Inviting Sex Toys Into the Bedroom

By Tracy Kristalakis

If you've never used sex toys, it can be enticing, intriguing, intimidating and scary all at once. The Rabbit was made popular when Sex and the City featured it one one of the shows. It's not uncommon to hear that sex partners have broken them in a show of jealousy and "how could I possibly keep up with that!" There are a variety of toys to meet every need-everything from mild to wild. Toys offer the benefit of increasing the level of intimacy and closeness in your relationship and the satisfaction of knowing you can give your partner powerful orgasms. It offers the opportunity to for you to grow in your relationship by being able to talk about sex and desire and what's important to you in this area of your life. If you can talk openly and honestly about this, you can do anything! Don't let this opportunity slip away. Here are some tips to help you explore the possibility of using these "tools" with your partner.

====> Talk with a reputable sex toy dealer.

A dealer should make you feel comfortable and answer your questions frankly so you don't feel embarrassed or intimidated. You can find them through websites, physical stores and through the home party system. A dealer will have knowledge about different items and can help you choose the best ones for you.

====> Don't come at your partner with the mega beast dong attached to your harness and say, "I'm ready for you, baby!"

You will scare your partner so badly that they may never have sex with you again. Don't bring up the subject while you are in the throes of passion. Set aside some time when the two of you aren't distracted.

====> Start out slowly.

Start out with something that isn't so intimidating. You can use some sensual products like edible lotions, massage products, feathers. A great start is to use warming massage lotions for an incredibly sexy and sensual massage. If you're not sure about how to give a sensual massage there are great videos that will take you tastefully step-by-step on how to do one. There are edible body powders that you can apply with a feather. Dust this all over your partner's body with the feather and then lick it off.

====> Add a small vibrator that you can use externally.

A bullet or or any egg-shaped vibrator that fits in the palm of your hand is a great way to start. You can target highly erogenous areas of the body and and drive each other wild! A wireless bullet is great to put in the palm of your hand and caress your partner's testicles. It's also great to massage your partner's labia. If you like to play with each other in water, there are waterproof toys as well.

=====> Look at adding some other toys.

After you've talked with your dealer and experimented with some of the less intimidating products, it's time to ramp it up a bit. There are toys that are designed to be used internally in the vagina and anally; there are toys designed to stimulate the penis through pumping action or sliding it through a silicone sleeve. There are also toys you can use to introduce a little bondage and fetish action into your bedroom. If you'd like to explore the wild side and are not quite sure, there are great educational videos that demonstrate how to go about adding this aspect to your relationship or you can consult with a sex educator.

Sex toys can never replace the human touch; they can't cuddle with you or tell you that they love you. What they can do is add a level of excitement and novelty that can take your sex life to the next level.

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