She Started Having Sex Then Wanted to Know Where Things Stood

By Nicole Gayle

OK. I'm just about tired of this sort of drama. It's the dreaded "talk" a woman has with a man when she's unsure where things stand between them because she's given up her control. She either pushes in towards the man because she's trying to use his attraction to get closer to him or she gives him sex.

Oh, I know I'm not popular for this sort of thing. Yes, I'm not popular at all. If you can't deal with a man pulling away or wanting his space after you've slept with him, then don't. Here's a question: Have you been seeing a man and felt an amazing connection with him? Then you gave him a few weeks to kinda get to know you, you felt so comfortable with him that you thought it was no big deal to sleep with him?

Then after sleeping with him, you wanted to know where things stood, so you hijack him with having the talk? After the talk, he shuts down, pull away, and feel overwhelmed by all of your "emotions?" Do you see a pattern here?

Sex is just sex for a man when he doesn't have an emotional connection to you. Sex is not love. Sex is not about a commitment. Sex is not because he sees himself walking you down the aisle. It's just sex when he hasn't had the chance to fall in love. If you hold off on the sex and build the emotional and intellectual attraction then he has a chance to fall in love. When he falls in love then he'll commit. But he won't commit if he's not in love with you.

Please learn the pattern and get ahold of your inner world. Be a fun, independent, happy chick that draw a man in build the attraction. When you increase his attraction, it will pull him in. If you pull him in by creating sexual tension without giving him sex, he'll burn hot on fire for you. When he begins to boil, he'll fall in love. When he falls in love, he'll commit to being with you.

Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, How to Go from Girlfriend to Wife, written to help you take your man from maybe to "I do" - Be the kind of woman your man HAS to marry. http://www.howtogofromgirlfriendtowife.com