Problems in Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting With N

By Levi Reiss

Whether heterosexual, homosexual, or somewhere in the middle we all want to improve our sex life. Who wants to be alone? We can't offer you an article, magic pill, perfume, potion, or pick-up line that will automatically send you and your intended partner to the bedroom. However, I really do believe that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are.

This article focuses on the problems and pitfalls that prevent you from improving your sex life. Another series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help you get what you want. Here we look at neurosis, numb, and nymphomania.

N is for neurosis. Neuroses (that's the plural), who doesn't have them? But don't bring them with you when you are looking for a mate or to mate. Yes, no matter how you stifle them (neuroses, not mates) they are sure to pop up in all the familiar places. Put a lid on them; keep them under control when you are having fun. And remember, a major neurosis is sexual starvation. When you are enjoying each other, some of your neuroses may just start to weaken and fade. It's worth a try.

N is for numb. If you are really numb you should go see a doctor. Don't be without feelings. You don't have to be operatic or dramatic for a little love affair, or even a big one but there is no need to be numb. You're cheating your partner and yourself by feeling only with your feelers. Don't paint by the numbers, numskull.

N is for nymphomania. When we were young punks we thought that the greatest pleasure would be to meet a nymphomaniac. Boy, were we boys ever wrong. Nymphomania means the inability to derive satisfaction from sexual activity. This is a curse. If that's the case for you (really against you) please seek medical treatment. Why shouldn't you have a satisfying sex life, one that brings pleasure to yourself and your partner? On a perhaps related subject; lots of guys are intimidated by gals with a stronger sex drive than theirs. Many will feel quite inadequate under the circumstances. They too should seek medical treatment. It seems as if a substantial percentage of the population should seek medical treatment. And for the rest of us, keep reading my articles.

Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com. You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com.