique or how to really satisfy a woman. Why don't fathers think that's important? Well, I guess they just want to discuss the basics and be done with it. But this left me with wonder. I would go to the public library and read books on the art of lovemaking, how to please a woman in bed, and just about anything that would help me with technique. Needless to say, this left me wanting to bed every girl who'd let me. Now, I was no dog, but a guy does have an ego and when he learns something that he thinks will have a woman screaming his name, then he wants to try it out.

After high school, I attended a junior community college to study radiology. I dated a couple of ladies at the college and actually lost my virginity while there. The first time I hear, is usually awkward, well, it wasn't like that for me. The first girl I had sex with was two years older than me and it seemed as if she'd spent a lot of time with other guys. She knew her way around the bedroom. But boy was she surprised to learn that she was my first. She showed me some things that I've never forgotten. And I showed her some things that she would not soon forget. She would arrange for us to get together every weekend. The girls that followed, paled in comparison. It seemed as if I was always the one giving the most pleasure, but was no longer impressed with the same old techniques and the same old responses.

After a while, I just stopped dating. I wasn't really looking for a serious relationship when Lauren walked into my life. Lauren is so interesting. On the surface, she's shy, but underneath, she's a pit bull! She doesn't really want me to mention her in this article, but doesn't mind me telling the world about how I make love to her and who taught me to.

You see, Lauren wasn't all that impressed with my sexual techniques. In fact, she had me screaming her name and demanded that I learn how to please her. And here I was thinking that I was putting something down on her. She does this thing with her tongue and my ear that makes me...OMG! She also does this thing with her mouth when I'm soft...it drives me insane! And not to mention what she does with her tongue. Somehow, she makes a W shape while her tongue is in motion on my testicles...man, that move alone drives me to tears! She also discovered my anus and does this thing with her finger...at first, I wasn't too sure about her putting her fingers anywhere in that area, but boy, once she did it...I was trembling and begging her to stop! I've never felt pleasure like that in my life! She showed me things that the college girl didn't know about, and I didn't think anyone could top her.

I think I fell in love with Lauren the very night she told me she wasn't satisfied with how I made love to her. She stood up to me and my ego and told me exactly what she wanted. And she even came prepared to teach me. She taught me what her favorite sexual position is and why. She taught me about a "trigger point" she has and it's not the G spot, it's much much better! She showed me why size isn't important - not that I'm small or anything! She even showed me how to give her orgasms over and over again.

At first, I was a little pissed that she didn't even think my technique was all that! I'd had plenty of girls screaming my name and here she was telling me that she wasn't impressed! Because, of my love for her, I put aside my ego and pride and actually listened. I asked her where on earth did she learn about all of these techniques. She said she picked up a few tricks here and there, but she mainly learned about sex from reading some great books, but there's one in particular that she wanted me to read. She's had it a while, and was waiting for a great guy to come along that she could share it with. She said she was so tired of those lame ass guys who only thought of themselves and didn't even bother to learn something that would please their partner. I guess great minds do think alike!

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Romantic Games - Bring a New Level of Passion

By Brandi White

Even the most passionate couples can use a little innovation and fun in the bedroom. Busy schedules, familiarity and the everyday demands of life can leave things feeling a little too comfortable. However, it's not difficult to breathe new life into intimate encounters. Trying new things, and perhaps being a little adventurous can make things feel brand new again. Romantic games designed specifically for couples, can make things fun and exciting again. I would recommend Nookii which is geared toward couples looking for new ways to explore each other.

I feel that true sexual enjoyment is more than just an occasional event, it's a way of life. Sex is a central part of our lives, and influences our lives in countless ways, from the decisions we make to the people we partner with. Sex isn't supposed to be taboo, or guilt-inducing, it should be fun, fulfilling, and liberated. To this end, select products that are meant not just to improve your sex life, but to make you feel more confident in your sexuality, and follow a truly sinless way of life. Whether you're searching for sensual lingerie, exciting romantic games or DVDs and books, the products should be liberating as they are sexual.

Some of the things I could suggest would be to have some fun with food. Try some flavored body paint and see what kind of masterpieces you and your partner can create on each other. See what ideas you can think of with common food items such as honey, chocolate syrup or whipped cream. Another would be to get playful with sexy costumes. Try some creative role-playing. Try using nurse costumes or french maid costumes. The possibilities are only limited by your imagination. Think of it as acting, watch it unfold and see if you end up in a very X-rated place.

People use romantic games for many reasons. It might be to bring flair to a comfortable relationship where the bright fire of passion has ebbed, or to experience new adventures with a new partner. Although the definition of sexual freedom varies from one individual to the next, the true heart of liberation is feeling free to pursue the experiences that you are comfortable with. When sex is shared between two willing adults, there's no reason to feel guilty or ashamed.

Brandi White, Communications Director of Sinless Touch