Some Great Positions For Cunnilingus

By Maria Holland

To really pleasure your girlfriend or lover during cunnilingus you need to constantly change what you are doing, not only with your tongue but with the position in which you are going at it.

The position in which you are attempting cunnilingus is really crucial in making your girlfriend or lover orgasm. Here are a couple of positions you can try and do the best job of making your partner climax:

Legs Up - This position involves your partner lying on her back with her legs spread as far and as high as possible. The good thing about this position is that you can access the entire vagina and are generally resting on the most important part, the vagina. Unfortunately with this position you tend to get cramp really quickly as the position you are resting in strains the neck.

69 - If you are not aware the 69 position is when you lie on your back and you partner lies over you with her vagina situated over your face, usually this position is used so you can both pleasure each other as her head is close to your penis. The best part of this position is that it allows for nice downward strokes of the tongue which really hit the spot for your lover.

Doggy Style - This position is similar to the sexual position as the woman is on all fours with her hips tilted so her vagina is pointing upwards. What you do is kneel behind her with your face within touching distance of her vagina. This position is great as it provides a very kinky feeling during any sexual encounter.

Technique during sex is one of the most important factors in pleasuring your partner, the best guide I have seen online to date is Secret Orgasm Tips. This guide promises to help any man achieve the task of making his woman orgasm. For more information on this guide and an in-depth review check out Top Seduction Techniques

Make Her Have the Quickest Orgasm on Record - Top Sex Techniques Every Guy Should Know

By Maria Holland

Unless you have had your head buried in the sand for all these years you are fully aware that women take almost twice as long as men to orgasm during conventional sex. Baring this in mind all men should be striving to do something different so that they can make their woman orgasm as often as you do.

Well here are some top tips to have your lovers toes curling seconds after you enter her:

Tell her what you are going to do - Women can visualise things pretty good so if you talk to her before hand about what you are going to be doing this will get her really worked up and horny. Learn some dirty talking techniques and master it, practice it in the mirror if necessary.

It is all about the foreplay - Foreplay is essential if you want to make your lover orgasm during conventional sex, it is vital that you get her warm and ready for you. Now if necessary this means staying down there for a long time, take a book with you if you get bored!

Focus on what she wants - For this you need to really know what her fantasies are so you need to get her to open up to you. Once you have found out what she likes then you can really hit the right notes for her.

Talk to her during - Now that you have her built up and ready for it once you start make sure you ask her what she wants, you never know she might want to try a new position! Doing this is key because obviously she is going to know her body better than you are and she is going to know what will make her orgasm faster and harder!

Technique during sex is one of the most important factors in pleasuring your partner, the best guide I have seen online to date is Secret Orgasm Tips. This guide promises to help any man achieve the task of making his woman orgasm. For more information on this guide and an in-depth review check out Top Seduction Techniques

How to Give Your Girlfriend Multiple Orgasms Every Time

By Maria Holland

Multiple orgasms are a mystery to most men mainly because they do not take the time to find out exactly what they are. So how do these men expect to give their girlfriend multiple orgasms if they do not even know what they are?

In simple terms a multiple orgasm is when a woman experiences an orgasm right after an orgasm and continuously orgasms for a long period of time. Now you may feel that this is really difficult to achieve but I am about to give you some good tips on how you can achieve the illustrious female multiple orgasm:

Find her G-spot - This is the main focus you should be aiming at when trying to make your girlfriend have a multiple orgasm. If you can successfully find her g-spot then you are really close to making her orgasm. The g-spot for those that are not aware is usually situated about two and a half inches inside the opening of the vagina, If possible you should always stimulate it with your fingers as it gives you more of a chance of touching it as your fingers have more rotation and direction than with your penis. The once you have found the g-spot you should always...

Keep her on the edge - Always keep her on her toes, build her up to the edge and then make her wait for it. Doing this builds her up and makes her more and more aroused. Then after you have built her up so much you can unleash wave after wave of orgasm upon her!

Technique during sex is one of the most important factors in pleasuring your partner, the best guide I have seen online to date is Secret Orgasm Tips. This guide promises to help any man achieve the task of making his woman orgasm. For more information on this guide and an in-depth review check out Top Seduction Techniques.

Talking About Sex

By Luke Jackson

Communication is essential for exchanging information so that you can enhance your own and your partner's pleasure. Learning to talk with your partner about sex requires guts and practice. Sometimes women want to protect their man's ego so they're too polite. Often they're unsure if they even have the right to ask for anything other than what they're getting. Too many men don't know how, why, or when they want something different.

It's great to create an intention together to be able to talk with each other about sex openly, honestly, and often. Admit it if it's scary if you've never done it before. Talk about your fears and the fears you imagine your partner has. This is a major frontier for most couples.

That's partly why we urge you to discuss the Partnering Questions (check for the link below) before each practice or lovemaking no matter how long you've been together.

Don't worry if you feel you're not doing them very eloquently at first. Whatever you do is good for intimacy and good practice to grow your communication skills.

Sometimes it's necessary to coach or redirect your partner when you're being physically intimate. If you make an agreement beforehand about how you want to communicate during sex, it can be much less challenging. No one likes to feel criticized or put down, most particularly while in bed with a lover.

Gradually you'll transform the intimacy of your connection and create the foundation to transmute subtle energy into awesome ecstasy.

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Problems in Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Continuing With P

By Levi Reiss

It seems that just about everyone wants to improve his or her sex life. It's just not that much fun to be alone. Unlike many others, we won't offer you an article, magic pill, pick-up line, or anything else to send you and your intended partner right off to the bedroom. But I really do believe that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are and whatever your sexual orientation. We present a double series of articles for the letter P, sneaking in a letter Q.

This article accents some of the problems and pitfalls that can prevent you from improving your sex life. A companion series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help you get the sex life that you want, need, and frankly deserve. Here we examine provocation, put down, and question.

P is for provocation. Don't fall for provocations, even if she is dressing provocatively. Can guys dress provocatively? If you think the answer is no you should get out more. Or hang around in new places. Actually these are the kind of places where people try to provoke each other in more ways than one and I'm not talking about a variety of sexual experiences. Let me rephrase, some of these provocations have a clear sexual aspect to some of the provokers (even if they don't fully realize that) while not of such interest to those who are being provoked. It can be complicated. Or it can be very simple. Is this thought provoking? One last item, if you shouldn't provoke should you antivoke. What do you think, Auntie?

P is for put down. Put down that desire to put others down. If one must be down for the other to be up there's a problem. And even if the sex starts out well, there's a problem. Don't put your partner down. You can, some say should, go down on your partner. Let's hope that those so equipped will get it up. You both should keep it up. But don't put your partner down. He or she doesn't have to put up with that. You can be put out in more ways than one. And they are non-sexual positions. But not like those in brown paper wrappers with the number 101 in the subtitle.

Q is for question. Don't overdo the questions in the bedroom. You don't have to know your partner's complete sexual history. In far too many cases by the time your partner ran up the full list you would be too run down for a run through. Or even a dry run. If you got the feeling that your partner is overdoing it with the questions you could answer a question with a question. What do you mean by sexual experience? What is the meaning of life? But few bedroom questions are worse than: What did you say your sister's phone number was? Actually I can think of another question that sucks and eventually may lead to a lot of sucking: You're what?

Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com - You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com

Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Continuing With P

By Levi Reiss

Do you want to really improve your sex life? It seems that most people do, no matter what their sexual orientation. If you are like most people, you want more sex and you want better sex, and you want it now. I hope you don't believe in a magic pick-up line, pill, potion, or perfume that will make it happen immediately, if not sooner. We do believe that our articles can make a major difference in your sex life, and even in your love life, if that's what you want. Why not give them a try?

We have so many suggestions for improving your sex life that we are putting together an alphabetical list of what to do. Just so you don't miss out, we are also putting together an alphabetical list of what not to do. Don't waste all your time, effort, perhaps money, and perhaps love by putting your foot in your mouth when what you really want; we all know what you really want. We present a double series of articles for the letter P, sneaking in a letter Q. The focus here is on playmate, poise, and quick-witted.

P is for playmate. First you play. Then you mate. Then you may go back to playing. If you can, mate. Don't forget to play. It's part of the game. Sex doesn't always have to be serious. As chess players know, you can check before you mate. And you can enjoy yourself even if your date isn't a Playmate. At least she won't have staples in her stomach. What is the male equivalent of a Playmate? And where are his staples? Probably in the cupboard. Free advice: don't do it in the cupboard. Unless you guys are really small. Or your cupboard is really big.

P is for poise. If you want to score with the girls and boys, you really have to have some poise. It rhymes. And it makes sense. There is something about poise that's not poison. Don't be flustered; it won't cut the mustard. Do you remember the Seinfeld bit, really the Elaine bit about grace? Not Grace but grace. Well it's sort of like that with poise. I suppose we could talk about poise under fire. Or poise when you are ready to fire, or to accept and with more than open arms his fire.

Q is for quick-witted. If you are quick-witted you will catch those fleeting little signals that your prospective partner may be barely aware of himself of herself. If you are quick-witted you will understand that tonight is not the night and not ruin your chances for the future, for the near future, the real-near future. If you are quick-witted you will understand that tonight is not the night and that never is the appropriate word and know what to do or perhaps what not to do. It's good to be quick-witted, even if you have to work on it slowly but surely.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com. You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com.

Sexless Marriage Advice For Men

By Howard Guy

Living in a sexless marriage can be a frustrating, depressing and aggravating to many men in this situation and this aspect of a marriage can ultimately lead to ending a relationship that does not need to be ended. Love and relationships can be complicated things and seeking sexless marriage advice can be just as confusing sometimes because of the variety of conflicting answers and reasons for this predicament.

To really find a solution to the problem of lack of sex in a marriage you first need to understand your own unique relationship issues that may be impacting on the situation, more often than not there are multiple relationship problems at work causing your wife to forgo sex and seemingly reject you. If you can narrow down the issues that might be causing such a problem then you have a better chance of fixing the problem.

While this may seem obvious to some we all know that women are often complicated and to men's instant fix problem solving mind it is hard to penetrate their emotive situation and get the real issue out of the excuses they use because they either cannot communicate it properly or sometimes because they also do not truly understand their problems. Some reasons for your wife losing interest in sex could be among the following:

• Hating their own body


• Hating your body (usually an excuse for something deeper)


• Claiming low sex drive (sometimes a medical condition sometimes an excuse)


• Boring routine sex becomes uninteresting


• Boring routine life disinterests them!


• Hidden grudges


• Fear of sex


• Fear of intimacy


• Stress


• Lack of communication

The last point can be applied to many of the other points as well and is a major cause of relationship problems that go far beyond physical intimacy. Some, all or even none of these could apply to your position but finding these things out without being too direct is an essential part of rekindling passion in the bedroom.

To this end when taking action on sexless marriage advice men must realize that women more than men are driven by their emotions and their emotive state has more impact on their sex drive than physical appearance and other factors that usually drive males.

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Marriage Without Intercourse - Can it Last?

By Howard Guy

One of the cornerstones of the concept of marriage for Christian couples and non-Christians across many cultures is that sex and marriage is a fundamental if not sacred thing. With this in mind very few marriages start sexless but many end up that way and while some claim that sex is just a physical action and can be divorced from love and a happy marriage they may not have lived as a person that has been rejected by their supposed lover and suffered the humiliation and loneliness of a proper intimate marriage which has to include enough physical intimacy to satisfy both partners desires; it is not called "making love" for no reason!

Marriage without intercourse is a cold, depressing and loveless thing and as nearly everyone who has been in the same situation will tell you the urge for infidelity becomes very strong not because they simply want sex but they want the closeness you feel when you engage in sexual activity. As these people will also tell you though an affair is not the right thing to do because a quick fling does not have that closeness only excitement which fades fast. If you love your spouse you want to make love to them and if you can not do that where do you go?

For many, they go to divorce court.

Not because they do not love their spouse but because they need to cut loose and find someone who can love them back. This is the last resort of course because any relationship that ends with you still having emotional ties to your ex has terrible repercussions for the next relationship. This in turn leaves many rejected spouses to make things so bad they are forced to hate their lover so they feel they can move on even though this is just a delusion!

So, a marriage without intercourse has very little chance of doing well or surviving because intercourse is just a scientific way of expressing an act which deepens and continues love on many levels leaving those longing for intimacy with two choices, a messy divorce or ... fix your sexless marriage!

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Living With a Sexless Wife?

By Howard Guy

If you are living with a sexless wife, that is a spouse who refuses to have sex or at least is very reluctant you will know all about frustration, anger, depression and humiliation as that which is suppose to be your lover does not engage in the supreme act of love that is often crudely describes as sex but is know more accurately when applied to a married couple as "making love".

This is a terrible situation to be in and even the most faithful husband will be tempted to seek intimacy in the arms of another women even though this provides cold comfort to men because it may be exciting but it is not the closeness you crave from the women you love!

Not all sexless marriages end with affairs, guilt and messy divorces though. Some marriages manage to get back on their feet and rekindle the passion they had when first married but to do this a husband needs to be very careful and understand the root cause of this lack of sex drive in their sexless wife.

You see marriage problems like a lack of sex do not come from a happy marriage, it is only a symptom of a deeper issue in their emotional state that can sometimes be hard to see because they either cannot articulate it properly or sometimes they do not understand it themselves. Issues such as depression, anxiety, stress and a whole range of other psychological issues can manifest themselves by inhibiting your wife's desire to make love. To counter this you can work through these relationship issues but it can be a dangerous path to tread when you do not have a roadmap to the female mind!

Your sexless wife will need support, compassion and understanding and you help to uncover the real reasons behind her reluctance to make love but if you truly love her this is the road you must take.

If you need more advice on what to do and more importantly what NOT to do when you try to fix a sexless marriage click below to discover the information you need to men your relationship and recreate a happy marriage of intimacy and love. http://sexless-marriage.1001-solutions.info

Disinterested Husband? Sexless Marriage Can Lead to Divorce

By Howard Guy

Living in a sexless marriage is a difficult and painful thing to do for a women, being rejected by the man that was once your lover and partner is not only frustrating but humiliating and a major blow to self esteem made worse coming from your husband. Sexless marriage is not an uncommon thing however with an estimated 18% of marriages becoming passionless and making love less than 10 times per year, when you also look at the 50% divorce rate we see some serious problems that could be linked.

You see, sexual intercourse is not called "making love" because it is some marketing slogan, it actually does help lovers stay connected and intimate. Many women who have suffered through a sexless marriage have ended up doing things they regret in a search for love and intimacy like having affairs. These never actually give intimacy and closeness only brief excitement and then guilt that can lead to anger and distrust and eventually divorce. Others will end the relationship while still in love because they cannot handle the loneliness but this form of divorce will cause major issues in your next relationship too which leads to the third outcome; a spilling over of anger and aggression aimed at trying to eliminate the feeling of love so that the lack of sex seems natural not something that is painful in a disastrous reverse psychology maneuver! The only other option is to fix your sexless marriage but usually a moan has tried with no success and starts looking for more advice.

Relationship advice for women in this matter is all too often sleazy and useless with tips on how to be sexier and arouse your man more with sex tips and seduction techniques which to me seem quite insulting to the intelligence and integrity of most women who have probably already done all they can to arouse their husband and becoming an amateur porn star will not really improve things ... it can actually make things worse!

If you want to know more disastrous mistakes that women make when trying to fix their relationship so you can avoid the same mistake and actually get the solution you desire then click below to find out more information. http://sexless-marriage.1001-solutions.info

5 Reasons For Passionless Marriages

By Howard Guy

Marriages usually start out with wild passion, sex and seduction and an intimacy that unites a man and a women in love and understanding that goes beyond all other relationships they have ever had. Sadly, many do not stay that way with a reported 18% of becoming passionless marriages that have sex less than 10 times a year; add to this the 50% divorce rate and we have an interesting link and a serious problem.

While statistics tell us the situation now what has caused them? What are the reasons that two people so in love can lose their drive for physical intimacy? Here are some of the most common reasons which may surprise you.

1. Lack of physical attraction

This is actually the least powerful reason but listed first because it is the first thing that comes to most peoples minds when they think of a loss of sex drive, that one or both persons in a marriage have let themselves go and no longer appeal sexually to their partner. This can be true but is not real reason only an excuse in most cases.

2. Stress

Stress is a major problem in modern society, highly stressful jobs can sap a persons strength and energy but not only that they can build a pattern of coping that involves shutting other stressful things such as family. Sex may not seems stressful but the onus to be a good lover sometimes makes this worse and the mental capacity to be romantic can be too hard when there is too much stress.

3. Fear

Fear is a strange thing and covers a very broad spectrum: fear of performance, fear of failure, disgust of their own body, fear from sexual abuse in he past ... there are many things that can give a person some form of anxiety disorder when it comes to sexual relations. These may have always been there or they might be something that has developed over time.

4. Boredom

Not as simple as it sounds, spicing things up can always turn things around but this is not about sex tips, is a marriage has become passionless it is a deeper issue that means an emotional divide has occurred between spouses and one or both can not appreciate the other as they once did because the connections seems to have been lost leading to an almost brother-sister relationship that has no excitement.

5. Distrust

Many marriages go through some problems that can lead to a loss of trust which if not completely healed can be like a bleeding wound that eventually saps one persons level of attraction to their partner as they come to dislike them even if they do not communicate it.

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You Don't Like the Other Sex, You Are the Other Sex - Gender Identity Disorders

By Erica Goodstone, Ph.D.

A person with a gender identity disorder is a person who strongly identifies with the other sex. The individual may identify with the opposite sex to the point of believing that he/she is, in fact, a member of the other sex who is trapped in the wrong body. This causes that person to experience serious discomfort with his/her own biological sex orientation. The gender identity disorder causes problems for this person in school, work or social settings. This disorder is different from transvestism or transvestic fetishism where cross-dressing occurs for sexual pleasure, but the transvestite does not identify with the other sex.

A person with this disorder often experiences great discomfort regarding his or her actual anatomic gender. People with gender identity disorder may act and present themselves as members of the opposite sex and may express a desire to alter their bodies. The disorder affects an individual's self-image, and can impact the person's mannerisms, behavior and dress. Individuals who are committed to altering their physical appearance through cosmetics, hormones and, in some cases, surgery are known as transsexuals.

Diagnostic Features

There are two components of Gender Identity Disorder, both of which must be present to make the diagnosis. There must be evidence of a strong and persistent cross-gender identification, which is the desire to be, or the insistence that one is of the other sex. This cross-gender identification must not merely be a desire for any perceived cultural advantages of being the other sex. There must also be evidence of persistent discomfort about one's assigned sex or a sense of inappropriateness in the gender role of that sex.

Children between the ages of 2 and 4 with gender identity issues are not uncommon. However, most children grow out of the wish to change their gender if treated early, before adulthood. If left untreated, he or she will probably continue to have problems throughout life.

Treatment of Gender Identity Disorders

Treatment of adolescents or adults with gender dysphoria or gender identity disorder is difficult. If possible, it is far better to prevent, diagnosis early, and treat such problems in early childhood. For milder forms of this disorder, psychotherapy can help the client to accept him or her self as a "transgender" person. The next step is to practice living the role of the opposite sex, informing relevant people (e.g., parents, friends, bosses), choosing a new name, and perhaps receiving some reversible hormone therapy, speech therapy, and cosmetic changes. If the 'real life test' is successful, sex reassignment through surgery and additional hormonal therapy is an option. However, continued counseling may be required to help the newly transgendered person learn to live with the changed body, surgical scars, fears about being discovered and fears about what to reveal and how to be sexual with a new partner.

Dr. Erica Goodstone has helped thousands of men, women, couples, and groups to develop greater awareness of the issues in their relationships and their lives, to overcome and alleviate stressors and discords, and revitalize their relationships and their own mind-body-spirit connection. Dr. Goodstone can be contacted through her web sites at http://www.DrEricaWellness.com and http://www.SexualReawakening.com

The Pitfalls of Sexual Intimacy - Losing Arousal and Not Knowing What to Do

By Erica Goodstone, Ph.D.

Sexual intimacy is often described as one of the most pleasurable activities of life. But for many of us, that joy is curtailed when we are unable to become sexually aroused. We may think about sex, desire sex, and even dream about it. However, some of us, some of the time, when we are actually involved in a real life sexual encounter with a real live person, suddenly have difficulty becoming aroused.

In 1998, the first erection enhancement drug, Viagra, entered the marketplace and literally millions of men came forward to admit that sometimes they needed help to become aroused. Physicians now prescribe additional drugs, (Cialis and Levitra), each presenting additional benefits and varying side effects.

For those men who cannot take these drugs due to complications with other illnesses and medications (e.g., diabetes and hypertension), physicians might prescribe penile injections and even the surgically implanted vacuum pump. Although these drugs, injections or surgeries may help, they often do not override the psychological blocks to sexual arousal.

Arousal for women is sometimes more complex. They may have a vaginal or urinary infection that is preventing lubrication, creating dry skin, and causing painful intercourse. Women may have varying hormonal changes, such as those that occur before, during and after pregnancy and in peri-menopause and actual menopause. There are a variety of medical solutions currently being used with varying levels of success. These include testosterone patches, estring vaginal estrogen, estrogen and progesterone creams, pills, and they are even experimenting with hormonal nasal sprays. Some women retain vaginal pain from an episiotomy given to them during the birthing process. Other women are emotionally depressed or anxious which can interfere with sexual arousal.

Physical therapists who specialize in pelvic floor treatments can often resolve vaginal pain, vaginismus (painful contractions), and other muscular tensions problems that interfere with arousal and enjoyment of sexual intercourse. Many other body therapies can help to alleviate the bodily tension patterns that may interfere with blood flow and decrease sexual arousal.

For both men and women, prescription medications can interfere with the body's natural arousal process. Medication taken for high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, some cancers, and other acute or chronic illnesses, can block arousal. Psychological medicines, such as Prozac and Zoloft can improve mood by increasing the level of serotonins, but this in turn can decrease sexual arousal.

Arousal problems can be exacerbated by unexpressed emotions, fears, insecurities and even physical discomforts. Psychotherapists, sex therapists and marriage and family therapists can help individuals and couples to better understand what is happening, why it might be happening, and some possible ways to overcome the problems. Even a few sex therapy sessions, with an experienced and qualified therapist, can help you to recognize your own thinking patterns that may be causing arousal problems.

If you are currently experiencing a problem with sexual arousal and have not talked to a professional about this problem, what are you waiting for? What is stopping you? What are you afraid of? The only thing to fear is fear itself. By facing the problem head on, admitting you have a problem and seeking help, very soon what was once a problem will be just a memory.

Dr. Erica Goodstone has helped thousands of men, women, couples, and groups to develop greater awareness of the issues in their relationships and their lives, to overcome and alleviate stressors and discords, and revitalize their relationships and their own mind-body-spirit connection. Dr. Goodstone can be contacted through her web sites at http://www.DrEricaWellness.com and http://www.SexualReawakening.com

Paraphilias - Sexual Problems We May Not Want to Know About

By Erica Goodstone, Ph.D.

Most of us like to think of ourselves as normal. We like to believe that our attitudes, desires and behaviors are not that different from anyone else's. However, when it comes to sexual arousal fantasies and often actual sexual behaviors, your neighbor may be very different than you would even want to know. What I am talking about here is a topic that is often ignored when sexuality is being discussed. This is a topic that makes many of us extremely uncomfortable. This article is about paraphilias: sexual desires and fantasies that are not primarily focused on creating intimate, loving sexual relationships.

Paraphilia is a medical or behavioral science term for sexual behavior that is considered to be a disorder of sexual preference or repeated arousal to socially deviant, perverted, or unconventional stimuli. Paraphilias are usually a male problem, but sometimes also found among women. Usually, the symptoms first appear during puberty and become more fully developed by early adulthood. Symptoms include intense, recurring sexual fantasies, sexual urges or behaviors that involve non-human objects, non-intimate partners, non-consenting adults, or children and may involve suffering or humiliation of self or others. Behavior can be classified as a paraphilia if it has lasted as least six months and causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of life.

Some of the more common paraphilias include:

- Pedophilia (attraction to children)

- Exhibitionism (exposing one's genitals)

- Fetishism (arousal to non-human objects, e.g. rubber, pantyhose, etc)

- Frotteurism (rubbing against strangers)

- Sexual masochism (pain or humiliation of self), including

- Hypoxyphilia/Autoerotic Asphyxia (stopping breathing)

- Sexual sadism (pain or humiliation of others)

- Transvestic fetishism (aroused wearing clothing usually worn by the other sex)

- Voyeurism (peeping)

- Telephone Scatologia (obscene phone calls)

- Necrophilia (sex with corpses)

- Partialism (exclusive focus on specific parts of the body)

- Zoophilia (sex with animals)

- Coprophilia (arousal to feces)

- Klismaphilia (arousal with enemas)

- Urophilia (arousal to urine)

Treatment of Paraphilias

The goal of most treatment approaches is to suppress the paraphilia so that it occupies a smaller and more controllable place in the life of the person. In certain types of paraphilias which are not considered harmful to self or others, the goal of treatment may be to assist the patient to accept the paraphilia as part of his or her life and to contact others suffering from the same problem for support and greater self-acceptance.

Depending on the severity of the paraphilia and the degree of harm caused to self or others, treatment modalities to suppress the symptoms may vary from pharmacotherapy alone, pharmacotherapy along with psychotherapy, and, in extreme cases, surgical castration.

Psychotherapeutic approaches include:

- aversion imagery

- cognitive behavioral restructuring of cognitive distortions

- group therapy to break through denial

- empathy training

- social skills training

- basic sex education

- orgasmic reconditioning

- desensitization to the anxiety of intimate sex.

Pharmacological interventions include:

- antiandrogens (e.g., cyproterone [CPA - used in Canada and Europe] and medroxyprogesterone acetates [MPA - Amen, Depo-Provera - available in the U.S.). These drugs either completely reduce testosterone secretion and/or antagonize the action of testosterone at the level of the receptor. Research has shown that these drugs reduce recidivism rates in male sexual aggressors.

- selective inhibition of pituitary-gonadal function by continuous administration of triptorelin, a long-acting agonist analogue of gonadotropin-releasing hormone, together with supportive psychotherapy, may be an effective treatment for men with severe paraphilia.

- antidepressants (e.g., serotonin reuptake inhibitors, SSRI's: fluoxetine [Prozac], lithium, clomipramine [Anafranil], fluvoxamine [Luvox], sertraline [Zoloft]; tricyclic antidepressants, MAO inhibitors, buproprion [Wellbutrin], nefazodone [Serzone], venlafaxine [Effexor]. By enhancing central serotonin activity or inhibiting dopamine activity in the brain, these drugs may eliminate and reduce severity of the anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and obsessive-compulsive fantasies and behaviors that often accompany paraphilias. However, there are no published reports of recidivism rates of sex offenders treated with SSRI's.

Seeking Help

Does someone you are close to have a blatant paraphilia? Do you know someone who is exhibiting paraphilic-like behavior (sometimes occurring with obsessive and addictive web brousing on the internet)? Or, are you personally grappling with desires and fantasies that are preventing you from forming and sustaining loving, enduring, and intimate relationships? Take heart in knowing that there is help out there. There are psychological and pharmacological treatments, or a combination of both, that can truly help you or your loved one to gain control over his or her own brain and emotions.

Dr. Erica Goodstone has helped thousands of men, women, couples, and groups to develop greater awareness of the issues in their relationships and their lives, to overcome and alleviate stressors and discords, and revitalize their relationships and their own mind-body-spirit connection. Dr. Goodstone can be contacted through her web sites at http://www.DrEricaWellness.com and http://www.SexualReawakening.com

Isn't Sex Supposed to Be Fun? So Why Don't We Always Desire It?

By Erica Goodstone, Ph.D.

In the movies, on TV, and in many popular magazines, sex is portrayed as an exciting, fun-filled adventure. Advice abounds on how to improve your sex life, make "him" want more and make "here" desire you. But in real life, for real men and real women, sex is often anything but fun and exciting. The DSM IV-TR, The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, used by psychotherapists, medical professionals and insurance companies to code psychological problems, contains 17 pages describing sexual problems.

The first category of problems is called Sexual Dysfunctions. These problems include: Sexual Desire Disorders, Sexual Arousal Disorders, Orgasmic Disorders and Sexual Pain Disorders. This article focuses on the first problem: Sexual Desire Disorders.

Have you or your partner ever experienced Sexual Desire Disorder?

Sexual desire disorders are sometimes less obvious than other sexual problems. This is an internal feeling which can be masked by outward displays of affection, loving and tender words, and lots of excuses for not becoming intimate. "I'm too tired." "I have to get up early." "You're too oversexed, can't you just relax?" "This is a great TV show, book, DVD...."

With low sexual desire, sometimes you may even engage in sexual contact just to placate your partner. But after awhile, your partner will probably begin to feel unloved and rejected. This might lead to your partner demanding more touching and sexual expressions than you are willing to give. It often becomes a predictable dance of one person withholding sexual passion and the other becoming more and more needy, grabby and demanding.

The person with low sexual desire begins to feel backed into a corner, pressured, used, obligated, and annoyed. But the person desiring sexual contact sometimes feels even worse: rejected, frustrated, "horny," on edge, angry, irritable, humiliated and depressed.

Although high sexual desire is not currently listed as a problem in the DSM IV-TR, it can feel like a huge problem to a partner with average, but lower, desire. The partner with lower desire can feel pressured and manipulated so that sex becomes a burden and an obligation, rather than a pleasurable and joyful activity.

What is the solution for Desire Discrepancy?

In my experience, desire problems do not just "go away." Over time, the feelings tend to escalate for each partner. Gradually, what may have started as a loving, affectionate couple, becomes two separate people who are physically and emotionally distant and unhappy.

What happens when two people are together but feeling isolated, lonely, frustrated and unhappy? Some will escape facing the relationship problem by focusing all their energy on their work, family, children, friends, physical activity or hobbies. Others will turn to less healthy, even addictive habits, such as alcohol, recreational drugs, prescription drugs, gambling, internet connections and other ways to escape facing their current reality. And some will escape into the arms of another lover, usually just a temporary fix that can make the problems worse.

The only solution, as I see it, is to acknowledge that you have a problem. A relationship is a unique entity, separate from each individual, requiring the input and attention of both individuals. If each person goes their own way, in isolation, escaping from the issues that involve both people, it is no longer a relationship.

Once each of you has acknowledged that you have a problem, you are beginning the process of finding a solution. First, each partner can review their own past history of enjoyable sexual encounters, with each other and with prior partners. Rediscover for yourself what made sex exciting, interesting, fun and joyful (or painful) for you in the past. Discuss with your partner what each of you has discovered. Ask each other what pleases and displeases, arouses or dulls your sexual appetites. Find a common ground, something you both enjoy, and start there.

Often, both people are not able to communicate so clearly with each other. That's when a psychotherapist can help. There is no shame or sense of failure in seeking help for an acknowledged problem. In fact, it is the most successful people in life who do seek help. It is the unsuccessful people who would rather keep doing something painful "my way" rather than getting help to do things in a more effective way.

The question to ask is not: What am I doing wrong?

The question to ask is, How can I make things better?

And sometimes you don't have the answer all by yourself. Discover what you really want and then choose the best way to attain that, even, and especially, if it's something you have never done before.

Dr. Erica Goodstone has helped thousands of men, women, couples, and groups to develop greater awareness of the issues in their relationships, their sexuality, and their lives, to overcome and alleviate stressors and discords, and revitalize their relationships and their own mind-body-spirit connection. Dr. Goodstone can be contacted through her web sites at http://www.DrEricaWellness.com and http://SexualReawakening.com

How Do I Talk Dirty to My Husband? - 3 Easy Tips!

By Deanna Raymond

So your question is, "how do I talk dirty to my husband"? First off, if you are uncomfortable with talking dirty please realize that it can be much, much easier than you think. Dirty talk is actually very normal and really can take your love-life to a whole new level of intimacy and passion. Remember that many couples use this type of talk regularly, so you are not alone in wanting to use erotic talk. I hope this guide can help you get started and it just may spice up things in the bedroom.

The first tip is this: sit down with your husband before you attempt dirty talk and have an honest and open dialog about what kind of language is OK. There may be certain words that he doesn't like (depending on how he was raised or other factors) and if you have this conversation before heading into the bedroom then you can avoid any awkward moments. Plus, it gets the ball rolling so you don't surprise your husband if you've never used dirty talk with him before.

Second, it is time to take a deep breath, relax, and let the words flow naturally. You want to be yourself and you don't want the words to sounds forced. Practice in a mirror beforehand if that helps you feel more comfortable. Remember that everyone has a naughty side and now is the time to tap into your inner "bad-girl".

The third tip is a great ice-breaker. Use compliments in the bedroom to make it easier to use erotic talk. Tell your husband what you like about his physical qualities or describe how you are feeling when he does certain things to you. Everyone loves a compliment and it really does break the ice.

The most important thing to remember is to have fun. If you follow these easy tips talking dirty to your husband should be more fun that you thought possible!

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3 Tips to a Fast Orgasm - Secret to Climax

By Bryan Burbank

One of the great releases to a sexual encounter is to have an orgasm and this can be achieved both by a man and woman. It is important to understand that women take longer to reach a climax than men do so you need to know some fact that will help her get there faster.

1. Mental Stimulation You want to first get her mentally in the mood and this can be achieved by talking about her desires and letting her know that you can fulfill them. Don't be in such a hurry to have intercourse take you time and get her in the mood for sexual pleasure.

2. Sexual Fantasies It is important to communicate with each other so you can learn what her sexual fantasies are. Also let her know that you are the one that will fulfill them for her and make her feel so good. Let her know that the final orgasm is going to be better than anything that she has experienced before.

3. Lots of Foreplay During this time you want to use some of her sensitive areas of her body to make her hot and ready. You can use her neck, back and thighs because there are really great places to have foreplay and get her ready for intercourse. Also yo want to spend some time playing with her vagina because this is a great way to turn her on.

We have mentioned a few of the many great tips that you can use to make your female partner have a mind blowing orgasm. There are many other secrets that you can use to help her have multiple orgasms and climax like she never has before.

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3 Secrets to a Great Orgasm - Why Many Women Don't Have Orgasms

By Bryan Burbank

The old term "faking it" is true for a lot of women because there male partners sometimes fall short in helping them to achieve a mind blowing orgasm. It is true that in the case of female wants and desires that men sometimes blow it and may be in it for there own sexual desires. There are steps you can take to help your female partner have multiple orgasms and keep her satisfied in the bedroom.

One of the most important things you can do is to communicate with her so that you can understand what her wants and desires are. Many men just think that there presence is enough for a woman to have an orgasm but it is not true you need to make her feel special and cater to her needs.

Next you need to change your thinking about foreplay because most men like to skip it and move on to intercourse. It is important that your partner is in the mood so that they can have a awesome orgasm and the best way to do this is through foreplay. When you start you want to set the mood just right for her and you can do this by finding out of she likes candles or maybe a certain fragrance in the air.

Finally when you are helping her have an orgasm you want to make sure that all of your focus is on her and that you tell her over and over how special she is and you she is the most important person in your life.

Remember that when you are searching for secrets on how to make your women have an orgasm then you need to be informed.

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The Secret Lovemaking Position Guaranteed to Give Truly Spectacular Orgasms!

By Antonio De La Cruz

Most of us wonder sometimes whether such a thing as the perfect love making position really exists. Well, if case you don't know, there is such a position. But the secret is it differs between men and women.

And the trick is you only have to move about an inch in any direction to change the feeling, intensity and quality of your orgasm. You'll need to experiment with the following positions until you get them just right. Take your time and enjoy the act of finding what really works.

The top position for women who want mind altering sex

Try what is know as the "reverse missionary position". It's the same as the proven missionary position. But she is on top. It's arguably the easiest position for women to climax. That's because she has control over position and pressure being applied to her clitoris and G-Spot.

Of course, you may want the woman to orgasm first. So use this position first off. Then move to another position for the guy so he can control his orgasm. Change you leg's positions by spreading them. One of you can spread your legs while the other simply closes them. Then get the other partner to spread his legs.

The best position for men who wants deep, satisfying orgasms

It's a fact of nature that the good old rear entry doggie position is very common among different animal species. And it works really well for humans. It gives a guy full control over his lovemaking. It's only downside is it doesn't provide face to face contact.

The reverse entry position is a fantastic way of hitting your partner's G-Spot. You get the added bonus of fondling her breasts together with clitoris, neck, stomach and other hot spots. And your partner can stimulate her clitoris using this position. Get her to kneel before you. Alternatively, place her head on a pillow and simply enter her from behind.

For guys, the view is incredible. You can see her in full glory. Get a front row position to her beautiful bottom. Try full penetration and totally control the pace to suit how your feeling. By the way, for guys who are above average, avoid thrusting too deeply in case you hit her cervix.

This can be a bit painful and is best avoided. But, some women enjoy very deep penetration. Find out by experimenting. Slowly at first and once you get her feedback, quickly move on to your heart's content.

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Women in a Sexless Marriage

By Tandy Munson

No doubt you have experienced your share of toe curling sack sessions. But even a lust-loving babe like you can slip into sexual doldrums and ultimately become one of a growing number of women in a sexless marriage, without realizing it.

There are times, when your thought of a make out session is hijacked by your man's impending work deadlines.

One of a woman's greatest needs is to feel loved and desired, so if her husband does not want to have sex, a woman will often feel devastated, rejected, and certain that there must be something wrong with her. Her confidence level will be shattered, all kinds of negative vibes will surround her and ultimately, she will be in depression. This is the condition of almost every woman in sexless marriage. It is seen that a sexless marriage does not harm a man, as much as it harms a woman. The worst part for women in a sexless marriage is they do nothing to save their marriage; instead she waits for her husband to make the first move. She needs to act more smart and intelligent and bring back her husband to enjoy a steamy sack session with her. After all, she doesn't deserve to be a woman in a sexless marriage!

Your man had a terrible day at work, an hour-long crazy commute back home and a Blackberry that won't stop ringing. All he can think of is a comfortable soft bed, without you, but some soft pillows for company. Job pressure, big cities blues, long commute, work politics and the overall lack of time often act as libido downers and can lead to sexless marriage. Many women in sexless marriage have to face the same problem but handling it right, will make all the difference. Act smart. If sex seems more like a task to your partner as it requires energy, then may be, night-time is not the best for you. Try morning sex, when you are both well rested and the testosterone levels are the highest.

In the beginning a relationship is exciting, but as a couple starts to take each other and life seriously, it goes from being fun to functional. To revive a relationship, you need to take time off to reconnect. Spend time together or indulge in a common passion. For example, sneak a note into his wallet to tell him to expect a surprise when he comes home. Or, enter a wet zone and treat him to a rubdown. Start with a soapy sponge and stand behind him while you work down his back, butt and legs. Give long wet kisses. For the grand finale, get your mitts super soapy and slip them south of his navel for a turbo wash. Once you start initiating intimacy you will re-inject excitement into the relationship. Sustaining a relationship over the haul requires continuous effort from both partners. This way, you can avoid the "women in a sexless marriage" situation.

Female sexuality is finally out of the closet. Women are recognizing and coming to terms with their own sexuality. The meek and submissive woman of yesteryear is now an assertive, aggressive professional of today. She has a distinct presence and is crystal clear about her sexual preferences. She is candidly vocal about what she wants not only in a mate, but also in sex. Now, there is no reason, any woman should be caught in a sexless marriage.

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Involuntary Celibacy

By Tandy Munson

If you are single or divorced, celibacy won't matter so much, but if you married and had a healthy sexual life, then sex is a biological need for you. In that case, involuntary celibacy is a torture. In a relationship, sex is the most important ingredient, other than understanding. Involuntary celibacy is the condition, when you urge for sex, but for one reason or the other can't indulge in it. Your body craves for it, but is not ready for it.

There can be a number of reasons for involuntary celibacy.

Physical reasons like an accident causing multiple fracture (especially below waist) impairing basic sex activity, may force a sexual active partner to suffer from involuntary celibacy. Like all traumas, it is a non-issue in the initial stage and as the time elapses, gathers monstrous speed and devours the intimate relationship between couples.

Neurological conditions like multiple sclerosis, glandular disorders of the pituitary, thyroid, adrenals, spinal cord injury, which render a man or a woman sexually unfit permanently, are some of the reasons behind involuntary celibacy. These are no longer uncommon episodes. Diabetes Mellitus, a metabolic disorder, which has affected humans for a long time dents the sexual performance of the male partner. This has lead to involuntary celibacy. Premature ejaculation, loss of libido saps the fires that bring the couple together. Different persons seem to respond in different ways though. The result can be a disastrous one- there could be times when a sudden loss of erection occurs and if by chance, there were an erection, there would be a premature ejaculation. It can be quite a distressing situation. Involuntary celibacy can ruin lives of both the partners.

Many-a-times, your doctor may prohibit sex on medical grounds especially if it is life threatening or causing irreparable damage such as major operations, certain heart conditions or when the person is carrying a sexual transmitted infection like HIV. Psychological conditions like Schizophrenia, an acute depression may give rise to phobia for sex or aversion to sex. Such situations give rise to involuntary celibacy and need medical supervision.

Marriage should not be based on the rights to grab sexual gratification and if it is based only on this factor, one can hardly call it a relationship. Marriage is much more than sex if it is bonded by love and mutual respect, sex is just one of the way to express it!

Bottom line, no matter the reason for involuntary celibacy, there is an answer and it starts with you and your partner. Talk and become aware of what you both can and can't do to sexual please each other; go to a doctor for help if it is physically from an accident.

If it is not one of the reasons above or like it, then go below for more information on how to overcome Involuntary Celibacy and regain sexual satisfaction.

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Passionate Sex Forever, Part II - Secrets You Should Know

By Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D.

Whether you've been with your partner three years or 30 years, you've probably noticed that sexual curiosity and interest have dwindled. Most people know that this is natural. After all--for better or worse--you have other things to do and think about besides sex when you've been together for a long time.

Sadly, some people think that dwindling passion means that something is wrong in the relationship. That's a mistake. What it really means is that it's time to do something different. As in Part I of "Passionate Sex Forever," here are some vital ways to keep sex hot year after year.

An absolute requirement is that you make sure that sex is an important part of your relationship. Now, partners sometimes differ in just how important sex is; to one partner, it's the whole point of a relationship, to another it's only a small piece of being together.

But that doesn't matter. What's critical is that you decide together that spending time making love keeps your relationship lively. Don't sit around waiting for sparks to spontaneously fly, either. After all, if you have tickets to a ball game or a concert, you don't look forward to it any less, do you? So schedule time for sex--really show that it's a priority.

And don't forget to flirt. One couple I know has a long-standing joke. The husband is always interested in sex, the wife not so much. He frequently asks for sex, and sometimes she does say, "Not now." Five minutes later, he'll ask, "Now?" Then 10 minutes later: "Now?" Then 12 hours later. Then a day later. Fortunately, she gets the joke and chuckles along. But the fact that he's flirting with her by letting her know how often he's interested in making love to her keeps the connection going. Can you think of a flirty little routine that the two of you could use to keep things warm until you can make time to make love?

Affection is another important part of keeping sex at the forefront of a long-term relationship. Many people complain that their partner, once cuddly and available, has become distant. They feel lucky to get a peck on the cheek. So hold hands when you watch TV. Give each other a real hug in the morning after you've taken a shower. Put your arms around each other when you're walking in the mall. Then it won't feel so awkward when you find your way between the sheets.

And if you want to learn more about passionate sex, Dr. Stephanie Buehler has written a free e-book, "Sexual Discovery: 25 Secrets for Incredible Passion," available at http://www.yourpassionexpert.com - Dr. Buehler is a licensed psychologist and sex therapist in private practice at http://www.thebuehlerinstitute.com - where she works with individuals and couples seeking better sex. She is frequently quoted in the media and is available for interviews and speaking.

3 Most Powerful Sex Positions - Make Her Achieve Multiple Orgasms One After the Other

By Pushpa Pal Singh

Do you know that the sexual position you use has a lot to do with whether she will orgasm or not? Do you know that there are certain sex positions which lead to maximum stimulation due to which the girl is able to orgasm within a matter of a few seconds? At the same time using the right position would also make you last longer in bed. Read on to discover what these best sex positions are and achieve earth shattering results fast...

Missionary position- This is known to be by far one of the best sexual positions out there. One of the best possible ways to really double the pleasure with this position is to push the girl's legs towards her chest. Doing this would make her vagina a bit shallow which would lead to stronger thrusting thereby making her orgasm extremely fast.

Girl on top sex position- This position is highly recommended if you have a hard time lasting long in bed. This is the position which would not lead to too much stimulation on your penis due to which you will be able to last longer than normal. At the same time this position is highly pleasurable for the female as she is in control and she can move in a way which would give her maximum pleasure possible.

Chair position- This is a very easy to do position where the girl sits on a chair and the guy stays on his knees while having intercourse. The good thing about this position is that you can control your ejaculations but quickly pulling out as and when you please. The best way to provide the girl with maximum stimulation under this position is to keep her legs on your shoulders as that would help you directly stimulate her G-spot and she would achieve a climax extremely fast.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know. This is something you can't afford to miss at any cost click here- Tell Me The Secrets

Top 5 Reasons Why There is Disharmony in Your Sex Life

By Pramod Shet

What could be the ramifications of a dull, non-exciting sex life is well known. It could lead to a divorce. Well, this article's objective is to outline the causes of disharmony in the Sex Life. One of these five could be the main reason affecting your sex life and you need to take an action immediately.

1. Stress in Professional Life

We are generally tuned to bring our professional life at home. This causes a lot of stress in our personal life. many people are responsible for spoiling their personal sex lives due to over ambitious Professional Objectives. The partner also has some basic needs which should be satisfied. Time is short and if its lost once, the marriage life also gets badly affected.One of the causes of divorce is unsuccessful sex life.

2. Self Abnegation

Sometimes people are guilty of self abnegation. They put the interest of other people in front of their Sexual needs. They might be involved in social work and are not working on their own selves. They need to look physically attractive.They need to look sexually interested. But in most such cases they are not. This leads to ignorance from their counterparts.

3. Less time With Each Other

Metro life style has its own pros and cons. Its very fast and the time that couples should spend together is actually eaten up by work, television and activities to keep up the financial health of their family. Lack of communication leads to disharmony in relationship. Sexual performance is directly proportional to the sharing and caring that a couple experiences.

4. Monotonous Sexual Activities

Predictability is the evil of discomfort in sex life. Spice brings the essence to sex life.If the same places, weekend nights are going to be the Planned Sex Environments, then the interest would soon be lost.

5. Cheating on Partners

A secret affair signifies the flash point at which the relationship has come to. It could end up in a divorce. Symptoms being a lack of Sex life. With the Cheating partner avoiding any closeness whatsoever. Any relation is built on trust and Cheating often leads to a feeling of guilt whereby the cheating partner finds himself as the culprit.

These are the five main causes which time and again affect your sex life. As far as possible discuss with your partner and always share and care for a healthy relationship and Sex life For Enhanced Sexual Pleasures and to Spice Up Your sex life CLICK BELOW Believe Me you"ll love it! http://www.refinedways.com/sexualmastery/sexualmasteryold.html Please feel free to pass this article on to your friends, or use it in your ezine or newsletter.

The Multi Orgasmic Male

By Pramod Shet

There has been a mention of Multi orgasmic Male in Tantra, an Asian traditional classic way of sexual pleasures and enhancing sexual performance. Multi Orgasmic Male is the one who can prolong the ejaculation and have many more orgasms than the normal single orgasm. It is common for men to have Orgasm and ejaculation at the same time. This results in only a single Orgasmic experience. In case of women, the orgasms attained and the final ejaculation climax are well differentiated.

A woman can get aroused and have almost 30 orgasms in one sitting. The concept of Multi orgasmic male has risen from the fact that many men complain of premature ejaculation. The trick here is to first understand the difference between orgasm and ejaculation and then prolong the ejaculation using natural ways. The longer the fore play the better it is for the female as this gives her time to enjoy the feelings and get aroused completely for the climax.

There are three ways to do it:

1. To tell your partner to stop when you feel you are getting aroused and then again waiting for a while start the foreplay through some other way.

2. To stop ejaculation by holding at the base of the penis for a while.

3. Taking the focus out of sex for a while and then resuming. This is easy to say but it needs to be mastered in such a way that the partner does not realize it else it would send wrong signals that you are not enjoying sex with her.

Initially you might find it difficult to adhere to but later on with practice you will be able to master it.

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Sexual Correctness - Tips For Adults

By Pramod Shet

This sounds to be a new term, yes it is.... And lots of preconceived misconceptions do exist.

This article will define the Sexual Correctness with emphasis on its correctness. How would one determine the sexual correctness in partners?

Whether there are any measurements like:-

1. A long hard big penis.

2. A smooth protruding clitoris.

3. An act of aggression.

4. Stimulation.

5. Titillation.

6. Prolonged erection. Sexual correctness could be all of these or none of these. Sounds strange but true.I want to drive home the point that Sexual Correctness is a Relative term. A man with a relatively smaller penis could bring immense pleasure to his counterpart than one with a Bigger Penis.

There are certain theories that prevail which state that:

1. A particular position.

2. Way of foreplay.

3. Touch.

4. Kiss.

5. Love making. Can transform a person into a Complete Sex God. Accepted but it does not work all the times. Sex is not just a physical activity, it more of a sensuous, mental and even spiritual activity involving two individuals attracted to each other.

It is often noticed that the notions developed in teens are the ones which are carried on to adults.

Men and Women in their thirties are on the look out for heightened sexual pleasure.

They feel the lack of sexual Correctness.

Then starts the comparison of smaller penis, smaller breasts, premature ejaculation and even unromantic kiss.Sexual Correctness is the belief of being sexually skilled, without any dependence of reconfirmation. The very essence of sexual Correctness is the Confidence in Sexual performance which develops over a period of time, not because of one's partner's flaking but on the contrary a due acceptance and adherence to sexual routine much more than ever before.

As mentioned above sex is a skill and one can improve it over a period of time through dedicated efforts and due guidance from the experts.Sexual Correctness is a term of Excellence and not perfection.Kama sutra, Tantra, Tao ... all are very refined and practical guides for attaining Sexual Confidence

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Review of Sexual Mastery System

By Pramod Shet

I must say the book written by Robert is a genuine classic in the field of Sexual Mastery.

I had searched the net for good expert advice for sexual issues and improving Sex life, but did not find any. There were a lot who misguided the readers and were in the race for making a quick buck.Then one fine day I found this ebook on the internet which actually has delivered what it promised.

The author has drawn upon his experience and shown how an individual facing difficulties in sex can drastically improve it.

Robert has got an expert status and in his book he talks about concepts like:

1.) Multiorgasmic male:

The basis for this is the Tantric Love Making. The ancient Asian Art of Prolonged Love Making and full body Orgasms.

2.) Avoiding premature ejaculation:

There are various ways mentioned in this book for avoiding Premature Ejaculation.It does not mention any pills. The ways are Natural

3.) Sexual Positions for improving love making.

4.) How to be Sexually attractive: These are the quick ways of physically and mentally training one self to be more attractive to your counterpart.

The author has worked upon how the improve the psychological aspects of sexual intercourse.There are other e books in the market which do talk a lot about female orgasms and technique to achieve them. Those ebooks are also equally good.

The e book doesn't seem to have been marketed well as a very few people are aware of it.

Its graphic literature is worth mentioning as it actually takes you to the Sexual encounters.

Its ideal for people who are in relationships for quite some time and want to add spice to their sex life.The age group would be around 32 Plus.

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Oral Sex - The Fine Art of Cunnilingus

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5 Tips For Improving Your Sex Skills

By Pramod Shet

Today we are going to learn the simple yet highly effective ways of having highly enhanced and long lasting sex.

1. Exercise Turning On and Off

This tip is for men. I want you to exercise a skill which is useful for exponentially increasing your success in sexual performance. Females get turned on when they can not predict what your next move is going to be? Kiss their lips a bit then sit back. Allow them to ask for more. Caress them and suddenly move to kiss their neck a thousand times. Then again watch them straight in their eyes.It gives them a feeling of a natural progression from initial kiss to foreplay and finally the climax.

2. Eye Contact

Most of the men are guilty of not having enough eye contact with the woman they are making love to. Women love to have their male counterparts coming closer and looking straight into their eyes while nibbling their breasts or kissing their lips very delicately. Remember. The key here is to experience the most fantastic gift that God has given to mankind. What better way than to see it all. And above all eyes speak a lot than words do.

3. Every time use a new prop

To kill monotonous sexual practice you need to have a different prop every time.

It could be:

1.) Scented oil for massaging.

2.) Chocolate.

3.) Vibrator.

4.) Scarf.

And the list goes on...Use the entire place available in the room. One cool place could be the floor. Spice up your sex life with a different and pleasing prop.

4. Talk to her slowly in her ears

The most sensuous organ according to me is the ear. Women love when men kiss and move their finger tips on their ear lobes. Notice the goose bumps that they get and mention that slowly in their ears. Tell them slowly what you are going to do next. This creates anticipation. For example: If you are going to kiss their tits. Mention it to them and then slowly do it. They would enjoy it.

5. Use Finger tips

Men should use their finger tips for moving all along your partner's divine body. Caress them .Slowly move your fingers from the shoulder to the back of their neck and on their back side while kissing them. Curl your fingers around their breasts and just move the finger tips on their lips to feel them.Women would hold you tight once they get aroused by these movements.

These are initial ways of arousal.

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Saved and Satisfied - How Christian Married Couples Can Have Great Sex

By Perry Mallory

A recent poll reports some dismal figures of divorce rates among Christians. The report states that at 29 percent, Baptists have the highest divorce rate of any Christian denomination. Only non-denominational Christians have a higher divorce rate among Christian groups with 34 percent. Among Christians who label themselves as being "born-again", the divorce rate is 29 percent. The poll goes on to report that the Jewish divorce rate is 30 percent, while among atheists and agnostics the rate is only 21 percent.

Something is horribly wrong with this picture. Among other major challenges and problems that could drive a married couple to divorce, I believe that the confusion of Christian sexuality is a major issue causing divorce among Christians. Why would God's people be leading atheists and agnostics in the category of divorce? One big reason is the presence of R-E-L-I-G-I-O-N. In the Bible, Jesus hinted that there is one thing more powerful than the Word of God......."the traditions of man." Religion is nothing more than a bunch of man's traditions handed down from generation to generation. We don't need religion.....we need truth!

The Bible starts off, in the book of Genesis, first chapter, by recording that God told man to 'be fruitful and multiply.' This is proof that God created sex for a married man and woman to have sex and plenty of it.

So why does God's children - Christians - find it awkward to discuss the topic of SEX? It is a topic that is least taught in church, the least understood while being the greatest asked about among believers. This makes no sense. We all have questions about being a Christian and having sex. However, most sex books, articles and shows are useless for Christian couples because we answer to a higher standard.

I want to inform you that God has answers to your questions. A lot of your questions have been answered in an easy to read format. Some topics covered are:

How to Have Sex as God Intended for a Married Man & Woman

* Sexual Skills for the Christian Husband

* Being a Multi-Orgasmic Christian Woman

* Sexual Satisfaction for the Christian Wife

Religion has taken most of the fun that God intended for us to have in the Christian marriage bed. Let's get rid of all the ignorance and put back the "YEAH!" in our Christian Marriages! Please visit http://www.christianmarriagebed.com for more liberating information about Christian Sexuality!

Sexual Seduction Stories - Become Phenomenally Seductive and Tell Your Own!

By Megan Zoile

In this article we are going to talk a little bit about the amazingly erotic power of slippery smooth stories of seduction...And how simply sharing a fantasy ( or two) can be incredibly erotic for a couple who needs a little help in amping up the eros a bit..:-) So if that is you, read on as we raise the temperature a few degrees!

If you are in a relationship that has grown a bit stale in the bedroom and beyond, one of the easiest ways to "turn the heat" up a few notches is to share erotic adventures verbally...and then of course, taking that same journey together in a non-verbal setting..:-) Women, by and large, love erotic stories. They might not admit it, and might like more engaging plot lines than our male counterparts..but a story of rich intimacy and erotic adventure is a HUGE turn on, trust me! Men of course, as we ALL know - enjoy the same, just with a more limited backstory..:-) The key is, if you want to REALLY engage your partner - simply finding and sharing an equally as emotive middle ground and turning each other on!

Don't forget, as Valentines day approaches - MOST people in a relationship when surveyed, will admit to being bored in the romantic department with their partner. Do not let this happen in YOUR relationship! Communication as always is key. Find out what turns on your lover, and pull that love level to get their romantic juices flowing! It's easy - and the payoff is WELL worth it, trust me on that!

Well, there you have it! Of course there is always more...but the above is an easy and elegant start to sharing (and creating) your very own sexual seduction stories, and while they may not make any magazines..they will be MUCH more fun than reading, I promise!

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Seduction Under Hypnosis - Fact Or Fantasy?

By Megan Zoile

In this article we are going to discuss one of the most overhyped and secretly shared set of" tips" in the online seduction training world...especially as it pertains to men wanting to learn how to seduce the woman of their dreams - hypnosis, and the art and power of passion! So before you buy into the next E book promising to teach you how to become a magical magician of the subliminal mind, read on for the REAL scoop on how you can become magnetic without the hype!

The very first thing you need to know if you want to be more seductive..more magnificently alluring and appealing to members of the opposite sex is you CAN cultivate a magical and magnetic energy that makes resisting your wiles more effort than just succumbing to them. But this has nothing to do with "hypnosis" in the traditional sense - or the way some of these online e books would have you believe! (of course most of them have been written by men, for men!) Being hypnotic is a metaphor for becoming irresistible in your power, prose and presentation with a beautiful woman. Exotic, alluring and elegant women are compelled and drawn in by men who understand and intuitively acknowledge the female form in her radiant and magnificent beauty. This IS hypnotic. To be with and around a man who relates to this and can work his magical message into an erotic and amazingly appealing adventure will make MOST women weak and pliable putty in his hands. But this has NOTHING to do with some of the forced, fake and hype that some of these guys are selling you, sharing hoky poky techniques to turn your woman into a subliminal servant that are just plain silly!

So my advice for you is this: If you REALLY want to be irresistible, to make her MELT at the simple thought of sharing time, space and intimate moments in the magical universe that is yours...learn ALL about the female mind - what makes us tick, move, love, lust and long for and in a man...And you WILL become powerfully hypnotic and seductive in ways that will make women fall for you, and men revere you in the very same breath - I promise!

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More Good Sex Positions - Mind Over Matter

By Megan Zoile

More Good Sex Positions to Impress Her!

In previous articles, we've covered a few different unique sex positions that not only will impress her, but also will stimulate YOU in ways, and parts of your body ( and mind) that you probably have yet to experience. Experimenting with adventurous and ambitious ways to make love to your woman is an exciting way to start the new year, and remember - practice makes perfect, so even if you get this one wrong the first few times, you can ALWAYS try again! Let's look at yet another unique way to make her melt!

The Meditating Position: In this position, the man sits in a lotus like position on the floor (this may be a challenge for the less limber guys out there - so start stretching!) with his hands facing up, forearms resting on his inner thighs as if he was preparing for meditation. The woman sits on the man's lap, her legs wrapped around or outstretched on either side. Her hands can either be in meditative clasp position, or simply go anywhere they'd like. :-)

Many people will actually attempt to meditate or have a transpersonal experience with their partner in this position, and say that this is the key to an earth shattering, mind bending experience of both mind and spirit....I can tell you as a newbie mediator myself, this is one activity that makes me want to practice meditating! But even if you aren't interested in tantra, or otherworldly experiences while being intimate with YOUR partner, I will tell you it still feels divine either way!

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