Five Tips For Solving Marriage Sexual Problems

By Danielle L. Taylor

If you are having sexual marriage problems, it can be a real strain on your marriage. Some married individuals are afraid of bringing up the subject, or they are too embarrassed to say if they are not satisfied or feeling pressured. Because the sexual side of your marriage is just as important as every other aspect in that you both need to feel happy and satisfied - it's a really important issue. Ignoring it will only allow the problem to get bigger. Here are five tips for solving marriage sexual problems.

1. Don't Be Afraid to Communicate -

The first thing you should do if you are feeling unsatisfied or if there are other sexual problems in your marriage is talk to your spouse. Most of the time, people are actually embarrassed or nervous only until they start talking to their husbands or wives. It's absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about and if you feel that your spouse would be angry or offended, bring it up in a gentle manner. You could hint about it when you're becoming intimate. Say something like, "We should do this more often." It's a great way to let them know that you need something more or different.

2. Leave Hints -

Another thing you can do is leave hints, especially if you want more intimate time with your spouse. Send them a naughty text message while they are at work or walk by them at home wearing something sexy. These little things hint to your spouse that you desire them and want them more often.

3. Play a Game -

This is helpful if you are feeling pressured to have sex too often. Tell your spouse that you want to play a game to make things 'more interesting.' Explain that you will leave a red shirt hanging on the doorknob when you're 'waiting for them' in your bedroom. The catch is that when there's no red shirt, there's no intimacy. Your spouse will likely enjoy games like this and it's a sneaky way to become intimate when you feel like it and to avoid it when you don't.

4. Tell Your Spouse a Story -

Sometimes, the best way to get messages across to your spouse is to pretend you heard it elsewhere. For instance, you could tell your spouse a story about something you read on the internet. It could be a couple who ended up divorcing because one of them was not getting enough intimacy with the other. Make up some twists and interesting points and tell your spouse about it. It will get him or her thinking!

5. See a Sex Therapist -

If nothing else works, you can see a sex therapist. He or she can help you get to the root of your sexual marriage problems and can help you both find a level of satisfaction and happiness in each other. This is a great way to solve your marriage sexual problems so that you are both getting what you want.

These five tips can really help you solve the problems you're having with sex in your marriage. By taking care of the smaller problems as soon as possible, you can prevent them from turning into huge problems down the road!

Danielle L. Taylor is an author and editor for Xstilla.com one of the most active divorce support communities in the Internet. To learn more about divorce, child support, dating or to discuss your problem with compassionate and understanding members of the community go to Xstilla.com