Why is Sex Not an Olympic Sport?

By Jet Ambrosio

Beijing 2008. Unarguably the greatest exhibition of spirit and skill by the human race; an event that will forever be stamped in the billions of souls who are witnesses to it. Not only is it an awesome 'coming out party' of a world superpower, it is a grand showcase of our species' achievements, not only in Sports & Sport Science, but also in Engineering, Technology, Business, Public Policy and Foreign Affairs.

At the heart of it all is the tenacious athlete, a finely tuned machine on mission for a nation's glory.

Records have been set. . .and broken, even on the same day! All this as the human body visibly gets stronger, faster and higher. It can only be expected that more inconceivable records will be set and broken in the coming years. (Well, perhaps Phelps can rest on his swimming laurels for a while.)

But SEX is a different ballgame altogether. It's an Art, not a Sport. While Olympic athletes busy themselves with clocking faster times, lifting heavier weights, executing maneuvers with the highest degree of difficulty, sex has nothing of the sort.

But unfortunately, most guys come to Sex with an Olympic mindset; it's been so ingrained that they don't even notice it. This is a real tragedy because sex is not about "faster, stronger, higher".

Here are some of the most pervasive sexual fallacies that reflects an Olympic approach to sex. Perhaps I will write about them more fully in the coming days, but here they are very briefly:

Guys think that the bigger their genitals are, the better it is for the woman. As if there's some ranking where the most well-endowed men are considered the best lovers. You already know that this is nowhere near truth, for one cannot objectively evaluate size, without also considering, among other things, HER size and your technique.

Another example. Many guys have come to believe the musings of porn and think that the faster and harder they are at sex, the better it is for the woman. As if faster and harder is the road to glory. Again, this is not true! Sometimes, gold is found in slower and gentler affairs. Besides, a woman might be moaning, not out of pleasure, but out of pain. There's a huge difference!

Last example. Ever since men read the memo that women want more foreplay and want sex to last longer, they have interpreted this with an Olympic color - thinking that the longer the foreplay or sex lasts, the better it is.

That's a fallacy. For foreplay is sometimes not even required. And sometimes, long-lasting sex not only gets boring but very irritating, resulting to a numb woman eager to get some sleep.

I always tell my clients that the way to successfully sidestep these woes is by taking to heart one very important thing - the concept of CALIBRATION. This is the 8^th item in the Profile of the Great Lover.

It's one of the most important thing to learn when it comes to something so preference-heavy like sex. Like I always say, "Some like it hot, some like it cold, but everybody likes it 'JUST RIGHT'." Different people have personal preferences and therefore subtly differing expectations as to what great sex is.

(But this is not necessarily mean gunning to be smack right in the middle of two extremes. It's getting to the optimum point - wherever that lies for a particular woman and situation.)

Sex is a high art. The Great Lover is flexible enough to respond to different partners and sexual situations. He can morph from a savage beast to a gentle lover, vice versa, and everything in between. He knows when to go at it fast & furious, and when to pull back and tease. He refuses to be boxed by rigid sexual patterns or a one-size-fits-all approach to intimacy. He is a seasoned barista who can concoct creations for any sexual situation.

CALIBRATION. Sex is not a one speed, one size, one step affair. Bigger is not necessarily better. Faster is not necessarily better. Longer is not necessarily better.

The Great Lover, he knows how to play the cards right.

Mr. Jet Ambrosio is the acclaimed author of the EVE TRILOGY -- the indispensable Manual for Men. BOOK (1): SEX!: The Biggest SHE-crets BOOK (2): The Book of Forgotten SEX MOVES BOOK (3): BEYOND PENETRATION Check them out at (http://www.evetrilogy.com) and learn how a young man became one of the world's most celebrated lovers.

To Talk Dirty You Need to Build Your Vocabulary

By Denise Bergeron

If you are looking to start talking dirty then one of the things you will need to do is build up a vocabulary of words and dirty talk phrases to use. If you have used all the naughty things you can think of while in bed and are running out of new dirty things to say to you boyfriend or partner then I'll give you some advice.

A good place to find new dirty talk words and phrases is the old standby adult movies. Adult movies have both dirty talk and dirty actions and you can take dialogue from both of them to use.

Besides adult movies hot and steaming rated R or NC-17 love movies can be good as well. These might actually have more lines in them then a straight up "adult movie". If you can't think of the last movie that made you hot and bothered just go to your local video store and ask them to recommend something that is truly steamy.

While watching these movies if you see a particular hot scene you should pause the movie and try to repeat what they said in you most dirty voice. This will help you get comfortable in talking dirty and will also reinforce the scene and words in your mind so you can use them at a later time. The three top movies I tell my clients to get are The English Patient, Basic Instinct, An Affair of Love (Une Liasion Pornographique) and The Big Easy. And decent video store should have one or two of them.

So there you have it, dirty talk vocabulary can be taken from all over but one of the best places to get it is good old fashion movies.

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Dirty Talk - What to Say

By Denise Bergeron

Dirty talk does not have to be trash talk like something you would hear in a porno film. If you are looking to start talking dirty then we have a couple tips for you.

First remember that one of the best ways to dirty talk is to ask for what you want. Instead of just moaning and grunting in bed you should tell your man simple things like "faster," "harder," or "deeper." This will vocally allow him to know what you like and how you like it without saying too much and saving yourself some uncomfortable moments.

Once you are comfortable practicing the above dirty talking then you can move to the next step which is to add some praise into it somewhere along the line. So an example of this would be "Oh, yes! Right There That Is the Spot, Do It Faster" this simple phrase is naughty but not to the level you would hear in a porno. If said in your most sultry voice it will be very sexy and your dirty talk will be pleasure to his ears.

To talk dirty you don't need a trash mouth and as a matter of fact if you say the wrong things just to blurt it out it might just ruin the moment. Think before you say something dirty and always be sure the time is right to say it. Talking dirty can be fun and is one of the best things you can do to spice up your love life. Do it right and your man will be asking you to talk dirty every time you hit the sheets.

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Adult Role Playing and Dirty Talk

By Denise Bergeron

The most common bedroom fun that brings on the dirty talk is good old-fashioned adult role playing. You know what I mean - it's hard not to get into character when you're supposed to be a French maid, a buxom nurse, or a wicked dominatrix. The words usually come as easily as your body slips into that costume.

But what if it's a completely new situation and you've never engaged in role playing before? Boy, are you in for the sexy discovery of your lifetime!

Adult Role playing is exactly what it sounds like - you are playing a role. When you take that into the bedroom, it's meant to appeal to a fetish of some kind, such as a man who loves the idea of Nurse Goodbody getting him off while she gives him that sponge bath, or the maid giving him a bit more than he bargained for when it comes to "cleaning house."

When you're in the character, it's important that your language reflects it. For instance, if you're dressed as a nurse, think about what a nurse might say about body parts and keep the scene as realistic as you can. If you're going to be playing the part of the nurse or the doctor, get clinical about your terms!

If you're the maid, perhaps pretending you really are French is a good start. Learn a few handy phrases in French, along the lines of "What would you like me to clean?" or "What do you want me to do?" will work. Put on a thick French accent when you do speak in a language your partner understands. No matter what, stay in character!

You can play anything at all. The prostitute ("It's another fifty if you want me to do that"), the dominatrix ("Get down on your knees, NOW), or even the flight attendant ("Just lay back, sir...") can spice up the bedroom with both your dirty ideas and your dirty words.
Keep in mind what role you're playing, dress the part, and finish it off by speaking the part, too!

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Is She Faking an Orgasm? - 3 Things to Note and Catch Her Red-Handed

By Crid Lee

Many women tend to fake orgasms when their men cannot satisfy them in bed. Sometimes, it can be really devastating for you if your girl tends to consistently fake orgasms in bed. This means that you cannot satisfy her during lovemaking. In order not to disappoint their men, some women fake orgasms during lovemaking and make their men assume that they are performing well in bed.

However, if she is faking orgasm, there is nothing for you to be happy about. You need to find out fast so that you can try to perform better and satisfy her. So how can you know if she is faking an orgasm? Read on to discover the secrets.

1. She is not tired at all. Having an orgasm requires a lot of energy and physical effort from your girl. This will usually make her seem worn out. Therefore if she does not seem worn out at all, it is a good chance that she is faking it.

2. Her breathing is normal. When a woman is about to experience an orgasm, she will tend to breathe heavily due to the level of excitement and intensity. So if your girl is breathing normally and tells you that she has an orgasm, then she is most probably faking it.

3. She does not seem to be emotional after you are done. When a woman has experienced a real orgasm, she would show a lot of emotion and tend to embrace you tightly. Normally, if she is faking an orgasm, she will get on with her own things immediately after lovemaking. This shows that she is not affected by the intensity of a real orgasm at all and has faked it.

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