Sex Addiction

By Ava Cadell

Question: I'm a 35-year-old male in a relationship with a woman for three years. We have sex a LOT. She mentioned the other day that she thinks we're sexaholics. My question: How can one tell if they're a sexaholic? I mean, I really, really like sex and will have sex with my partner as much as possible, sometimes to the point of us both being really sore. But I don't like the term "sexaholic" much because, let's face it, it's not a compliment.

Answer: A sexaholic is someone that has a compulsive sexual disorder and can't control him or herself. Here are the symptoms of a sexaholic:

1. Do you think about sex so often that it interferes with your concentration?
2. Are you obsessed with a specific person or sexual act even though it brings you cravings and discomfort?
3. Are you finding your sexual pursuits affecting your ability to manage your life?
4. Do you HAVE to flirt?
5. Do you feel you are entitled to sex?
6. Would life have no meaning without sex?
7. Do you think that sex is the only thing that really gives you value?
8. Do you use sex as an escape from other problems or stress?
9. Have you ever had sex with someone you really didn't want?
10. Do you keep a list of the partners you have been with?
11. Do you need the "high" that the dangerous sex and the risk of being caught can promise?

If your answer to all these questions is "yes," then you are a sex addict and suffer from sexual compulsion. Somehow, I don't think you and your girlfriend fit into that category. Enjoy the close and active relationship that you have and make it even better by playing The Tantric Lover's Game. Surprise yourselves with the new things this game will teach you to do.