Is Sex a Necessary Part of a Successful Relationship?

By Deb Allen

For some of us a relationship without sex is nothing more than a friendship. But there are many long-term and very successful relationships that do not include sex. So the question becomes whether sex is a necessary component at all or if it is simply a fulfillment of lust.

To begin this discussion I would like to explain that many relationships are started out of a physical attraction for one another. Some people would say that this phase is a period of lust. In essence, the partners may find that they not only enjoy each other's company but also that they have a desire to have sex.

During such a stage in the relationship it is likely that the couple will have frequent sex and that it will be both fun and exciting. This stage usually lasts for a few months.

Then the couple is likely to move into the second stage of a sexual relationship which is designed around romantic love. For many couples this stage will last from about six months to two years. During the time although some of the lust may taper off the sex remains frequent and very enjoyable.

For many people this phase is optimal because the love relationship seems to deepen and a real connection between the partners becomes apparent. The bonds strengthen and the relationship acquires a comforting element which lends itself to longevity.

As time goes on the couple is likely to experience the next stage in their sexual relationship. During this period a mature love develops. The sex may diminish a little or a lot and some of the excitement may be missing.

It is during this period that problems often develop. As the break down in the sexual relationship happens there may also be problems with the communication in the relationship. The lack of communication coupled with the decline in sex can result in trust issues.

Some couples progress to the point that their relationship is built on dynamics more commonly associated with roommates or brothers and sisters than that of a couple. Although relationships go through various phases it is important to maintain the appropriate dynamics if the relationship is to continue to blossom.

Over a period of time sex can decline to the point that the couples feel uncomfortable with the topic. One is afraid to approach the other so sex becomes a missing component in the relationship. Even if the desire for sex is there it may seem to be completely out of reach.

Couples in that situation probably need to start slowly. Jumping into bed to have sex may not sound appealing. I suggest that the couple work on less threatening ways of building that intimacy level back up first. To begin I suggest that the couple spend time cuddling. I know, that sounds trivial but it really is important.

Simple steps like including a few hugs throughout the day can make a difference. Then progress to holding each other and gazing into the eyes of your partner. Soon you should spend time holding one another in bed. If you do not start this way then progress to holding each other while you are naked. By taking things a step at a time you are likely to freshen some of those feelings and desires that were once so natural and compelling.

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Foreplay - Five Easy Tips

By Leigh Reeves

1- Talk and Tease

During foreplay, the power of suggestion (especially with some dirty talk) can be as great as the sex itself for many couples. If you can describe how you want to touch your partner, where, and with which of your body parts, he/she will visualize it easily and eagerly.

If you know how to have sex with his/her brain (it is a major sexual organ), you can bet that your partner will be begging you to have sex with the rest of their body in due time.

If you need to touch while you dirty talk, avoid touching the major sex parts. Instead, focus your mouth and hands on the neck, wrists, inner thighs, lower back, and ears.

2- Get Started in Public

Foreplay doesn't need to be restricted to the bedroom. Try doing some fun things out in the open. Try patting your partner's ass in a restaurant, kissing him/her passionately while having drinks at a bar or dirty dancing at a nightclub.

Make an effort to turn your partner on wherever you are. When you finally do find yourselves in a private situation, the good times will lead to some carnal indulgences.

3- Strip Down

Strip shows aren't just for men anymore; women have gotten wise to the idea of having men perform for them.

Remove your clothes slowly (especially if you're fit). Remove your socks before you do anything; they're awkward and nothing turns anyone off faster than seeing a naked body with socks on.

Start by removing your shirt (unbutton it slowly while maintaining eye contact), then your pants, and finally your underwear. At this point, undress your partner just as slowly.

4- Use your Hands and Give Oral Pleasure

It is easy for me to say that usually every man enjoys being the receiver of oral sex.

Every woman is different, therefore, every woman likes to be touched differently. Some women do not like oral sex at all. Usually it is because she does not feel comfortable, so before you try, make sure she is comfortable. She will soon try it and realize what she has been missing.

5- Watch Some Porn

Porn can be a great way to get you and your partner in the mood, whether it is dirty or really soft porn. Put on something that both of you can enjoy and lay naked with each other while you watch it.

Remember that an "accidental" caress here and there is perfectly acceptable, even preferable. Every now and then, stop watching the movie to provide your partner's body some attention. Make sure to pay more attention to him/her than you do to the movie.

Watching porn is also good to throw some ideas your way. If you see something kinky that you'd like to try, make a comment about it.

The point is to get the imagination going.

Leigh Reeves Creator - http://www.sexstrology.org Managing Editor - http://www.getintimate.org

The Female Orgasm - It's All in Her Head

By Tyler Privado

Ever had a lover that no matter what you did... she just wouldn't orgasm.

You worked your heart out, tried all your slick moves... but nothing?

She might have even told you she "can't orgasm" and maybe that released some of the pressure.

The fact is, she could orgasm... nearly all women can. Unless there's been a lot of trauma in her life... she can orgasm. It's just that you're both missing the one key ingredient.

Her mind.

Men (and women) don't seem to realise that a huge part of the female orgasm is mental. In fact, I'd go as far to say that how you make her feel is 80% of her reaching orgasm.

Because it doesn't matter how good you are at stimulating a woman's body... if her minds not there... there's no orgasm.

Trust me... I've experienced this for myself. I became so curious about these women that said they "can't orgasm" that I began to research it. And that's how I discovered what I was doing wrong.

My technique was pretty great... (if I do say so myself) but I wasn't fully turning on her mind as well. She was enjoying herself... she was asking for more... but as long as that little "mental lock" stayed on in her mind... there was going to be no happy ending to this story.

Now I'm not going to lie to you like some "sex gurus" will and say there's a 100% foolproof solution that will work every time (and instantly too!). Let's face it... women are a little more complicated than that. It's not like we're just changing a light bulb here...

But I do believe that if you learn to stimulate a woman's mind she has a much higher chance of reaching orgasm. There are some women that, due to their sexual past, will have a lot of trouble releasing this mental block. But I believe it can be done in a loving and trusting relationship.

Some women will find it a lot easier to release this mental lock and suddenly you're the best lover she's ever had. And I must say that's a pretty great feeling to have.

And if you're one of the lucky ones... your lover will have none of these sexual blockages at all. Then suddenly, by adding the power of her mind to the equation, she won't know what hit her.

So the next time you're in the bedroom... have a think about how you can arouse her mind, as well as her body. The results are worth it... trust me.

Tyler is a regular guy who enjoys sex and pleasuring his lovers. When he realised a lot of other guys were having the same problems he'd had in the past, he decided to do something about it. Visit his website to find out how to make love to a woman's mind and body and download his free report "Why You Might Be Bad In Bed... And What To Do About It." He prides himself on being different and avoiding unnecessary hype and huge promises. While other "sex gurus" promise mind bending multiple orgasms from super ninja g-spot techniques invented by Tibetan monks... he focuses on the power of a woman's mind for creating a powerful sexual response that lasts a lot longer than a night of passion. If you're ready for the real, straight forward answers about amazing your lover in the bedroom, check out his website for more free information and articles.

Female Orgasms - Tips to Give Your Woman Powerful Orgasms During Intercourse

By Susan Johnsson

Achieving an orgasm through intercourse is something that most women find very difficult to do. The reason for this is generally due to poor technique from their partners.

One of the biggest myths that men are abiding by, is that successful intercourse is achieved by thrusting at a very high rate per second. What they don't realize is that this does nothing more than cause discomfort to their partners, and the man also loses steam very quickly.

By using a bit of common sense, you will be able to help your woman achieve explicit orgasms every time you have intercourse with her. Let us take a look at a few ways that can improve your overall performance of intercourse;

It is important to keep in mind that you should always have an end goal or purpose as to what you would like to achieve, or help your woman achieve in terms of orgasms. By understanding this end goal, you will know how to correctly approach it, and successfully reach it.For instance, it would be useless trying out certain sex positions that are made for helping a woman achieve clitoral orgasms, when you are trying to give her a g-spot orgasm. Also, just because you have the right type of sex position, it is important to understand that this does not automatically enable your woman to orgasm. You have to know how to correctly execute the sex position in order to get the best results.

For instance, while trying a certain sex position, you need to think about the angling of the penis as it enters the vagina so that it can successfully stimulate the right spots in order to achieve any particular type of orgasm. So as you can see, by applying a bit of logic, and having an end goal or purpose, you will be able to have a better understanding of what you are doing during intercourse, thus enabling your woman to achieve the most stunning orgasms that she is only ever dreamt of.

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Female Orgasms - 1 Powerful Tip to Intensify Your Woman's Orgasms

By Susan Johnsson

The reason why some men find it very difficult to give a woman orgasms is because they focus solely on the area that they believe will achieve an orgasm, but forget to stimulate the rest of their partner's body. For a woman this can be very annoying, because she would like to know that her partner finds other parts of the body attractive, and not just the vagina.Let us take a look at ways in how you can increase your woman's overall "erotic highs", and intensify her orgasm to new levels of ecstasy;

A great way to improve your overall lovemaking sessions with your partner is by mixing foreplay with any other type of sex that you are performing. For instance, if you are performing cunnilingus on your woman, or having intercourse with her, include foreplay into the mix. By doing this, it will allow you to spend an equal amount of time I'm paying attention on other parts of your woman's body while at the same time stimulating the most sensitive spots.

If you are performing cunnilingus on your woman, feel free to use your hands to stimulate her breasts, thighs and buttocks. It would be good now and then to also use your mouth and tongue on these areas as well. In other words, use it as a way of teasing your woman so that you can build anticipation in her mind.

For instance, begin by kissing her breasts, then grew gradually move down her body until you reach the areas surrounding her clitoris. Take your time in kissing this area, and once you feel she is fully aroused, you can then begin direct stimulation on the clitoris with your mouth After doing this for a few minutes, move away and begin to gradually kiss up her body until you reach her breasts again. At this point you can then throw your hands into the mix and use it to stimulate the clitoris while you're kissing her breasts and other erogenous zones.

By taking this approach, you will be able to give your woman the most exquisite orgasms that she had thought was only possible as a fantasy.

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