By Levi Reiss
Whether heterosexual, homosexual, or somewhere in the middle we all want to improve our sex life. Who wants to be alone? I really do believe that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are. We present a double series of articles for the letter S. This article focuses on the problems and pitfalls that prevent you from improving your sex life. Another series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help you get what you want. Here we examine sad, scene, and smoke.
S is for sad. I know that opinions are mixed on just about any sex-related issue but I don't think that going around with a sad expression is the way to meet or keep partners. In essence you are saying: "Help me get out of the mess I'm in." And your prospective partner is likely to say: "Why should I bother, I have plenty of problems of my own. Now if I could find someone to help me out of my own situation..." It seems like Dylan from the old 90210 (Beverly Hills) fantasy show was a counter example. If I recall correctly he wasn't sad from a lack of female companions ready to help him deal with his sadness. You can try such a tactic. But don't be sad if it doesn't work.
S is for scene. It's one thing to make the scene. It's another to make a scene. The first is positive, the second is a definite no-no. Let's assume that you're in one of your favorite restaurants and your partner has just announced that his or her status is now that of ex. Whether or not you hear that famous phrase "It's not you, it's me," don't make a scene. No Hollywood talent scout is sitting at the next table waiting to scoop you up. And nobody will be so impressed by your reacting-to-getting-dumped performance that he or she tries to fill the gap in your life. Don't make a scene. Lick your wounds. Take a close look at what went wrong, and why. And get out there and make the scene.
S is for smoke. Don't smoke. It's a filthy, smelly, expensive habit. And it can ruin your health and the health of those you love. I'm a wine lover and I know that drinking in excess is bad as well. On the other hand, and we're not necessarily talking about hands, smoking down there is a good thing. Actually you have to determine the cause of the smoking. A cigarette lighter is definitely out, and dangerous. The chances are that you won't smoke. But you may sizzle.
Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.
Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com. You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com. |
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