Involuntary Celibacy

By Tandy Munson

If you are single or divorced, celibacy won't matter so much, but if you married and had a healthy sexual life, then sex is a biological need for you. In that case, involuntary celibacy is a torture. In a relationship, sex is the most important ingredient, other than understanding. Involuntary celibacy is the condition, when you urge for sex, but for one reason or the other can't indulge in it. Your body craves for it, but is not ready for it.

There can be a number of reasons for involuntary celibacy.

Physical reasons like an accident causing multiple fracture (especially below waist) impairing basic sex activity, may force a sexual active partner to suffer from involuntary celibacy. Like all traumas, it is a non-issue in the initial stage and as the time elapses, gathers monstrous speed and devours the intimate relationship between couples.

Neurological conditions like multiple sclerosis, glandular disorders of the pituitary, thyroid, adrenals, spinal cord injury, which render a man or a woman sexually unfit permanently, are some of the reasons behind involuntary celibacy. These are no longer uncommon episodes. Diabetes Mellitus, a metabolic disorder, which has affected humans for a long time dents the sexual performance of the male partner. This has lead to involuntary celibacy. Premature ejaculation, loss of libido saps the fires that bring the couple together. Different persons seem to respond in different ways though. The result can be a disastrous one- there could be times when a sudden loss of erection occurs and if by chance, there were an erection, there would be a premature ejaculation. It can be quite a distressing situation. Involuntary celibacy can ruin lives of both the partners.

Many-a-times, your doctor may prohibit sex on medical grounds especially if it is life threatening or causing irreparable damage such as major operations, certain heart conditions or when the person is carrying a sexual transmitted infection like HIV. Psychological conditions like Schizophrenia, an acute depression may give rise to phobia for sex or aversion to sex. Such situations give rise to involuntary celibacy and need medical supervision.

Marriage should not be based on the rights to grab sexual gratification and if it is based only on this factor, one can hardly call it a relationship. Marriage is much more than sex if it is bonded by love and mutual respect, sex is just one of the way to express it!

Bottom line, no matter the reason for involuntary celibacy, there is an answer and it starts with you and your partner. Talk and become aware of what you both can and can't do to sexual please each other; go to a doctor for help if it is physically from an accident.

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Sex is effortless when the will is there. When the will is weak or non-existent sex can be extinct. Don't let a sexless marriage destroy a special relationship. For more information and advice on how to get the desire and will back into your sex life please click Involuntary Celibacy