Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting With U

By Levi Reiss

Do you want to improve your sex life? It seems that most people do, whether they are heterosexuals, homosexuals, or somewhere in between. If you are like most of us, you want more sex and you want better sex, and you want it now. We believe that our articles can make a major difference in your sex life, and even in your love life, if that's what you want. Why not give them a try?

We have so many suggestions for improving your sex life that we have put together an alphabetical list of what to do. Because it's easy to get the wrong idea, we have also put together an alphabetical list of what not to do. Don't waste all your time, effort, perhaps money, and perhaps love by putting your foot in your mouth when what you really want; we all know what you really want. This article focuses on understand, upbeat, and venture.

U is for understand. There is something about understanding that helps light fires. If you don't overdo it. The last thing a guy wants is to be the understanding ear. If Uma is hot for Ulrich why would an interested guy want to help things work out for them? I think his understanding would be more like, "Let me know as soon as it falls through and I'll help you understand the next steps; namely with me." Of course you can't really say that. Understand?

U is for upbeat. There's something about being upbeat that helps light fires. Now if you are upbeat and understanding you're at the top of the uuus. Don't go around with a hang-dog expression. Look at the bright side. Your potential partner doesn't really need you to bring him or her down. Who goes out and says, I'm hoping to have a bad time tonight? I've been a little too happy and need someone to bring me down. Keep up the beat.

V is for venture. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Go for it. Be ready for an adventure. Try something different. Try something new. And when you make it to the bedroom the advice is still the same. Try something different. Try something new. At the very least switch the channel. And order your pizza with new toppings. But be careful, making love after a double anchovy and garlic pizza can be a real adventure.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com. You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com.

How to Overcome Fear of Intimacy Easily

By J J Seymour

The fear of intimacy is a common, understandable, and ultimately very tragic phobia. The fact is that intimacy is frightening and dangerous, by its nature. It has always been this way. The idea of surrendering ourselves completely to another person is enough to make many people panic, especially if they've been hurt before in intimate relationships. Tragically, many people suffer from this fear all of their lives. Imagine: to never experience the joy of love, all because of a social phobia. Help is needed, for the millions of lonely, isolated people out there, afraid of intimacy.

What Is Intimacy?

The experience of intimacy is different in every relationship. At its core, the phenomenon involves two or more people who can be completely candid with one another, yet still maintain separate identities. It's difficult to be completely honest with another person: you can tell that other person "everything" about yourself and your past, yet still feel blocked off and nervous in your interactions with that person. Being completely honest with another person means there can be no hidden motives to your interactions.

The Dangers Of Closeness

The kind of closeness described previously can feel very dangerous because it requires complete trust. To be intimate with another, you must be certain that the person you're intimate with won't condemn you or judge you (or lie to you, or harm you in other, more obvious ways). You have to be completely honest about your motives and, at the same time, be certain that the other person is completely honest about their motives. At the same time, in the face of that complete closeness, you have to retain the confidence to still be yourself.

Many people find this prospect to be daunting. It takes a lot of work for any relationship to reach the stage of complete intimacy. People can develop lasting, seemingly insurmountable phobias of this dire process for a number of reasons. Perhaps they've been betrayed in the past by those close to them. Perhaps their parents told them to hide their emotions. Perhaps, as children, the victims of this social phobia were beaten when they displayed vulnerability of any kind. Perhaps, in an early romantic relationship, a significant other started cheating on these people (for reasons of his or her own) the moment they found the courage to open up.

Techniques To Combat Fear Of Intimacy

Whatever the reason, fear of intimacy can lead to lifelong loneliness and a string of unsatisfying relationships. To be able to connect to other people successfully, you must overcome your fears. An effective way to do this is through hypnotherapy and NLP (neuro-linguistic programming).

These advanced, fast-acting therapeutic techniques teach you to recognize what is preventing you from achieving optimum closeness in your relationships. You won't be asked to delve into your past, or relive old traumas. Rather, you'll be asked to go through the thought process that the idea of intimacy triggers in your brain. Once you learn to recognize destructive thought patterns in yourself, you'll be able to reform those thought patterns. Your fear of intimacy could be cured with cunning and speed.

J J Seymour is a writer with Self Help Recordings. Hypnotherapy and NLP can be very effective in helping you to overcome your Fear Of Intimacy - one good source of experienced hypnotherapists and NLP practitioners is Just Be Well. This organization has experienced professionals throughout the UK in London, Birmingham, Bristol, Buckinghamshire, East Anglia, Leeds, Manchester, Newcastle, Surrey, Sussex and Scotland. You will also find links to related practitioners for treatment of fear of intimacy in Vancouver and Toronto, Canada, for Dublin, Ireland, and for Sydney, Melbourne and Perth in Australia. These people deal with a wide range of fears and phobias and for more information on issues treated go here - Social Phobia Help.

How to Make Her Orgasm - 3 Absolutely Crucial Things You Need to Know

By Derek Rake

Most guys don't even realize how important it is to know these essential keys when it comes to making a girl orgasm. Known what these are will give them an unfair advantage compared to the other guys - especially when these keys are not well known at all. Read on to discover what these crucial things are and achieve mind blowing results...

Three Essential Keys To Make Her Orgasm

Key Number One - The Feelgood Factor. The biggest sex organ is the brain. Therefore, work her mind in order to make her orgasm. Make her feel good by commenting on how good she is, and reassuring her of her beauty and sexiness in the bedroom.

Key Number Two - Last Longer. Penetrate her longer and at the same time hold your ejaculation. Women in general need more time to orgasm compared to men. Treat each sex session as practice in order to last longer in bed. Another useful tip - also make the foreplay longer - the wetter she gets, the easier she will orgasm.

Key Number Three - Importance of Moods. There are definitely times when you want to avoid sex altogether. Timing is key here. Women absolutely need to be in the right mood in order for them to enjoy sex. If you sense that she is not in a good mood for sex, then by no means force it. If she is not in the mood and is still 'forced' to do it - she will not orgasm no matter how hard you try.

Now a bonus tip that you will find useful if you want to make any woman orgasm fast... There exists a secret two-step method that underground seduction masters use to make any woman orgasm literally by COMMAND: details are at this website - http://www.ZenGasms.com. The ZenGasms" system is chock full of unknown methods on generating female arousal - derived from the sex secrets from Zen masters of the East. Highly controversial and often perceived to be manipulative - this stuff is not for the faint-hearted. However, if you are ready to give ANY woman mindblowing orgasms virtually by command, and don't mind pushing the envelope, then do this. Click on the following link for a free report on how to induce female orgasms by using only your voice: ZenGasms Leaked Chapter

How to Give a Girl the Most Intense Orgasm of Her Life

By Derek Rake

Virtually every woman wants a man who is able to satisfy her sexually. If you are already in a steady relationship with a woman, you must be able to make her achieve amazing orgasms consistently, or your relationship might be in jeopardy. It is not enough to only do it once or twice - you will need to be able to have an ability to make her reach screaming orgasms regularly. Read on to discover three killer strategies to give a woman the most intense orgasm of her life and achieve mind blowing results...

Three Ways To Give A Girl The Most Intense Orgasm Of Her Life

Method Number One - The Unstoppable Horny Machine. Little known fact - women are even hornier than men. In order to satisfy them, you will need to 'amp it up' - otherwise your will not be able to satisfy her.

Method Number Two - The Art of Dirty Talking. Dirty talking during foreplay will warm her up sufficiently and make her ready for intense orgasms. Here's a killer tip - women like to be 'controlled' in bed - tell her exactly what to do and don't be surprised if she complies to most (if not all!) of your requests.

Method Number Three - Last Longer. This is a complete non-starter - if you can't last long, you won't be able to satisfy her sexually. Women take a longer time to orgasm - so it's important to master the technique of holding your ejaculation. One way to do this is to withdraw periodically but continuously stroke her until she is about to orgasm. Then, enter her again to make her climax.

Now a bonus tip that you will find useful if you want to make any woman orgasm fast... There exists a secret two-step method that underground seduction masters use to make any woman orgasm literally by COMMAND: details are at this website - http://www.ZenGasms.com. The ZenGasms" system is chock full of unknown methods on generating female arousal - derived from the sex secrets from Zen masters of the East. Highly controversial and often perceived to be manipulative - this stuff is not for the faint-hearted. However, if you are ready to give ANY woman mindblowing orgasms virtually by command, and don't mind pushing the envelope, then do this. Click on the following link for a free report on how to induce female orgasms by using only your voice: ZenGasms" Leaked Chapter

Sex Tip For Women For Maximum Pleasures

By Chess McDoogle

Here is a great sex tip for women which can totally turn a night of average sex into a night of wild, unforgettable sex! Use this for those special sexual intimacy occasions where you really want to turn it on and be an erotic and exciting lover!

This sex tip for women needs nothing extra other than your own voice. Employing audio sensuality is such an easy and erotic way to increase sexual intimacy that it should be a staple tip to be used often.

Here are the specific ways that voice should come into play in order to increase intimacy intensely.

1. Oral.

This is a highly erotic practice, but you really are only scratching the surface if you don't employ your voice during this practice. You can turn ordinary oral into extraordinary oral all by the simple use of your voice. To employ voice sensation, while you are performing you simply want to hum. Not only does this increase audio sensuality, but physically it also gives off vibrations which are incredibly powerful.

2. Whispering.

During sex, whispering in the ear can greatly turn your partner on. Letting them know how much you enjoy it, can cause them to perform even better and be even more sensual. It's a huge turn on knowing that things are going right and it puts your partner in a highly aroused and erotic state when it is whispered in their ear.

3. Be Really Loud!

Now, let's switch gears completely. One of the greatest turn on tips you can do, is to simply turn up the volume. Everyone enjoys hearing their partner give out audible sounds of pleasure. But when it is amplified, that means the pleasure is also being amplified and your partner will go wild knowing you are excited and experiencing such pleasure. This is one sex tip for women that can be saved for special occasions, when the circumstance permit such loud pleasurable audio, and for when you really want to experience an erotic, exciting, unforgettable night of intimacy.

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