Why is Sex Not an Olympic Sport?

By Jet Ambrosio

Beijing 2008. Unarguably the greatest exhibition of spirit and skill by the human race; an event that will forever be stamped in the billions of souls who are witnesses to it. Not only is it an awesome 'coming out party' of a world superpower, it is a grand showcase of our species' achievements, not only in Sports & Sport Science, but also in Engineering, Technology, Business, Public Policy and Foreign Affairs.

At the heart of it all is the tenacious athlete, a finely tuned machine on mission for a nation's glory.

Records have been set. . .and broken, even on the same day! All this as the human body visibly gets stronger, faster and higher. It can only be expected that more inconceivable records will be set and broken in the coming years. (Well, perhaps Phelps can rest on his swimming laurels for a while.)

But SEX is a different ballgame altogether. It's an Art, not a Sport. While Olympic athletes busy themselves with clocking faster times, lifting heavier weights, executing maneuvers with the highest degree of difficulty, sex has nothing of the sort.

But unfortunately, most guys come to Sex with an Olympic mindset; it's been so ingrained that they don't even notice it. This is a real tragedy because sex is not about "faster, stronger, higher".

Here are some of the most pervasive sexual fallacies that reflects an Olympic approach to sex. Perhaps I will write about them more fully in the coming days, but here they are very briefly:

Guys think that the bigger their genitals are, the better it is for the woman. As if there's some ranking where the most well-endowed men are considered the best lovers. You already know that this is nowhere near truth, for one cannot objectively evaluate size, without also considering, among other things, HER size and your technique.

Another example. Many guys have come to believe the musings of porn and think that the faster and harder they are at sex, the better it is for the woman. As if faster and harder is the road to glory. Again, this is not true! Sometimes, gold is found in slower and gentler affairs. Besides, a woman might be moaning, not out of pleasure, but out of pain. There's a huge difference!

Last example. Ever since men read the memo that women want more foreplay and want sex to last longer, they have interpreted this with an Olympic color - thinking that the longer the foreplay or sex lasts, the better it is.

That's a fallacy. For foreplay is sometimes not even required. And sometimes, long-lasting sex not only gets boring but very irritating, resulting to a numb woman eager to get some sleep.

I always tell my clients that the way to successfully sidestep these woes is by taking to heart one very important thing - the concept of CALIBRATION. This is the 8^th item in the Profile of the Great Lover.

It's one of the most important thing to learn when it comes to something so preference-heavy like sex. Like I always say, "Some like it hot, some like it cold, but everybody likes it 'JUST RIGHT'." Different people have personal preferences and therefore subtly differing expectations as to what great sex is.

(But this is not necessarily mean gunning to be smack right in the middle of two extremes. It's getting to the optimum point - wherever that lies for a particular woman and situation.)

Sex is a high art. The Great Lover is flexible enough to respond to different partners and sexual situations. He can morph from a savage beast to a gentle lover, vice versa, and everything in between. He knows when to go at it fast & furious, and when to pull back and tease. He refuses to be boxed by rigid sexual patterns or a one-size-fits-all approach to intimacy. He is a seasoned barista who can concoct creations for any sexual situation.

CALIBRATION. Sex is not a one speed, one size, one step affair. Bigger is not necessarily better. Faster is not necessarily better. Longer is not necessarily better.

The Great Lover, he knows how to play the cards right.

Mr. Jet Ambrosio is the acclaimed author of the EVE TRILOGY -- the indispensable Manual for Men. BOOK (1): SEX!: The Biggest SHE-crets BOOK (2): The Book of Forgotten SEX MOVES BOOK (3): BEYOND PENETRATION Check them out at (http://www.evetrilogy.com) and learn how a young man became one of the world's most celebrated lovers.