Problems in Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting With T

By Levi Reiss

Whether heterosexual, homosexual, or somewhere in the middle we all want to improve our sex life. Who wants to be alone? I really do believe that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are. We present a double series of articles for the letter T. This article focuses on the problems and pitfalls that prevent you from improving your sex life. Another series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help you get what you want. Here we examine take, tale, tarnish, and taskmaster.

T is for take. Sex isn't a matter of just taking. You have to give as well. And give it well. In most cases sex isn't just there for the taking. You have to work on making it happen before you can take off. Then all of a sudden everything seems to take off. And you take on new responsibilities. Love may even take over.

T is for tale. Tell no tales. For one thing you will have to remember all the de-tales and that's a lot of work. Once it's happening don't tell tales about your partner even if these tales happen to be true. Your sex life is really nobody's business but the two of you. What happens in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom and not be repeated in the locker room. The same goes for the beach. Right, Sandy?

T is for tarnish. Don't go around tarnishing anybody's reputation. In the old days such tarnishing often lead to tar and feathering. Or a trip to the stockades. Now we know better. Or do we? If you have a reputation for tarnishing other people's names you may find that potential partners avoid you like the plague. And you may end up with tar in your niche.

T is for taskmaster. Don't be a taskmaster. Avoid putting your partner through hoops. (Actually that might be fun.) Don't treat sex like a series of tasks that your partner must accomplish. And don't act like a master. Nobody wants to be your slave. Now if you want to be the slave, that's another issue. You may not have trouble finding a taskmaster. The troubles come later.

Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com