A Woman's Guide to Having a One-Night Stand

By Trudy-Ann Ewan

Saturday night, the crowd is jumping and the music is jamming. I was on the prowl. In walks one of the hottest guys I ever seen. Tonight looks promising and he's definitely coming home with me tonight. After a few drinks and a couple of dances that looked like we were making love in the club, we hailed a cab and half hour later he's in my apartment. With a touch of a button, slow music starts pouring out of the stereo.

After a few drinks of Stone's Ginger Wine, sexy sounds of Usher slowly wafting from the speakers of my stereo, we were ready to make love in my club. He was good, very good and I had a lot of fun but all good things eventually come to an end. I looked at the alarm clock on nightstand and it was reading 6a.m. I was in a good mood, so I'll let him sleep for another hour after which it would be time for him to go. An hour later I woke him up, called him a cab, thanked him for a wonderful night and went back to bed with Usher still playing in the background. Later I got up and called my girlfriends and told them all about the hot stud I picked up last night. Good memories. That was a one night stand!

Ladies, we all have a wild side, which we would like to explore and let loose before marriage, husband and kids begin to take up our time. So before you loose your precious single minutes begin living up your single life. There are no rules that say that you can't have and enjoy one night stands. It's not something that was invented just for men. But in order to handle a one-night stand, there are a few things to know first. While there is no need to be polite, there is no cause to be rude either unless the one night stand is having an attitude. If the sex was great then that gets them a ticket to spending the night, but if it was not that great, he needs to leave right after it's over.

Wish him a safe ride back to his place, turn the double locks in your door, take a shower and go to bed. Maybe finish that bottle of Ginger Wine. For a sleepover to occur there has to several redeeming factors, the sex was phenomenal, it's very late at night and there are no trains or taxi's that early in the morning. Also, it depends on the distance they would have to travel to go back to their place. With all those factors, then it is OK for them to sleep over for the next few hours until dawn, but at the crack of dawn they have to be up and out of your bed and your apartment.

A one night stand is not the beginning of a relationship, so there should be no dates the next day. That includes, brunch, dinner, supper and any other get together activities, unless it's for a repeat of the night before. You are not friends, it was just sex. If one party wants more out of the one night stand, then said party needs to consider a restraining order, because there maybe a potential stalker in the making. A one night stand is not a pre-cursor to a long-term relationship. Usually, when an individual partakes in a one-night stand, they have no intention of seeing the other party again.

Unfortunately, for one young lady who had a one night stand while on Spring Break in Puerto Rico, only to return to New York and run into the guy at her workplace on the first day of her new job. Not good. However there is one exception to the non-relationship one-night stand rule. There are times when a one-night stand can become a repeat situation. It can stand on its own or it can turn into a friends with benefits situation, which is a where you both get together every so often for some good sex, then that is an on-going relationship with some obvious restrictions. In this instance it is easy to develop some deeper feelings. If this happens you either express your feelings immediately to the other person and see if they are on the same page or you pull back from your involvement with this individual.

There are a few exceptions to one-night stands. If there was an emotional/spiritual connection on the dance floor, that means the sex will be phenomenal. Usually when that happens, by way of the connection, engaging in light, easy going conversation is ok. With that comes a feeling of relaxation and you may turn your one night stand into a friend's with benefits situation. Let things flow naturally. Do not look for a one night stand to have possibilities. Ladies, if you are looking for possibilities and start to have expectations, then be advised, forewarned or just plain have a friend slap you upside your head as a reminder, do not enter into one night stands. You will not be able to handle it.

This no-strings attached behaviour is not for the faint of heart. You have to be emotional stable and not be on the hunt for that special someone. A friend of mine had a one night stand while on vacation in Paris last year. It was a fitting end to a night of dancing and high energy. The other party seemed mature enough, but then after a few Mojitos and Caipirinhas all hot guys would seem mature. When the night was over, she thanked him and went back to her hotel. Since the guy was cool, she had given him her cell number and a year later he still calls to talk about that night being the best night of his life. And he lives in Paris! He just doesn't get it that it was just sex while on vacation and nothing more. My friend had to change her number.
One night stands are very common especially among college students. It's very easy to hook up with a dorm mate or with other hot college students partying on Spring Break. However, one night stands occurs all the time between all sorts of people. As long as the participating individuals act responsibly then it's their prerogative. Some people frown on one night stands and understandably so.

There are downsides to one night stands:

-You do not know the person you are taking into your apartment and that can be dangerous.
-You may not even reach home and then if no one knows where you are then you can be in even worse danger.

It is important at all times that if you do decide to have a one night stand, call a friend and let him or her know where you will be for the night or who will be in your apartment at 4am in the morning.

However, ladies, do not get in the practice of having only one night stands. Remember, that while they can be enjoyable and exotic especially if you are on vacation in an exotic location, continuous one night stands are empty and have nothing long term to offer.

About The Author: Trudy-Ann Ewan, Founder and Director of Create Your Passion Enterprises, is a Creative Life Coach, Author, Freelance Writer, Photographer and Motivational Speaker specializing in the art of helping individuals to create their passion by defining who they are. To learn more sign up for her monthly newsletter on: http://www.createyourpassion.com or join her social network where you can participate in her exclusive discussions at: http://createyourpassion.ning.com

2 of the Best Sex Games You Can Play

By Tristan Lee

Having a good relationship with someone means that you aren't scared to try new things, especially when it comes down to making love with your partner. Although making love in a straight forward way gets the job done, you'll feel more intimate with your lover if you think of new ways to make love like playing games. In addition, playing games can be seen as a prelude to foreplay, which will make the build up even more orgasmic.

So, if you and your lover are doing the same things over and over every single time you guys make love, take note that things can get rather boring fast and you're your partner may lose interest in you. Guys don't really care about this too much, but for women, creativity plays a pretty big role in a sexual relationship. Instead of having that same constant hi-and-goodbye quickie, why not try something new and exciting? Here are some sex games that you and your lover can play to heat things up.

1) Hide-and-Seek

This is how this game works. During the beginning of the game you and your partner get a container. This can be glass cup, a clear bag, or a clear bowl. Each of you guys will go to separate rooms and write down one fantastic thing that you would like your partner to do to you. This can range from giving you a nice massage or biting you on the neck. After you're done writing 10-15 items, go back to the same room and put those items back into your container. You may even want to wink at your partner for fun if you have some very inventive ideas. Now each of you guys will take one item out and go hide it in one place around the house. Hint: A good place to hide an item is under a flower pot. After this is done, don't tell your partner where you hid it. Now both will go back in the room and either do one or two things. Decide to go find the item in 5 minutes, seeing if anyone did find it. If both of you guys find it, perform the item task on each other. If one person finds it, then the other person has to perform the item on them. If no one finds it, grab another item and repeat the process. If you guys are good at holding in temptation, then you guys can agree to do nothing at that moment and go about your day acting coy but "knowing" that these items are floating around the house waiting to be discovered. The second method is more likely to build up a longer duration of anticipation, driving you and your lover wild if you guys aren't composed people.

2) Hide-and-Seek 2

This is the easier version of the game described above. Both of you guys will start out in the room. You will put a blindfold on your partner or vise versa. The person with the blindfold will count to sixty while the other person goes and hides. After the countdown is over, the person with the blindfold will go find the other person. When they find the person that is hiding, then most likely they can proceed to love making in that spot. This is a cool game to play if you want to discover love making in new areas around the house. However, if you're thinking of not hiding and laying on top of the kitchen counter, then that would be considered as cheating, unless the other person doesn't care. Warning: This game might be hard to play if you have a small house.

Hopefully you find these games fun and effective. For more games like these, go to http://www.letsgocouples.com.

Three Ways to Start Having Hot and Steamy Sex

By Tristan Bailey

Whether you want to regain the passion you once had for each other or you just want to improve your sex life, you can easily do so by implementing a few simple tips. Having a passionate and fulfilling sex life should be a priority for all couples as it will help to strengthen the bond you have for one another and improve your relationship.

Here are a few ways to improve your sex life:

1. Concentrate On Foreplay

One of the easiest ways to instantly improve your sex life is to concentrate more on foreplay and not just rush into having intercourse straight away. Seducing and arousing your partner should be a priority and just the knowledge that a sexual encounter is about to happen can be a huge turn on.

Extending the amount of time that you spend kissing and caressing your partner before you have intercourse will make sex feel like an all night event rather than a flash in the pan. So take your time and give extra special attention to the erogenous zones of your partner's body.

Once you are both aroused, its time to move on to oral sex and take the excitement to the next level. There is nothing wrong with women having an orgasm during foreplay and they should actively encourage it. Men should concentrate on rhythmically stroking the clitoris with their tongue while stimulating the G Spot with their fingers.

2. Start Giving Instructions

Its amazing how many people don't tell their partner exactly what they want and what gives them the most pleasure. Giving sexual instructions to your partner is the easiest way to achieve explosive orgasms and have mind blowing sex that satisfies your needs and desires.

Telling your partner what you want doesn't have to be a long, in depth discussion and it can be as simple as whispering a few specific commands during oral sex and intercourse. Women need to tell men exactly where they want to be touched and show them how they want their clitoris to be stimulated.

Some women shy away from telling their man precisely how much pressure they want from his tongue during oral sex and where he should concentrate his movements. But doing this will increase the chances of achieving a clitoral orgasm which is one of the most exhilarating moments for men during sex.

3. Have Spontaneous Sex

There is no doubt that instant gratification can sometimes be the best kind when it comes to sex, so the next time you feel the need to satisfy your cravings you shouldn't hold back. Spontaneous sexual encounters can often be the most passionate and vigorous which is why they should be had more often.

There is nothing wrong with women taking the lead and initiating sex with men when they feel the urge to do so. The traditional sex roles that say men have to initiate sex are outdated and women need to start turning the tables and have more spontaneous sex on a regular basis.

In many cases, a few simple changes can really make a difference to your current sex life with your partner and you can start to enjoy having intercourse on a regular basis again. Its important never to take your partner for granted and you should always be affectionate whenever possible. This will result in more intimacy and love for one another as well as more sex.

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Tips to Put the Sizzle in Your Sex Life

By Tracy Kristalakis

Enhancing your love life is something that every long term relationship eventually requires. Sooner or later your love life will be affected by the regular stresses of everyday life and many other factors that may make your love life seem lacking. Often we hear that our partners are too tired to make love or perhaps there is a problem in the relationship that make love making just a bit more difficult than it used to be. So many aspects of our daily lives are affected and reflected in our personal relationships. This is when learning how to enhance your love life becomes very important.

For starters it helps for you to be able to incorporate playfulness in the bedroom. Being playful in the bedroom is a key factor to you having fun during lovemaking. It also helps you to get closer to your mate.

Learning how to become more spontaneous when it comes to love making can also help you to improve your love life. The reason for this is because it lets your mate know that you still find them sexy and attractive, which is the key to a great love life. Here are some more tips to making your love life better:

====> Try to add some spice into your relationship by bringing toys to the bedroom with you. It can really make a huge difference.

====> Role playing is a great way for you to be able to make your love life a great deal better. It is also a good way to explore fantasies.

====> Explore your fantasies with your mate and be very specific in your requests. Just be sure that both you and your mate are comfortable with your ideas.

====> Be willing to talk openly with your mate about what you want in the bedroom.

====> Having an open mind toward sex is a key component in keeping your love life secure.

====> Having sex in different areas other than the bedroom can spice up any relationship and add a sense of danger to it.

====> Trying new and different positions can really make a difference in your love life.

There are just so many things that you can do to make your love life better that it can be difficult to settle on any one in particular. If you are willing to explore new territories it can lead you to a more fulfilling sex life with your partner. Most of what is needed is an open mind because that is when the inhibitions are lower. A good sex life is very important to any relationship and a willingness to do whatever you can to spice things up helps as well.

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Sexual Myths Busted - Get the Truth on Common Sexual Misconceptions

By Tracy Kristalakis

Sex education whether formal or informal is still highly lacking in the United States. There are many people that have received information from friends and family members that is incorrect leading to common mistaken beliefs. Here are some of those beliefs and the truth behind it.

The amount of lubrication or wetness a woman has tells you how turned on she is.

Although women do secrete lubrication when sexually aroused, there are many factors that determine how much is actually made. The most determining factor is genetics. Other factors that affect it are the natural hormonal cycle, stress, and medication to name a few. When in doubt, use a quality lubricant product.

If you have sex in the water, you can't get pregnant.

Sperm are designed to swim. If you do not take preventive measures, than plan on getting pregnant. All it takes is one sperm at the right time.

People that watch porn are perverted.

Watching pornography is not about perversion. It's a form of visual fantasy. It's just one of many ways people (including women) can get turned on sexually. There are no scientific studies showing a link between pornography and perversion.

Pills and pumps can make the penis bigger.

There is no pill that has been scientifically proven to increase length or girth of the penis. A pump may temporarily add size, but will lose any effect once the pump is removed. The only pump that works is
one that is surgically implanted, but this is typically for men with erectile disorders.

If a woman doesn't orgasm from sexual intercourse, than the man isn't doing his job.

Around 80% of women need to have their clitoris stimulated in order to reach orgasm, so intercourse alone doesn't necessarily bring one to orgasm. Imagination and variety are the best orgasm tools.

If a man is interested in anal sex he must be secretly homosexual.

The anus is rich with nerves and anal sex can be quite pleasurable. Homosexuality is about being sexually attracted to a person of the same gender.

Having good sex comes naturally.

Sex is a skill like any other-it must be learned. Good lovers are those that are kind and considerate and make their partner's pleasure a priority.

There are many more misconceptions out there. By reading articles like this and passing it on to your friends and family, you not only become well informed, you are a sex educator, too!

If you'd like to have more passion, playfulness and positively great sex, sign up for Your Great Sex Guideฎ monthly newsletter by visiting http://www.your-great-sex-guide.com Sign-up now and get 101 Romantic Ideas by Michael Webb as your gift. Would you like more tips to make your sex life sizzle? Get your FREE copy of 100 Love Making Tips of All Time by visiting http://www.your-great-sex-guide.com All from Your Great Sex Guideฎ, Tracy Kristalakis MS, LPC.