By Kate Dixon
Coping with a sexless marriage is very difficult since the emotional strain which accompanies a sexless relationship is extreme. Indeed, it is one of the most difficult emotional times a person may face in his or her life. However, it is possible to cope in a sexless marriage and to look into the future with optimism and hope.
One of the reasons coping with a sexless relationship is so difficult is that we are used to judge ourselves by the appreciation of other people. We spend a lot of time looking good, buying nice things which make us look good, taking pride in job titles and status symbols whose main service is to ensure we get the positive appreciation of other people.
In our marriage we also seek out the appreciation of another person: our spouse. And sex is the way in which this appreciation is best manifested. Coping with a sexless marriage is hard because that appreciation is taken from us and replaced by a sense of rejection and hurt.
In order to cope with a sexless marriage we need to break the mindset in which our self-worth depends on how other people act towards us and learn to realize our own worth. If you're in a sexless marriage remember that the reason why your relationship has come to this point has little to do with you personally but is the result of relationship issues you have with your partner (unless the sexlessness is the result of some injury your partner sustained). You are not to blame, and you should know that you are worthy of a much better relationship.
By attaining this mindset, in which your sense of self does not rely on your spouse's perceived approval, you'll be able to come to terms with your sexless marriage, see the root causes of what brought it on, and to find ways to fix it.
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