Sex Game - Bedtime Story

By Tony Higgins

"Bedtime Story" is a sex game in which you tell your partner an erotic story before you have sex. You choose a story you think you will both like. Here are some examples of how to do it:

1. A good idea for a first time is to look for an exciting story, in magazines, books, or on the Internet, copy it or print it out, and then tell your partner that you want to tell her a bedtime story. She can just relax, maybe close her eyes, and let her mind drift off while she listens to the story...

2. You can make the appointment that you will both fetch a story somewhere, and then read to each other the next time you feel like having sex. You can use these stories just to get in the mood, or to act them out together, or to inspire your lover to try something new.

3. A variation is that you collect three different stories, and then let her pick one story, the one she likes most. This is the story you will then act out. So make sure the story you pick is one you can act out, in the bedroom, there and then.

4. Another very exciting variation is to both write your own erotic stories, with your own fantasies, and then read them out loud for each other. Try it, it does not have to be perfect, not everybody is a born writer, and you don't have to be...it will excite you both...

5. If you are used to writing erotic stories and then act them out together, you can also give your partner an envelope with another story you want to act out. She can read the story in a coffee-shop, at work, any place, when she is alone. You make a "sex-date" for a time and a place when you want to act this out, when you hand over the envelope.

The reading and writing of erotic stories and listening to them can be a great way to stimulate your creativity and your sex-life.

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Love and Sex

By Tom Starck

How can anyone Enjoy Free Sex all the time?

Without the Need for Condoms?

No Fear of Sexually Transmitted Diseases

and

No Problems with the Spouse?

We asked many people those questions and only a handful came up with the right answers. Most people felt that such privileges are reserved only for the very rich and famous.

So we decided that the time has finally come to develop a full proof program of Rekindling Romance to Stay In Love. With this program we can now make this dream come true for most ordinary people.

How can Ordinary Couples have Extraordinary Sex?

The circumstances of each couple Rekindling Romance to Stay In Love need to be analyzed. Several issues should to addressed and resolved.

1. Take Control of your Body and your Soul: Good physical performance is a must. So there are exercises, medications and supplements that could minimize limitations and problem areas.

2. Learn Everything about Sex: You can't be a sexual Superman and be Rekindling Romance to Stay In Love with Vanilla Sex every night. You've got to know your stuff and do them well. In our program we provide all the sexual knowledge that has been discovered through the ages. You will learn new techniques that you can't even imagine their existence.

3. Take the Time to Create Epic Sex Events: Most men spend more time reading their TV Guide than planning how to seduce their wives. Why not put some of this time to good use and plan how to give her 4 or 5 orgasms? We have the check lists that could make your planning a breeze. Rekindling Romance to Stay In Love will become a certainty.

4. Fight Sexual Routine: Rekindling Romance to Stay In Love needs a sizzle. You must create surprises, get out of the rut, assume different personalities and drive your spouse crazy with excitement. If you've run out of ideas, we can show you hundreds of surprises but most importantly, we'll teach how to create the unexpected in your very own ways5. Eliminate

5. Negativity: Why fight over it if you can settle it in bed? After a few orgasms the usual problems start looking trivial. Then you can work on making the necessary adjustments and compromises that would take care of the problems in the long run. Rekindling Romance to Stay In Love will pave the way to turning the frog into a prince and enjoying the benefits.

To further the conversation you could express your desire to stop allowing yourself to feel the guilt, shame and blame that you hear from her when you express your sexual desires: "I'm unwilling to be embarrassed about my beautiful desire for sexual intimacy.

And I'm wondering if you are willing to explore other ways of getting your needs met, of protecting yourself, and of making sure that whatever you do you do out of love and not guilt blame or shame?"

Transform the way you communicate and you can transform your relationship with anyone.

Sex is a blast both for your brain and your body when you are creative and you eagerly explore your fantasies," said Abie, a journalist. Julie said, "Don't be hung up on gspots and multiple orgasm! And remember, clitoral stimulation helps a lot!" So, take the initiative and be lively so that sex retains its freshness. In middle age, sex is not just about performance expertise and physical satisfaction. It is about forming new emotional bonds.

As we grow older the sexual" insecurities of adolescence sometimes resurface. But we can overcome these and take our sex life to new heights by exploring our bodies, feelings and needs anew.

Experimentation helps people lighten up, feel new sensations and stop worrying. This will bring a playful magic into our sex lives.

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Between Love and Sex

By Tom Starck

After you have induced a state of hypnotic self-relaxation concentrate on your specific sexual problem, assuming you have one. Ask yourself a series of questions. In answering them during your self-analysis stage of autohypnosis, try to develop some understanding of your particular sexual maladjustment. You will surprise yourself as to how much self-insight you can gain in this way, which will enable you to find solution to your problem

Remind yourself that you are a better lover than you think you are. Don't be obsessed with the idea that you don't have the ability to love. Learn to experience the emotion of love within yourself. You'll soon discover that you'll want to and can love someone else. Self love (the normal type) should precede man woman love.

Sex is something relationship experts universally agree will bolster just about every area of a marriage - including its thrill quotient. "Increased sexual contact," says Lopez, "is a way to recapture the erotic force that brought you together in the first place." Weiner-Davis tells of one woman who, soon after resolving to have more sex with her husband, not only characterized her marriage as more thrilling but said that he suddenly began mowing the lawn regularly and making her coffee in the morning - unasked.

For many women being a parent means a 24 hour workday that is completely devoted to the care, love and raising of a small utterly dependent child. By the time the child has dropped off to sleep a women is exhausted. This exhaustion is so complete that she is very sleepy even when her husband feels like having sex.

This sexless marriage feeling can also endure when the children are about 5 to 6 years of age. In these cases the demands made on the mother's time mean that she has forgotten about being a woman. She has turned into a mother absolutely and totally.

In this part of the marriage a women will need to have time to become a woman again for the sexless marriage part of the couple's life to disappear. This period of time can be very frustrating for the husband. If he has the patience to endure the setbacks to their marriage then the rewards are great.

The best way for a couple to turn a sexless marriage into a fulfilling marriage is to find ways of being alone. Baby sitters, quiet times together can help with the process of a couple becoming a couple again. At these times it is necessary for the couple to relax and let the day's stresses drain away.

The thing is sex sells. And girl kissing girl sells even more! Let's not forget the success the girls from TATU had. TATU's lyrics and videos allude to relationship between the two of them and the girls promote it during interviews. The Daily Mail (London) wrote: "Tatu degrades marketing and music at the same time."

So, is Nelly Furtado using the same marketing strategy as the girls from Tatu? Well, whether she is using this marketing strategy or not, she definitely is drawing lots of attention. Her songs are in top charts and that says it all.

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Sexual Discovery - It's a Man's World

By Sean Christopher

I'm a hiker, and I'm anything but a boyscout. I hurry down the trail half put together with little notion of what I'll find and when I'll return. Consequently, I've many times beat my way out of the woods in total darkness, been cut off by sheer cliffs or ice I can't cross, and once I found myself in the midst of fire weed clad only in a swimsuit and sandals.

It sounds stupid, I know, but I wouldn't live any other way. The amazing things I discover are found only with reckless abandon and a push around one more bend in the trail before it gets too dark to see any longer.

That's real life - that's also real sex.

While male daring and passion for discovery is most often admired in guys, when we carry our craving to climb over the next hilltop of our sexuality, our culture waves a red flag because, after all, there are boundaries to our sexuality. Strangely, men succumb to the wet blanket of shame that our society casts upon us in order to keep our sexuality set on the cool cycle.

Discovery is male. It chides us, "Why stop? Let's keep going!" Last week my son and wife and I dug a giant hole on the beach and watched the water fill the bottom. "Why stop there?" we thought. So, we dug the deepest hole on the beach, and he stuck a tall pole in it to mark our achievement.

Discovery is a guy's quest to connect, to climb inside, to learn one more thing. You ask one more question, drive one more hour, nail up one more sheet of plywood, make one more cast in the bay. You reach, discover and then connect.

Male sexuality is no different. It's purely male and purely sexual to chase down one more lane and explore some elusive erotic quality of your lover, a wilder physical sensation you could try together, or something you never thought you could do but wanted to try. Your lover, surprised, might say, "Umm. What are you trying to prove? Dear, this isn't a track meet." You think, "It's not?" It's a natural God-given desire for you, yet also your role to lead your wife on the adventure.

Society tells us to push all the bounds in business, education, work ethic and play, but surprisingly, society also imposes it's chilling bounds into our own bedrooms. Your passion for discovery gives you the ability to feed starving nations, find fuel sources or to put on a globe-stopping musical performance. Yet, men and their wives, anxious to explore one-another's bodies and souls and discover unimaginable union still ask, "Is this OK?" These words are death to lovers.

Guys are pioneers, and while western culture quivers in bashful sexuality, you must lovingly, but courageously push around the bend in the trail of your sexuality. You will never sexually grow enough. There is always another hill to climb over. There is always a deeper sexual union to discover with your beloved.

The chiding of maleness is welcome as it gives you courage to launch a long sexual adventure with your beloved. You vow to never ask, "Is this OK?", because your marriage bed belongs to you and your lover. You possess the words of maleness which you can laughingly and courageously take into your bedroom, "Why stop? Let's keep going!"

Sean Christopher writes about sexuality and culture. Read his newest book Orgasmic Guy: Unleash the Hidden Truth. Sean's books, articles, resources and his blog OG Talk: Straight Talk About Male Sexuality can be found by visiting http://www.orgasmicguy.com/

Pick an Orgasm, Any Orgasm

By Sean Christopher

Male orgasm, as in cards, never lets you know what hand you'll be dealt next. "It's all in the cards," as they say, "until you lay down." You know what I'm talking about. You stop panting after an orgasm, catch your breath a little bit, and your lover says, "Wow! What was that all about?"

"Geez, I don't know." You shake it off and try to remember before your orgasm. "It just came out of nowhere! The ends of my fingers are still tingling. It seemed like it would never end." You shudder a little. "I'm still not sure it has, yet."

There are face cards and there are numbered cards. Some male orgasms, I'd say qualify as a face card. The colors and design really stand out and you tend to put those guy sexual sensations in a category of their own.

As a writer, a student of male sexuality and an ordinary guy, I resist putting names and labels on something as dynamic, mysterious and fantastic as a guy's orgasm. But let's face it, our orgasms come in a variety pack and we can learn a lot about ourselves, our love making and our sexual growth if we just give a tad bid more attention to male sexual experience rather than "just getting one off."

The Male Full Body Orgasm

This is the big kahuna of a guy orgasm. The male full body orgasm is most likely the model the dude above experienced. This is the kind you fall into rather than pump up to. She's probably already come and you are enjoying the long ride of kissing, caressing and deep, slow thrusting that lasts long. You're very relaxed, but incredibly aroused and surprisingly able to delay ejaculation. This is because you held back at the beginning of intercourse and your stimulation and focus wasn't only on your penis. It was spread out. Now, it seems you can make love forever. And, you probably can.

This orgasm has an epicenter not necessary in your groin. It could be anywhere -- your belly, your butt, your thighs. You won't know till it comes. When the full body orgasm comes, it doesn't seem to start with ejaculation, but a deep inner moan that increases in amplitude, and rolls like an earthquake reaching out to your extremities. It can begin to subside a bit, but don't stop because there's always more with this kind.

Male G-Spot Orgasm

The male G-spot orgasm is sometimes referred to as a prostate orgasm because your male G-spot is found in your prostate gland. If you slip a lubed finger into your rectum. You can feel the prostate as well as it's wowing sensation. It's just an inch or two in toward your front. Lots of guys use anal toys both in lovemaking and male masturbation to experience a male G-spot orgasm.

A male G-spot orgasm is spicy but deep like a rich red wine. For women, sexual experience is mostly inside, and we think of guy sex experience as only outside. With a G-spot orgasm, you experience that inside sensation that's not entirely gained through penis stimulation. A nice benny to the G-spot orgasm is that they can easily be multiples which come and go like waves on a seashore.

Ejaculatory Orgasm

An ejaculatory orgasm is reliable. Men can summon up an ejaculatory orgasm from a few seconds to a matter of a few minutes. It's the kind of orgasm that emanates either only from your penis or at most from your groin and not much beyond. Most of the pleasure you enjoy from an ejaculatory orgasm is from the gushing sensation you feel from the semen expelling from your penis. And the more the better.

Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm

Why would I not want to ejaculate? Because a non-ejaculatory orgasm allows you the privilege to orgasm, make love, masturbate or whatever else you like to do for as long as you want. Most guys experience a time period after ejaculation during which they really don't feel much like sex. If you delay your ejaculation till later or till tomorrow, you enjoy non-ejaculatory orgasm.

The longer you make love, spread your focus, and relax your muscles, your orgasmic response will build. First you feel the fluttering in your belly or groin as you dangle on the edge of ejaculation, but you ease off and delay it, the sensations come more frequently and with greater intensity till you can say these are definitely orgasms -- less intense, but orgasms. You play on the edge like a hawk on the wind till you decide you've had enough.

Contemplative Orgasm

You find yourself lost in orgasm in a place much bigger than you are. Contemplative orgasm is spiritual. You can't define it so much by how it feels as you define it by where your focus is in the experience. If your focus is on something larger than a physical experience, and your desire to connect with someone outside of yourself, you're edging into contemplative orgasm territory. Sadly, many of us bluntly divide our spiritual lives from sexual lives, but when you allow God to be present in your sexuality, you know that orgasm is undoubtedly spiritual.

Male Multiple Orgasm

Male multiple orgasms present themselves in almost all of the above experiences except possibly the ejaculatory orgasm. It's like going to the dance. If you're going to dance all the dances, then you'll want to stay all night. Multiple orgasm isn't likely to happen for you if you quit too soon. You've got to give it time, focus and allow yourself to fall into it. Like the dance, each one gets more fun.

Sean Christopher writes about sexuality and culture. Read his newest book Orgasmic Guy: Unleash the Hidden Truth. Sean's books, articles, resources and his blog OG Talk: straight talk about male sexuality can be found by visiting http://www.orgasmicguy.com/

Sex Tips on Oral Sex - The 3 Biggest Oral Sex Mistakes Men Make

By Nick Lombardi

Why should men be concerned with oral sex tips and providing oral sex for their wives? Because only 35% of women are able to climax from intercourse alone. On the other hand, up to 60% of women can climax from oral sex. Men need good sex tips on oral sex because when oral sex is performed correctly, the percentage of women who can achieve orgasm soars. When a man wants to satisfy his woman, he will want to discover as many sex tips on oral sex as he can.

The problem is most men do not understand how to give oral sex to a woman. There are three big mistakes men make when giving oral sex to women. To understand these mistakes, men must understand their women - particularly their women's most sensitive area: the clitoris.

The clitoris has more sensitive nerve endings in one pea sized area than a man has in his entire genital area. Where men need a harder touch, women need relatively microscopic movements to achieve the same feeling. Because men's genitals are out and exposed to rubbing against clothing and dry air, they are relatively tough and need harder stimulation - on the other hand, women's genitales are protected and generally not touched by clothing or air, so they are sensitive. This is another reason women are so sensitive on their clitoris and why they have different needs from men during oral sex. However, men misunderstand this, so they do what would feel good to them, which has the opposite effect on their women. This leads to the mistakes men make with oral sex:

Oral Sex Tips - Mistake Number 1: Too Intense. Many men like intense repetitive touch; so they automatically think women will like intense touch during oral sex. To feel what this might be like for a woman, take your tongue and repeatedly rub the roof of your mouth for 30 seconds. Notice how the roof of your mouth becomes raw and numb. A woman's clitoris is 1000 times more sensitive than the roof of your mouth - so straight repetitive touching like this during oral sex will be unpleasant for her to say the least.

Oral Sex Tips - Mistake Number 2: Not Listening. Mistake number two men make when giving oral sex to their women is they do not listen to body language. When you are down there, you may notice her put a little pressure on one thigh or the other - or she may tilt her pelvis one way or another. During passionate moments, these movements are often misunderstood as "press into me harder". However, what she is doing is directing you. The movements are small, so be on the lookout for them - the reason they are small is the area being stimulated and surrounding area is small. Very slight movements in position or angle can have a huge effect. So - you stay still and let her position herself where she wants. Just know this: when in fact she wants you to go harder or deeper, she will let you know.

Oral Sex Tips - Mistake Number 3: Unshaven Face. This one is a no brainer, yet many men make this mistake. Men need to shave before performing oral sex - make it close and make it clean. Men don't like sand paper rubbed on their parts - and women don't like it either. Do you have a goatee or a beard? Be sure not to trim it on a day you may be with your woman. Freshly shaved whiskers are like little sharp daggers. Additionally, wash your face and beard, then use cream rinse on it to make it as soft as it can be. She will appreciate it!

Avoiding these mistakes when giving oral sex to a woman will increase her pleasure immensely; her chances of having an orgasm during oral sex will be greatly increased; and she will want to be satisfied again and again. Men who discover the right oral sex techniques can become magnates for their woman's desire and sex drive.

Nick Lombardi helps married men rekindle romance in their marriages to improve their wives' libido and improve their sex lives. When you want discover more about giving your wife amazing oral sex to make her want you more often, start here

Couple Swapping - Could You Be a Swinger?

By Neo G Anderson

Today, more American couples than ever are suffering the emotional devastation associated with infidelity, stagnant sex lives, and lack of intimacy. These common marital issues often result in ruined relationships and it is reported that over 50% of marriages end in divorce. This is an alarming statistic the root cause of which warrants examination.

Certainly, every relationship goes through rough spots and requires constant work. However, over time, so many married couples begin to lose the connection that initially brought them together. This often manifests itself in cheating and generally reprehensible behavior. In some cases, the cause of this is a general complacency or absence of sexual connection. When this occurs, one or both partners may stray and engage in extra-marital affair.

All humans crave variety and excitement. There are very few of us who have not fantasized about being with a co-worker or neighbor. However, there is a way to satisfy these urges without ever being unfaithful to your partner. The swinger community, or those who engage in "couple swapping" has discovered a way to maintain healthy relationships by removing many of the stressors associated with committing to a single sex partner for life. The secret is this: A couple engages in this form of entertainment together so the issue of cheating is eliminated! In fact, there is no other group that frowns on infidelity more than swingers.

Many find that the excitement, anticipation and after effects of couple swapping provides a charge to what may normally be a "vanilla" sex life. Consider the bond and sense of unity that is created by planning a date or visiting local couples clubs together. Also, compared to a single's life, a swinger always has a "wingman" and knows exactly who they are going home with at the end of the night. The risk of not finding the right connection on a given evening is virtually eliminated! Swingers also experience a greater sense of appreciation for their partner in that they see how attractive their partner can be to others. This often creates a great resurgence of romance for a couple that has been married for some time. Finally, the simple fact is that playing or having sex with others you are attracted to is just plain fun!

Those who have considered couple swapping often have real, genuine concerns. These are certainly well founded as the concept of swinging goes against what most of us were taught by society. In order to successfully engage in swinging, married couples must be in a loving, committed relationship. Otherwise, the process of exploring swinging will be like throwing gas on a fire. There are a few things that you should be willing to accept before ever making the intro to swinging.

- A couple must confront insecurities about themselves and potentially in sharing their partner with others. If the mental anguish associated with swinging makes the experience horrible or creates a high degree of jealousy, then swinging may not be for you. It is essential that individuals get over personal hang-ups and embrace a sense of self-confidence.

- Communication is the key ingredient to ensuring a successful entry to the swinging lifestyle. If both partners have not agreed on rules and how best to proceed on every detail together, then disaster will be the inevitable result.

- A married couple must be so confident in their relationship that they can emotionally separate their love for one another and the simple act of having sex. This seems counter-intuitive in that most of us have only had sex with those we love. While sex is certainly a way to show love, on the biological level it is more about physical pleasure. Have fun with it.

In the event that you and your partner may be interested in couple swapping, the next obvious question is how to get started. There is no typical route in that some couples take small, deliberate steps while others stumble upon it by chance. The easiest and least risky way to meet those in the "lifestyle" is to visit local couples clubs. While this can seem intimidating at first, the vast majority of swingers are courteous, classy and not pushy at all. Simply explain your situation and they will be pleased to share their experiences. Most are interested in making friends long before jumping into the sack. It is as easy as searching the Internet for the lifestyle or couples clubs in your area.

Alternatively, many find that there is a mutual attraction with another couple that they are already friends with. Often, this is characterized by flirtation or sexy talk during parties between drinks. If you are feeling adventurous, suggest an intro to swinging game such as strip poker, spin the bottle or truth or dare. These games often provide an "innocent" way for couples to begin swapping on a very mild level without fear of rejection or awkwardness. Married couples party games are the perfect way to establish comfort while exploring swinging. After all, it is just a fun, sexy game that is being played - not full swapping. Who knows, as the game play heats up and the clothes start to come off, you might find that you already are a swinger!

In the end, those who choose to engage in couple swapping should do so only if in a stable relationship. Swinging is an absolute blast and can reinvigorate a stale sex life. Don't take yourself too seriously, constantly communicate with your partner, and most importantly, HAVE FUN!

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Getting Women Into Bed - 3 Top Seduction Techniques Every Guy Should Know

By Maria Holland

This may sound strange coming from a woman, but every guy at one point in his life just wants to go out and get laid! Well the real truth behind is that women do as well, disregard anything you've heard a woman say; all woman love sex but you will find that they will not often approach you for it. That's why I'm here, I am going to give you some great tips to have a great night and or nights.

The first tip I can give you is make sure you are giving out the right body language, always portray confidence, have your head held high and look around the room. This shows the woman that you are a bold man and will be able to dominate her properly.

The next tip and probably the most important is humor, always keep her laughing, the more she laughs the greater your chances are in getting her into bed. Whilst she is laughing she is having a good time and that is what women are looking for the most.

The third tip I can give you is to touch her. Now i don't mean in a creepy way, but as your talking lightly put a hand on her shoulder or after making a joke playfully nudge her. Depending on the response you get you can get more and more bold in your touches until she reciprocates your advances.

This method is great and easy to use because the initial touch will not set off any alarms with her because it will just be a casual touch that you would do to a friend, but for you it is great because you can use it to gauge her reaction to you!

For more tips on how to pick up women and how to seduce them on the date i highly recommend GuyGetsGirl. It's quite simply the best seduction guide on the web at the moment. To read more about GuyGetsGirl take a look at my in-depth review on the guide at Top Seduction Techniques

3 Great Tips to Leave Her Coming Back For More in the Bedroom

By Maria Holland

Every guy wants to make his girl moan for hours but for most it is simply a task too far out of reach, but don't worry I am going to give you some sure fire tips so that you can keep her in bed for days at a time!

Keep Fit

Keeping you body in tip top physical shape is key, if you can't jog around the block for 30 minutes chances are you are not going to be able to have a lengthened sex session. So keep in good shape so that you are good to go all night! This does not mean become a gym freak just make sure that you are capable of a few hours of exercise!

Foreplay Is Your Domain

What you must always keep in mind when having sex with a woman is that women do generally take longer to orgasm than men, so concentrate on the foreplay to start with. You want to get her nice and in the mood by pleasing her for a while first, this will not only make it better for you later when you both orgasm together and it will make her keep coming back for more and more!

Get Adventurous

There is nothing that turns a woman on more than a bit of adventure, so get creative! Even if it's just in the kitchen a change of surroundings is a guaranteed way of getting her in the mood. And for the more adventurous of you out there there are no limits to where you can do it, just make sure you keep it legal and if you don't then always keep an eye out for Johnny Law!

For More Tips...

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Great Lovemaking - How to Get Your Woman to Orgasm

By Lia Felabhoe

Not all woman reach orgasm during lovemaking, some fake it and some experience it when masturbating on their own but not during sexual intercourse. This leaves a question to the capability of men to give women pleasure during intercourse. Are most men not capable of giving women what they want in bed? If you feel that your woman is not satisfied during lovemaking, you have to learn how to get your woman to orgasm during intercourse and give her sexual satisfaction.

To get your woman to orgasm there are things that you need to do.

Lovemaking is an art and you can learn the techniques in satisfying any woman in bed. Even if women are not expressive with what they want in bed, they also want to get sexual satisfaction during lovemaking. There are men who are selfish and they only think of their own satisfaction leaving women unsatisfied and unhappy during intercourse. Sexual dissatisfaction is sometimes one of the reasons for divorce and infidelity. To prevent this from happening, you have to make your sex life satisfying and exciting for her.

Here are some tips to get your woman to orgasm during sexual intercourse:

Do not rush her and take your time. Timing is very important to get your woman to orgasm during intercourse. If men reaches climax easily, it is not the same with women. Take your time and slow down because women need more time to reach orgasm and you cannot rush her. Put more time for foreplay and caressing her.

Discuss and communicate about sex. For women, sex is not just physical but she also needs to be emotionally attached to you. Share with each other about your desires and fantasies in bed. The more you communicate and talk about sex, the more things become easier for you. You will know how to get your woman to orgasm during intercourse.

Focus on her needs. If you want to give what she wants, you have to make her feel that this is about her. Be responsive and focus to her needs. If she knows that you care and she felt loved and adored, she will forget all her inhibitions and totally give herself to you. A woman who is very much willing and enjoys sex with you makes lovemaking exciting and satisfying.

Lovemaking is an art and sometimes a learning process. Maybe you have failed a couple of times to get your woman to orgasm during intercourse but if you really want to satisfy her there is no reason to fail now. Do you want to discover the secret techniques to give her multiple mind blowing orgasms? To find out visit Secret Orgasm To know more about love and relationships visit All About Relationships Lia Felabhoe writes informative articles on various subjects including Great Lovemaking- How to Get Your Woman to Orgasm. You are allowed to publish this article in its entirety provided that author's name, bio and website links must remain intact and included with every reproduction.

Problems in Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting With I

By Levi Reiss

Whether heterosexual, homosexual, or somewhere in the middle we all want to improve our sex life. Who wants to be alone? We can't offer you an article, magic pill, perfume, potion, or pick-up line that will automatically send you and your intended partner to the bedroom. However, I really do believe that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are. We present a double series of articles for the letter I.

This article focuses on the problems and pitfalls that prevent you from improving your sex life. Another series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help you get what you want. Here we examine idiotic, imitate, and immature.

I is for idiotic. Don't think that you can lame brain your way into that chosen bedroom. Even idiotic jokes run the risk of convincing potential partners to return without you to their apartment, lock the door, turn on the boob tube, and enjoy some idiotic jokes. That way they get to hear a more-or-less professional and not have to worry about an idiot face to face who may end up doing something dumb. Does this sound unfair (or even idiotic?) Perhaps. While you're at it (and hoping to go at it), why not make an effort to be intelligent? It might be fun, it might get you somewhere, and it's good practice for the future. P.S. Many women claim that if they want to be successful with most guys they have to dumb themselves down so they don't scare these little geniuses away. Isn't that terrible? I am under the impression that this pathetic situation has improved somewhat over the years. But maybe I'm being a little idiotic.

I is for imitate. Be yourself. Why try to be Humphrey Bogart, Cary Grant, Rock Hudson, or Jason whatever his name is? The same goes for the distaff side. You are you. While you can have fun doing a bit on some famous names, don't seriously imitate them. And don't imitate your older sister who seems to have a great love life. This goes double for guys. I mean the older sister stuff.

I is for immature. I am sure that even today one of the great high school putdowns is He is sooo immature. Ditto for She. In fact the big change from the old days is that now the quest for maturity starts a hop, skip, and a jump from the cradle. I am willing to guess that not too many six-year-olds want to be tagged as immature. Do they even know what immaturity means? Do we even know what immaturity means? When you think about it, once you are mature the rest is downhill. The more mature you are, the faster the downhill ride. Having said that, when you catch his or her eye, don't let your target think you're immature. Or you'll be blubbering with your toys in the bathtub.

Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com. You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com.

Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting With I

By Levi Reiss

Do you want to improve your sex life? It seems that most people do, whether they are heterosexuals, homosexuals, or somewhere in between. If you are like most of us, you want more sex and you want better sex, and you want it now. Don't believe that there is a magic pick-up line, pill, potion, or perfume that will make it happen immediately, if not sooner. But we do believe that our articles can make a major difference in your sex life, and even in your love life, if that's what you want. Why not give them a try?

We have so many suggestions for improving your sex life that we are putting together an alphabetical list of what to do. Just so you don't miss out, we are also putting together an alphabetical list of what not to do. Don't waste all your time, effort, perhaps money, and perhaps love by putting your foot in your mouth when what you really want; we all know what you really want. We present a double series of articles for the letter I. The focus here is on impassioned, impractical, and improve.

I is for impassioned. Obviously there is passion and passion. If you don't have any passion in the sack you are in trouble. But when you think about it, if you are not impassioned outside of the sack you're also in trouble. You only live once, so make sure that you do, in fact, live. Throw your heart into it. Throw your guts into it. And then you may be able to throw...

I is for impractical. Practicality bites. And it's rarely love bites. As a bit of a digression, does anyone call love bites sex bites? Back to practicality - did you ever hear anyone say, "I just couldn't say no, I couldn't keep my hands off him/her, he or she is so, so practical."? Granted, there are marriages based on such considerations. But love affairs, or flings, I hardly think so. It just seems so impractical.

I is for improve. We can all improve. There are two reasons to think that you can't improve, either you are under the impression that you are God's gift to humanity or you are so depressed that you will never climb out of that hole. I don't know who you are but I'm going to guess that the truth is somewhere in between. I remember when my daughter was a preteen. We ran into one of her friends who we hadn't seen in a while and asked her if she were still taking the piano. The answer was no, she didn't need to anymore. The implication was that she learned all there was to learn. Funny, I haven't heard or read anything about her piano career and it's been more than ten years. To be fair she did change cities. I just bashed her name into Google, with and without her new city. And came up with nothing. Maybe Google needs to improve its act. Nobody is perfect, even in the multi-billion dollar range. My guess is that they are working on it, as we all should.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com. You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com.

Sexual Ignorance - It's a Scary Thing on the Planetxual Ignorance - It's a Scary Thing on the Planet

By Lance Winslow

If you ask someone who studies civilization and society, someone who politically is left leaning, but realistic enough to see the reality, they will often list in the top ten problems of humankind; Sexual Ignorance. This includes such things as: "sexual slavery, sexual repression, venereal disease, and objectification of women, children, and men," according to the experts.

Sexual ignorance is a huge issues, and it is quite scary to watch those documentaries, as they ask African Children; "Do you know how people get HIV-AIDS?" or when you ask an African Man in the Congo; "Do you know how you can get rid of HIV-AIDS?" Yes, there are issues around the world that are as old as the species.

Sexual problems are not a human invention, and perhaps you have not heard that Dolphins male members have been found to coax a female dolphin out on her own for gang rapes. Humans are animals, expecting them to operate differently is going to take a lot of work. So, if this is the case, what on Earth is the solution?

Well, it appears that education is the solution and a high moralistic society that demands justice against such problems, whether they are someone what innate or not, indeed, they are unacceptable and that is something we all need to agree on, no matter where in the World we live. These issues are not okay to turn a blind eye, and it is time that we come to terms with it all and did something about it. We need a long-term solution - planet wide!

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Coping With a Sexless Marriage - How to Cope in a Sexless Marriage

By Kate Dixon

Coping with a sexless marriage is very difficult since the emotional strain which accompanies a sexless relationship is extreme. Indeed, it is one of the most difficult emotional times a person may face in his or her life. However, it is possible to cope in a sexless marriage and to look into the future with optimism and hope.

One of the reasons coping with a sexless relationship is so difficult is that we are used to judge ourselves by the appreciation of other people. We spend a lot of time looking good, buying nice things which make us look good, taking pride in job titles and status symbols whose main service is to ensure we get the positive appreciation of other people.

In our marriage we also seek out the appreciation of another person: our spouse. And sex is the way in which this appreciation is best manifested. Coping with a sexless marriage is hard because that appreciation is taken from us and replaced by a sense of rejection and hurt.

In order to cope with a sexless marriage we need to break the mindset in which our self-worth depends on how other people act towards us and learn to realize our own worth. If you're in a sexless marriage remember that the reason why your relationship has come to this point has little to do with you personally but is the result of relationship issues you have with your partner (unless the sexlessness is the result of some injury your partner sustained). You are not to blame, and you should know that you are worthy of a much better relationship.

By attaining this mindset, in which your sense of self does not rely on your spouse's perceived approval, you'll be able to come to terms with your sexless marriage, see the root causes of what brought it on, and to find ways to fix it.

To read more about how to solve a sexless marriage, click here: Fix Your Sexless Marriage Kate Dixon is an author and sexless relationship expert. To read more about Kate Dixon's method of solving sexless marriages, go to this website: Surviving a Sexless Marriage

1 Simple Habit Helps Women Orgasm From Intercourse Alone

By Kat Williams

Ladies, do you currently enjoy having sex with your husband/boyfriend, yet think you would appreciate it even more if you could climax more often as a result of his lovemaking? You're not alone. In a survey taken of over 500 women by researchers Solot and Miller, only 6% of women were able to reach orgasm from intercourse alone. And only in specific positions.

There are many reasons why this is true. Men and women are wired differently both physically and mentally. Men often ejaculate long before the woman is satisfied. Not only that, many men use strokes more likely to bring him to orgasm than her. So does that mean we can blame all our problems on men?

No.

There are many things we ladies can do to improve the situation. We can communicate and tell him what motions feel best and bring us closer to orgasm. We can also resist the urge to "fake it". This only makes it worst because we are encouraging bad habits. Most importantly, we can train our mind and body to orgasm faster, stronger and more frequently.

How?

Time and time again, sex researchers keep reaching the same conclusion. That masturbation is not only the fastest and easiest way for a woman to reach orgasm, especially if she has never had one before, but in terms of physical sensation alone, masturbation produces the most pleasurable orgasm. But at this point you may be saying to yourself:

"That's great, but I want to reach orgasm by having sex with my man!"

Well here's the thing, studies show that women who masturbate often are far more likely to be orgasmic, even with their partners, than women who don't. Climaxing through masturbation trains you to climax through sex with your partner. An orgasm is a series of vaginal muscle spasms. The more orgasms you have from masturbation, the more you tone these muscles and make it easier for you to have orgasms during sex. So masturbate as often as you can...especially with a vibrator! Your ability to orgasm will increase and so will your sexual desire.

But sex is more than just running through a orgasm "to-do" list. You don't have to climax to enjoy the touch, feel and intimacy of your partner. But reaching orgasm will make both of you feel better. Not only are real orgasms good for your health and enjoyment, but they will do marvels for his male ego.

So ladies, stop waiting around for guys to figure things out. Why not take responsibility for your own pleasure and happiness? Go to http://www.greatsex4girls.com now. Sign up for free exclusive access to website and newsletter dedicated to female sexual pleasure. (Sign up in next 48 hours and be eligible to get free copy of up coming e-book guide to female sexual pleasure. First draft will be ready in a few days and only a few readers are needed to review book before it hits market!) If you want to really learn how to receive maximum sexual pleasure and please your man like no other woman then sign up now at http://www.greatsex4girls.com Your Friendly Neighborhood Sex Lady, Kat Williams

How Men Can Get a Six Pack From Sex

By Frank Silva

Getting that fabulous looking body for the summer and walking the streets like a superstar, advertising the belly button, sporting the crop tops, bikini's or no shirt at all is what we love to grace in a summer lifestyle.

Working out at the gym, running or taking part in sports isn't everyone's thing, but sexual intercourse plays a part in almost every living person's relationship or lifestyle. So why not kill to birds in one stone by getting that summer stomach with your bedroom sessions.

The positions that you take when you undertake when undertaking sexual activity can also double up as an aerobic exercise that helps you to lose calories, shed fat and get yourself a flat stomach and six pack.

Recommended frequency to get results six pack results from sex.

You should aim for a minimum of 3 sessions a week with no longer than 2 days break for recovery. For a quality high intensity workout, you should aim for 15-30minutes.

If you cannot go too intense initially, than aiming for 30 minutes to 45 minutes for a session.

How long should I aim for in a session.

Note

• To participate in this activity, you will require a sexual partner.

• Due to the amount of physical interaction and aerobic activity, you will perspire sweat and body heat.

• If you suffer from premature ejaculation, it would be beneficial to take a delay cream to assist with the intimacy session.

• You will also want to focus your sexual energy into your abdomen area. Upon the completion of your session, then focus your sexual energies into your penis.

• Also combined with your nutrition lifestyle, you will see your results appear a lot quicker.

• If you have trouble with sustaining an erection for that amount of time, a use supplement that will aid with sustaining an erection. This will enable you to sustain for the amount of time required to complete the workout.

• Do not ejaculate before the end of the designated time session.

• Do not let your partner do anything to prevent you from properly doing the exercise technique.

Men will require to have their partner go into a submissive state for the duration of the intercourse.

Top abs
Get your partner to be either on their feet in a squat position facing you or on their knees raised leaning forward towards you.

You will then pleasure your partner by raising your hips up and down keeping the tension on your upper abs. When undertaking this action, you will want to focus on trying to lean forward enough to crunch your abs in a circular manner as much as possible and continue the vertical movement to your full crunching contraction.

Repeat these movements steadily and controlled generating quicker movements. When you feel your muscle beginning to burn, continue these movements until you cannot move that muscle anymore. Done correctly, upon completion you will then focus on another section of your abs in your intimacy session.

Lower abs development using the missionary position
With your partner on their back and you on top, use the classic missionary position to not only enhance your partners exhilaration, but to also develop your abdominal strength and to burn your belly fat to shape up for the summer.

Upon penetration, you will want to set your body at a 45 degree angle. If you can lean forward over the edge of the bed without using your arms to support and holding the weight in your abs, it would be the most optimal way to develop your six pack. But if you cannot hold your weight, than use your arms to hold the weight.

The technique you will focus on going forwards and backwards, crunching your lower abs by using your hips and thrusting your hips in an upward motion . With fat burning, you will be doing quick thrusting movements consecutively until you feel a burning sensation in your lower abs. This same technique will also further develop the shape of your six pack in your lower abdominals.

Lower abs development using the doggy style position.
This position is a favourite because one, it's great for the submissive person receiving it. Two, it gives great control for the person who is providing the action. And three, it is a great exercise for the abdominals if done well, combining all three for a heightened sense of euphoria and physical workout.

Your partner should be facing away from you and bent over allowing the man to penetrate them from behind. When starting the forward and backwards motion, the person behind should be standing or on their knees, leaning forward with a slight curve forward, keeping their abdominals tense and crunching their hips with their movements as much as they can with each action.

Whilst in motion, continue to increase the tempo until you feel a burning sensation in your abdominals. When you cannot do anymore, it is then time to take on another action.

Sexual techniques to improve your oblique's
Penetration using the number 8 is a technique that will help to strengthen and develop your obliques and the muscles surrounding the abdominals. This is where upon insertion, your hip motion moves around in a number 8 position at a controlled tempo. You will be able to get quicker results if you can perform this technique at a 45 degree angle where you are on top and using your arms to support your weight, but focusing your abdominals on maintaining your balance. Continue to perform this technique until you feel a burning sensation in your abs and you cannot do anymore.

Sex position to increase core abdominal strength.
Upside down position is great for stabilising your abdominal core and improving your body balance. The man should be in the standing position and the partner wrapping their legs behind the standing man and attaining penetration with his erection. Upon penetration, the partner should lean back and place their hands on the floor with the standing male supporting their weight with his abs. This will increase the stamina strength of the abs in both persons.

The key to getting your stomach in the shape you want it is using the sexual position that best suits the abdominal part that you want to develop. Combining the sessions and different techniques to create a superset at a tempo at which you do the movements and holding the abdominal muscle correctly in the position, will aid you in your six pack development.

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What Women Want to Hear After Sex - Top Three Things to Say to a Woman After Making Love

By Derek Rake

If you've ever made love to a woman you'll remember the time when both of you are done and are basking in each other's affection after sex. Most often, your woman will look up to you and expect you to sweet talk them on how much you love them, but sometimes you're just lost for words. Here are some lines which will make your woman love you more, and as a result, be more eager for sex the next time round.

Killer Thing To Say #1 - "I'd rather be with you here than anywhere else." Let her know that you'd rather spend time cuddling up with her on the bed than to play your spanking new Nintendo Wii. Your woman will appreciate you for it.

Killer Thing To Say #2 - "What more would I need when I have you?". Say this if you feel truly sufficient with your woman. If you're still looking out to better her, then don't say this as you'll come across as a faker. Women have extra-sensory powers when it comes to detecting lies, so proceed with care.

Killer Thing To Say #3 - "You're beautiful and funny. I'd rather have you as company." You see, women always think that they are competing for your attention versus everything else in this world. By proclaiming her numero uno position in your life, you'll make her love you more.

Of course, you can instead talk dirty to her, but it has been proven that 'sweet talk' works better after sex. If you want to talk dirty, do it while making love to her.

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Make Sex Longer For You and Your Partner

By David Winston

When I first got engaged to my beautiful wife I was terrified of my lasting power in bed. I could only go for a couple of minutes at a time and was mortified that there was no way I was completely satisfying the woman of my dreams in bed. I began researching different ways that I could develop some lasting staying power to make sex longer for the both of us so we could enjoy the experience more.

The first thing that I found out is that almost 60% of men do not last as long as they would like to, (I think the other 40% lie about it). Next came the reasons. It is all psychological. Thats right! Every man has the ability to make sex longer and better with the equipment they already have. Let me repeat that: IT IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD. Alot of men figure that there is something wrong with themselves and become deeply depressed, please do not be one of those people.

There are a few simple ways that can help you to last longer and you can start practicing them today.

1. Foreplay. Foreplay is very necessary in that it helps you get comfortable with your partner and being comfortable is the key to intimacy. Alot of premature ejaculation comes from the buildup of actually inserting the penis and this is one weapon in your arsenal you can use to your advantage. Which brings us to the next tip.

2. Slow Down! Take your time and breathe. Breathe slowly, breathe deeply. If you do not have the support of your breath, you do not have the focus that you require to have the staying power you need in bed. So take it easy, breathe a bit..get control of yourself.

3. Focus on her. That's right, think about pleasing her and not yourself when you masturbate or have sex. It changes your mindset and can help you achieve greater endurance.

There are many more ways that you can make sex longer and most of them can be found online. If you enjoyed this article please visit my website where I write first hand about the techniques I am using to continue pleasing my partner. http://makesexlonger.wordpress.com David Winston is a happily married man who used to suffer from PE, He lives with his beautiful wife in Fountain Hills, AZ

The Pros and Cons of Having Sex Too Soon After a Divorce

By Danielle L. Taylor

The decision to have a sexual relationship soon after getting a divorce is realistically one that should take a bit of thought first, but as we know, sometimes things don't always go precisely as planned, which is already evident by the preceding divorce as no one ever plans that. It's also true that everyone's needs and emotions are different, and everyone heals differently from an emotional life changing event like divorce. However, statistics do show that in general, men are usually ready for a new sexual relationship after a divorce sooner than women are.

It's no secret that sex does tend to complicate things, particularly in a situation where both people already know one another and the relationship had always been a platonic one up until now. And, as far as "sex with a stranger" or having a quick fling is concerned, with the prevalence of sexually transmitted diseases today, this shouldn't even be an option, especially if you have children who are relying on you. There's absolutely no way to tell if a person has an STD simply by looking at them, so having safe sex each and every time is the only way to ensure you'll be protected.

This isn't to say you must enter the convent or the monastery just because you have kids, but rather use some common sense by thinking with your head first, not your hormones, easier said than done perhaps, but imperative nonetheless. Whether or not casual sex would even be something you'd consider will also depend on several existing factors, such as your religious background, your personal beliefs, and also your personal history.

For many people, getting back out into the dating scene as soon as possible is high on their list of priorities, for a number of reasons, and especially if they weren't the one who initiated or wanted the divorce. Both men and women do need plenty of reassurance after the rejection that comes along with being told your spouse doesn't want to be married to you anymore, and for some, sex with a new person is one way to get it. Being left, dumped, abandoned, or however you want to put it, wreaks havoc on one's self esteem, self confidence, their psyche, and also the way they feel about themselves sexually.

According to most therapists and counselors, it takes at least a full year to two years to completely heal emotionally from getting a divorce. Many people are extremely vulnerable during this time so you'll want to make sure you examine your reasons for having sex right after a divorce. Wanting to have sex for the sake of having sex after a divorce is perfectly natural, provided you realize that's what it is and don't read anything else into it and run the risk of getting hurt once again. Post-divorce sex can basically go one of two ways, depending on where you are emotionally and how you're coping with the breakup of your marriage, as it can either be a satisfying experience with no regrets, or unfortunately, have the direct opposite effect.

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Sex and the Christian Couple

By Chess McDoogle

Sex within a Christian marriage should be a very important aspect to your relationship. Sex should be seen as a celebration of your marriage, and not as some form of sin as too often some Christian couples fall prey to believing.

Much of the problem is confusion over what is sinful and what is not. Some Christian couples will avoid intimacy altogether over fear that they may cross over into sinful territory.

Suppression as sin!

Suppressing the celebration of your love for one another is probably more sinful than anything. Not practicing intimacy due to fear of sexual practice is something that should be overcome immediately!

Conquering fear and becoming more intimate!

The best way to conquer fear is through knowledge. Learning the different aspects to sex and the Christian couple can be incredibly empowering and open the window to a stronger, more intimate and sexually pleasing relationship.

Where can I start my sex and the Christian couple knowledge?

There are actual sex manuals available online which specifically deal with Christian couples. They will outline the common problems which couples face and provide easy solutions.

They will also cover the most common confusion in regards to Christian sex: what is allowable during sex and what is not? You'd be very surprised at the variety of techniques, positions, and intimacy tools that are available to the Christian couple during intimacy practice.

The main thing is taking action to improve your Christian intimacy life as soon as possible. Sex is a wonderful gift from God, that all Christians should practice regularly, and enjoy immensely!

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Christian Sex Advice - What is Allowable?

By Chess McDoogle

A very common question in regards to Christian sex advice, is: what is allowable? Are only certain positions allowable? Are sex toys allowable? Are only certain techniques allowable? Here is some very important Christian sex advice which will tell you exactly what is allowable and what is not!

First of all, what is allowable is essentially most anything that a Christian couple mutually agrees upon. That is really the key. There must be mutual agreement, and a sex technique or method cannot be forced or coerced onto another who is in disagreement with that particular form of intimacy.

What about sex toys?

This again generally falls under the above guidelines that if both individuals agree upon a certain sex toy, then they should allow it without fear of sin. There are some exceptions as described below.

So what is not allowable in Christian sex?

What is not allowable within Christian sex is bringing a third party into intimacy. Sex should be between the Christian couple only. Threesomes, foursomes or more, are not at all allowed. Now, in regards to a Christian sex toy, the toy should not resemble or mimic that of a third party either.

Is there any other Christian sex advice we should know in regards to what is allowable and what is not?

There is the issue of pornography. This should also not be allowed within intimacy, especially as something used during or before sex. Pornography touches on issues of lust, and should not be included within Christian sex practice.

Other than that, Christian couples are free to explore and enjoy sexual intimacy to the fullest. You can greatly improve your sex life by reading a sex manual which specifically focuses on Christian sex. It will provide guidelines to follow, as well as unique, exciting, enjoyable, and erotic ways for you to become intimate with one another.

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Olympic Ideas For Great Sex, Chinese Style

By Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D.

Seems like everything is tied in with the Olympics in Beijing this week. Well, why not sex? Taoist sexual practices hold wisdom for every lover, whether Asian or not. If you know anything about the practice of Tantra, then you will find many of the Taoist practices to be similar.

There are several primary principles behind Taoism that can be applied to sexual practices. First and foremost is "chi," or energy. If you watched the opening ceremony of the Olympics, you saw a celebration of chi. Chi is the energy that is part of everything that exists. Another related concept is "jing," an energetic substance in the human body. When you lose all your jing, you will die. The Taoists believed that jing could be lost through bodily fluids, including semen, and so Taoist men would avoid ejaculation in order to conserve their jing.

There are different ways that a man can conserve his jing, or life essence. One way is to pull out just before orgasm when having intercourse. A second way is to press the perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus) in order to send the ejaculate back into the bladder. (Don't try this at home!) Another way is for a man to learn how to separate the events of ejaculation and orgasm. By stopping the pelvic floor from contracting, a man could keep himself from ejaculating and still have an orgasm.

Fortunately, jing can also be created through sexual union between a man and a woman. Lots of sex was considered to be good for a man's health and longevity. (So go for it!) Unfortunately, as might be expected from ancient Chinese practices, women were sometimes seen as a means for a man to retain his jing. On the other hand, because women did not give up any fluids, they were seen as being strong.

Taoist sex manuals also include information on when and where to have sex. For example, lovers were to avoid making love during storms, eclipses, earthquakes, and other events, which could cause ill health or offspring that were defective in some way. Taoist lovers were also to avoid having sex by the light of the sun, moon, or stars, near a temple, in a well (!) or near a grave or coffin (!)

If you want to adapt these ideas for your own Olympic sex marathon, one good thing to do would be to think of sex as creating jing, or energy. Many people complain of being "too tired for sex." Can you imagine how tired you would be if you were a Chinese person living 1500 years ago? If you looked at sex as creating energy instead of taking it, you might have more desire!
Another idea to quickly and easily put into practice is chi. When you have sex, think of you and your partner raising and exchanging energy. Energy is a sacred substance, and so when you are making love you are doing something special and sacred. Slow down, look into each other's eyes, and breathe together to honor and create chi.

Dr. Stephanie Buehler is Director of The Buehler Institute in Orange County, CA. As a licensed psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist, she specializes in helping couples discover better intimacy, in and out of the bedroom. You can download her free E-book, "Sexual Discovery: 25 Secrets for Incredible Passion" at http://www.yourpassionexpert.com Dr. Buehler is frequently quoted in the media, most recently in Esquire, Time Magazine, Redbook and Self. She is the editor of the Women's Sexual Health Journal and considered an expert on the subject of sexual health for both men and women. To find out more or to reach Dr. Buehler, please visit the website.

The Psychology of Asexuality

By Saberi Roy

On identifying the true asexual considering both desire and practice...

Asexuality in humans is a rather confusing condition as asexuality may be socially, intellectually, psychologically or biologically induced. There are various ways of defining asexuality and it may be considered as a practice or a theory. Theoretically, an asexual is the one who does not have sexual feelings and desires towards either the opposite or same sex, whereas in practice an asexual is the one who refrains from sexual activity. Yet a person who engages in sexual activity but does not have sexual feelings have sometimes been considered an asexual and a person who does not engage in sexual activity for some reason is a celibate can also be an asexual. I would consider a proper asexual to be asexual both in theory and practice. Thus if a person engages in sexual activity mechanically and does not derive sexual pleasure from it, the very fact that he or she engages in sexual activity, makes him sexual. Even if a person does not engage in sexual activity and remains a celibate if he or she has complete sexual feelings towards the same or opposite sex or even towards no one in particular, he will not be considered asexual. Autoeroticism or autoerotic pleasure through masturbation and similar means does not imply asexuality but rather autosexuality, as the person seems to have complete sex drive but that is not directed towards any person and turned towards self. This may have something to do with homosexuality or narcissism and narcissists could be autosexuals or repressed homosexuals.

The biological basis of asexuality may be poor sex drive due to hormonal changes or brain damage especially in the region of hypothalamus or due to hypothyroidism, mental disorder and related physiological problems in the body. Autism, schizophrenia, depression and endocrinal imbalance can also cause asexuality. Late development of a sexual identity due to biological or psychological reasons may also lead to asexuality for a considerable period of time and sometimes can be a lifetime process. Autistic, schizoid, depressed personalities often have a biological basis for asexuality.

The psychological basis of asexuality varies from childhood sexual abuse/molestation to failed relationships although such people may still have deep sexual feelings and are only celibate and not strictly asexual. However very poor sex drive could be accompanied with the deep resentment for sex and this combination of biological and psychological factors would be the cause of asexuality. Many individuals with narcissistic and histrionic personality patterns could be asexual due to psychological reasons.

The social basis of asexuality can be training or personal vow, belonging to a religious or cultural group in which sex is prohibited or simply belonging to a society where asexuality is practiced. Men and women may prefer to remain virgins before marriage in some societies yet they would not be asexual in theory but only in practice due to cultural reasons, so such individuals are again celibate rather than asexual. There is for example, online community for asexuality and refraining from sex here is by maintaining celibacy although strict asexual individuals are the ones who have not only take a vow due to personal, religious or social beliefs but are also theoretically asexual and have biological basis for asexuality as well. Religious leaders for example follow the social basis of asexuality.

The intellectual asexual follows asexual lifestyle as a matter of choice. Philosophers and intellectuals and sometimes highly intelligent individuals can prefer to remain celibate and when accompanied by a low sex drive, they are often regarded as asexual as well. Yet this position is highly controversial as the intellectual and creative individual may be more interested in sublimating sexual impulses towards other creative activities and may consider sex as unnecessary or demeaning to their own moral and intellectual superiority. Intellectuals are however in most cases repressed in their sexuality rather than typically and completely asexual and they have philosophical or intellectual reasons for being so. Many philosophers such as Plato and Kant have remained asexual in their lifetime, although they could be considered as following a personal preference for celibacy rather than manifesting asexuality.

Asexuals may have an aversion towards sex or simply remain indifferent towards the sex act. They may suffer from a hypoactive sex drive, an inhibited sexual desire or simply sexual aversion. Since sex drive is also life drive according to psychoanalysis, a poor sex drive would be a poor life drive and asexuals may be completely unproductive. On the other hand, as in the case of intellectual or creative asexual, the sex or life drive which may actually be very strong is completely sublimated or channeled towards creative and intellectual activities so the individual may not be feel a need for sex. In this case thus, asexuality is not a consequence of lack of sex drive but rather a need to use it for other purposes. In an opposite direction asexuality can cause too much repression and consequent frustration and aggression that is suddenly manifested in criminal or antisocial activities. Like many creative artists and intellectuals, many criminals and antisocials can be asexual and the difference is whether the urges are diverted towards positive or negative directions in life.

According to me a true asexual must have at least one biological and one psychological reason for not engaging in sex. Like any other abnormal sexual condition, asexuality s a combination of several factors and being influenced by various factors at once, it is very difficult to identify true asexuality as against celibacy. But let's say not having a sex drive at all due to hormones or repression or past abuse and also not engaging in sex is an indicator of asexuality. Thus a person who is autoerotic or prefers masturbation over the sexual act would not be considered as asexual. Psychological studies are mainly based on asexuals who are asexual in practice and thus such studies could be severely flawed as in these cases, people who are considered asexuals may still have latent or repressed sexual desire so they are theoretically not asexual and may have no difference with non asexuals in their level of sex drive. However asexuality could be successfully studied by psychologists with tests that would measure 'both' the desire to not have sex - the complete lack of sex drive as also the practice of actually refraining from sex. As of now, psychological tests have focused on measuring asexuality as the condition of 'not being sexually attracted to anyone'. However there may be huge manipulation and denial in subject responses and many people may simply not want to reveal to others or even to themselves that they have felt sexually attracted towards someone.

Ultimately the human mind is complex and denial or repression of desire is the easiest route when the need to repress or deny is greater than the need to express so even responses obtained in psychological tests may not completely reflect an individual's actual sexual drive. Finally the condition of asexuality remains as great a mystery as sex drive and the human mind and unless we have a deeper understanding of the process of thinking and desire, understanding sexuality or asexuality completely will remain elusive.

Tips on How to Talk Dirty to Her - Making it Effective and Fun

By Rufus Steele

How do you talk dirty to a woman? This may be a challenge for many men but knowing how to talk dirty to her does not take a genius, neither does it require you to be a sex god. You simply need to understand your woman and her needs. Talking dirty is generally not a topic guys like to discuss with their friends which is why it is easy to feel alone and confused. Thankfully there are many websites and books dedicated to teaching men how to talk dirty to her. Once you master the basics and can relax in these situations, your woman will feel incredibly fortunate.

Ask Her Questions
Asking your woman questions is the best way to get her involved. Ask her what she likes, how it feels when you do certain things and of course what her fantasies are. Tell her you will fulfil all her fantasies and describe how you will do it.

Some women love when you say dirty things like "you are such a dirty girl" and "you were very naughty today, I think you need to be punished". This can drive women wild! These are the kinds of lines you may see in movies but they do work so try them out at least once to see her reaction.

If you have been with her for some time then you should be quite comfortable talking dirty together. The first few times are always the hardest but it is important not to give up. At times you both may even just feel like laughing but that's ok, you are making progress! Each experience gives you a new chance to expand your vocabulary and incorporate new words and sentences into your dirty talk. It can also lead to a host of new sexual positions and experiences too - something that neither of you are likely to complain about!

Tips on how to talk dirty to her generally involve making her feel relaxed and comfortable. That is all you need to do before you start talking dirty to your woman. If she enjoys it, she will return the dirty talk by asking you questions and directing your hands and body parts to what she likes.

Can you now see how easy it is to talk dirty to her? Women aren't as shy as you think, and many would love to take part in dirty talk. It just often takes the man to start her off but its all easy going from there!

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Recovering Your Sexuality After Cancer Treatment

By Rob Lester

A diagnosis of cancer and it subsequent treatment can have devastating psychological and physical effects on a patient's sexuality. The subject of sex after cancer is often overlooked in the process of trying to stop the cancer. Fortunately, there are things you as a cancer patient or a patient's significant other can do to recover sexual intimacy after cancer treatment.

Cancer treatment can cause many changes in a person's body, some of which have a direct impact on sex. Enjoying a healthy and pleasurable sex life is an achievable goal. There are a number of steps you can take to speed the process.

First, it is important to understand and accept what you have been through, and to be able to talk with your partner about it. The National Cancer Institute has published some excellent information and advice for cancer survivors in a booklet called, "Facing Forward: Life After Cancer Treatment." The booklet includes a section on body changes and intimacy including suggestions about how to talk with your partner.

If you want to take things gradually, one way to get back into a relaxed and positive frame of mind is to ask your partner to try out some of the wonderful scented and flavored massage oils that are available. You can start with simple relaxing massages and later agree to let them become more and more erotic. A key step is to get physical with your partner even if you delay traditional sex for a while.

Sometimes the physical side-effects of chemotherapy cause problems that get in the way of easily resuming a good sex life. For example, a very common result of chemotherapy for breast cancer is vaginal dryness that persists long after the treatment has ended. This can lead to pain during sex or reduce the pleasure that one normally expects to experience. A simple, but effective solution to this problem, is to keep personal lubricants handy to use before and during sex.

It is important to use water-based lubricants or silicon-based lubricants if condoms are also being used, since oil-based lubricants can dissolve latex and lead to condom failure. Water- or silicon-based are generally the most popular types of lubricants used to enhance the experience of, sex whether someone has had cancer or not, and they even come in a variety of fragrances and flavors. Oil-based lubricants can be useful as well. If condoms are unnecessary, a combination of an oil-based lubricant followed by a water-based variety can be particular effective for some couples.

Try a variety of approaches and products to see which works best. This experimentation will be helpful in figuring out what gives you the most pleasure, and the experiments themselves might be more fun than you expect!

There is an astonishing variety of personal lubricants, massage oils, condoms, and other sexual health products available for purchase online. You can shop with complete privacy and security from your own home and get discrete delivery to your front door, usually at prices far below retail. Visit the following link for more information about what is available: Sex After Cancer. Intimacy After Cancer is a good starting point to discover information sources and products you can access on your own, in the privacy of your own home, that may be helpful as you explore both yourself and your relationships with other people in your new after-cancer life.

Passionate Sex - How to Overcome Boredom in the Bedroom

By Richard Nicastro

Q: I love my husband, but somewhere along the line we've become more like friends than lovers. We had an amazing sex life early in our relationship but now we're lucky if we have sex once a month, and when we do it's pretty unremarkable. I really enjoy sex and I'd like to make it a regular part of our life again. Any suggestions?

A: First of all, you need to take solace in the fact that you're not alone with this problem. Most couples in long-term relationships note a marked reduction in the quantity and quality of sex as the years progress. When you're wrapped up in the heady euphoria of a new relationship, it's hard to imagine that the grinding reality of daily life can ever dampen sexual desire, but, voila! Here you are, years later, juggling kids and a mortgage and a new career, and sex just isn't a priority. And the first step in rejuvenating a lackluster sex life is the awareness of this natural ebb and flow.

Providing there aren't medical reasons for your dwindling sex life (if you're not sure, have a doctor check you out), there are some simple ideas you can incorporate into your life now that can help you and your partner resuscitate your sexual desire:

1. Prioritize sex.

Both partners need to make a commitment to nurture the physical aspect of the relationship. It's a big step to acknowledge that you've been neglecting passion. But once you do, you can begin having the discussions that will get you thinking about sex and eventually bumping it up on your list of priorities. There is no shame in saying, "Hey, we got caught up in life and left something behind that we really miss. Let's agree to openly and honestly work on this together."

2. Plan for sex.

Once you've both agreed to make sex a priority, it's time for some planning. You may be thinking: "Sex should be a spontaneous, natural experience. Planning for it will ruin the magic." Not at all! Quite the contrary: many of the most enjoyable, rewarding things we experience in life are things we must plan for. And when couples put effort into creating the time and space they need for physical intimacy, they temporarily take themselves away from the stresses of their hectic lives. This planned-for time and space actually allows spontaneity to flourish.

3. Plan for romance.

A word for some of you men out there (you know who you are): Planning for sex doesn't mean buying a new multivitamin and sprinting into the bedroom for a quickie. The type of sex that fosters a couple's connection occurs within the context of a loving, intimate relationship. When you nurture romance and make your partner feel special, you set the stage for an evening of passion and great sex. Romance doesn't have to be costly or time consuming (of course, it can if you want it to be). A sensual body massage with your partner's favorite lotion can go a long way in setting just the right mood for passionate love making. Pay attention to romance first, and sex will follow.

4. Become playful and provocative.

Couples in long-term relationships need to revisit the art of flirtation. Flirting and teasing are great ways to fan the flames of desire. Have you ever noticed how people in a new relationship excel at teasing? Whether seducing each other at the supermarket or while sitting at a red light, new lovers discover ways to turn each other on in the most ordinary of circumstances. Unbeknownst to them, these couples are actively creating opportunities to flirt and entice each other. Are you ready to enter the game of flirting with your partner?

5. Nurture your sexual attitude.

The art and skill of flirting starts with a particular attitude. The most important part of this attitude involves giving yourself permission to be playful and provocative with your partner. Without permission, you will remain inhibited and lose the freedom necessary to have a fulfilling sex life. Learn to give yourself permission to have fun with your partner.

6. Talk about sex.

Your assumptions about what your partner enjoys sexually might be standing in the way of a great sex life. You're both evolving--your partner's tastes in music, food, and clothes have probably changed over the years, so why do you assume that his/her sexual desires are the same as when you first met? Ask your partner what turns him/her on today. Don't assume you know (even if you believe you know your partner really well). Maybe there is something s/he would like you to try sexually that s/he would find exciting. Information about your partner's sexual desires and fantasies can go a long way in creating an exciting sex life.

7. Become less predictable.

Some couples fall into a rut because their sexual routines have become too predictable. While familiarity is comforting and helps build trust, it can also become a little boring when it comes to sex. Uncertainty and novelty feed excitement and can give your sex life an electrical charge. Experiment together (there are many good books available to help couples work on improving their sex life) and create a shared sense of adventure in the bedroom (or the living room, or the study...)

Is your relationship worth protecting? Are you ready to make your marriage everything it can be? To discover more relationship tips, visit http://StrengthenYourRelationship.com/ and sign up for Dr. Nicastro's FREE Relationship Toolbox Newsletter. As a bonus, you will receive the popular free reports: "The four mindsets that can topple your relationship" and "Relationship self-defense: Control the way you argue before your arguments control you." Richard Nicastro, Ph.D. is a psychologist and relationship coach who is passionate about helping couples protect the sanctuary of their relationship. Rich and his wife founded LifeTalk Coaching, an internet-based coaching business that helps couples strengthen their relationships.

How to Have Great Sex - 3 Earth Shattering Secrets You Simply Can Not Afford to Miss at Any Cost

By Pushpa Pal Singh

It's every man's dream to know how to turn on a woman effectively and satisfy her in ways she has only dreamed about. So what does it really take to be effective in bed? What does one have to do in order to be great in bed? There are some underground secrets most men haven't heard of. These secrets will make you the ultimate sex god women would worship. Read on to discover what these secrets are and achieve stunning results...

Understand all her sexual needs- It's extremely important to know what your partner really prefers in bed. One of the major reasons why a lot of men struggle with women in bed is simply due to the fact that they don't understand what their partner desires out of them. It's always good to ask her regarding what she prefers as that would help you become more effective.

Watch sexual advice videos and read books- One of the best possible ways to really be good at sex is to learn from the experts. There are millions of sex education videos online which would help you learn new tricks and techniques which will help you become mind blowing in bed.

Surprise your partner every time- This is the foundation if being great in bed. You must always have something new to offer every single time you have sex with your partner. You must surprise her with new things as that adds to the passion and you will be able to satisfy her better.

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