Problems in Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting With E

By Levi Reiss

Whether heterosexual, homosexual, or somewhere in the middle we all want to improve our sex life. Who wants to be alone? We can't offer you an article, magic pill, perfume, potion, or pick-up line that will automatically send you and your intended partner to the bedroom. However, I really do believe that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are.

This article focuses on the problems and pitfalls that prevent you from improving your sex life. Another series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help you get what you want. Here we look at embarrassed, evasive, and exaggerate.

E is for embarrassed. Don't be embarrassed. Don't be embarrassed about your body. Don't be embarrassed that certain special parts are too small, too big, too soft, too hard (that's a good one), or too misshapen (that's a bad one.) Don't be embarrassed about your partner. Or partners. Or partner's partners. It can get hairy. Don't be embarrassed about your hair, or anyone's hair. If you are bald, don't be embarrassed about that. Now that I think of it, don't be embarrassed about you. Let's change the subject a bit. What should you do if your partner is embarrassed about you? The answer is simple, be embarrassed. And change partners.

E is for evasive. What does evasive mean? Simple, beating around the bush. Isn't that what you really want to do, beat around the bush? (By the way, I'm not talking about beating around the Bush. That's another subject, which we will continue to avoid in these articles.) Don't be evasive, be straight-forward. On occasion this means saying in effect No Comment or I'm not going to tell you. Such an answer is much clearer than trying to do an end run. It may even convince your partner not to ask you again, even if he or she remains curious.

E is for exaggerate. The biggest and the best. You are not the biggest and the best. It is not the biggest and the best. Don't you hate people who always exaggerate? I do. I really can't stand them. They make my blood boil. Literally. But seriously, if you tend to exaggerate then you are probably dissatisfied with the truth. Take a look at the way things really are. Do what you can to make them better. But just saying that things are better than they truly are doesn't make it so. On the contrary, if you believe your exaggerations then there is no reason to change things. You are already there. Only one problem, you are here, and not there. Constant exaggeration will not make it happen.

Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com. You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com.