Are You on the Side of the Size!

By Angelique Shofar

Okay ladies, how many of you will deny that the size of your man's penis is important? Are you one of those to whom it does not matter? Or are you on the side of the size! I am a bit concerned that many women arrived at a place of denial because they were squeezed into that belief one way or another. Many too readily accept it, live with it, ignore it and push it aside because in the world that we live in sex is just not important enough to warrant satisfaction or approval. So our inner needs and urges go ignored, unsatisfied and unfulfilled. And sadly many women (as well as men) are receiving poor and lousy sexual pleasure from their partner.

Let's look at three common reasons why a woman may settle for a smaller size penis. One, when a man gives a woman everything she needs at a particular time in her life and he simply worships her. She'll find it hard to resist his "shortest" coming and will go on allowing the material comforts and treatments to take the place of receiving the physical inner nurturing her vaginal walls require. This man, of course, has learned that he needs to be the best he can and to please her to his death in order to compensate for his lack of. Essentially there is too much pleasing of each other superficially and no sense of pleasing one self sexually.

Secondly, a woman may be up against the wall, hard pressed or sees no way out. She finds it hard to leave him because her life is either threatened, she is being abused or she is simply in fear of something bigger and deeper. Essentially there is a profound lack of confidence and self assurance which makes the courage to leave seem impossible. And in the third reasoning, some women have absolutely no clue as to what sexual pleasure is or what it feels like. This is sexual and sensual ignorance and sexual anesthesia.

Now let's look at the reasons why it is important that a woman is happy with the size and function of her man's penis. First you have to understand that in a relationship the quality of physical love is as important as any of the other dimensions of our existence. To deny the physical world is to deny the earth and you as an expression of her. Physical love is instrumental in bonding, healing and having a complete relationship.

You see, our finger tips (as well as our skin) are the edges of the incredible electromagnetic field that contains our entire body. Within it are positive as well as negative charges. When contact is made between two humans (or living things), stimulation or depletion is initiated according to the quality of the charge.

When someone makes loving contact with another, the electromagnetic field receives a positive energetic charge. In the process you receive a dose of energy that boosts your emotional body and trigger a chain reaction within your organs and systems that stimulates homeostasis.

If the intentions are less than loving the energy field will respond with an impulse to defend. Defense creates tension and a negative climate. This negative charge tends to break down rather the build on a cellular level. This, I hope can be a simple explanation as to why remaining in an unhealthy relationship literally sucks the life out of you. Once again, physical love is much more important to the development and maintenance of our health and well being than we have been taught.

Back to the size of your partner's penis! Our sexual/reproductive organs are a dimension of our physical selves. And it would be wise not to diminish or ignore the energetic and magical powers and functions of those inner body parts. The point I bring to this discussion is that the level of comfort and enjoyment is synonymous to one's (sexual) happiness and fulfillment in and out of the bedroom. It can be compared to a hunger or thirst that constantly needs satisfying and quenching. Unfortunately, the older teachings of Western world lacked greater wisdom and insight and were not prepared to articulate and or decipher the secret code of our sexuality. To nurture and to nourish our sexuality is just as important as working, caring or family and loved ones. Our sexuality requires constant nourishment.

So what are the results of our sexually unfulfilled longings over time? Misplaced anger, physical ailments, depression and much of the detriment seen in our society today.

I'd also like to put light on the other dimension of our sexuality through which healing and wholeness can take place - the way nature intended. Sexual reflexology takes the art of reflexology to the sexual organs and creates a beautiful healing phenomenon. Since the male penis and the female penis each carry and contain meridian or reflex points that correspond with the organs. Then it would be important that both penis and vagina are compatible in order to achieve the healing effect nature intended through what has been termed "sexual reflexology". Creating intention to grace your sexual organs with gratitude and appreciation can be a sacred ritual that brings a powerful and whole new meaning to the art of making love.

So how many still say that the size of their man's penis is not important and does not matter? I knew you'd catch on with smartness. Yes. It is important that the size of a man's penis is snuggled and comfortable for a woman. And it is equally important that the size of a woman's vagina is in harmony with that of her man. They must fit like glove. Otherwise it's a sexual misfit! If it don't fit, you must acquit!!! LOL!!

Angelique Shofar is a sexual wellness & sensual lifestyle coach; a tantric yoga/dance teacher & freelance writer. She facilitates sensual~ cultural events, retreats & workshops around holistic sexuality, wellness & empowerment. She is the founder and director of The Spirit of Wellness. Visit her online at: http://thesexualgriot.typepad.com/ and her blog at http://sexualgriot.blogspot.com/ Email her at: thesexualgriot@gmail.com