By Vinod Karan Singh
Those women who think that the way to men's heart is through their stomach are fairly missed by a few inches. Believe it or not but this is a fact; women who could not make out the difference between food and sex are no good either in the kitchen or in the bed. I am not here to hurt anyone's ego, but my aim is to share and inform all those couples who do not intend to indulge in the most successful art of love-making. And possibly because either the guy or the gal could not stand the smell which emits through our private parts or they think it is just an idea from porn movies. Last but not the least; they might think that it is not required at all or just a waste of time. These three reasons are applicable to different individuals and couples. But it is not as complex as it seems rather foreplay is considered as one of the best parts of sex ever invented by humans before they finally get involve in the intercourse.
First you need to understand that foreplay or oral sex is not a taboo, as far as my views are concerned, I believe that it's simply the start up or mood enhancing act performed to heightened the sexual arousal before you penetrate. Let the idea of intercourse be the last thing which should come into your mind when you are about to have sex. As a matter of fact, the pleasure which one gets out of foreplay and oral sex is more divine and acute than the actual penetration act. Before I get into the detailed discussion about foreplay, I would like you to open up your mind and shed all the myths regarding it and try to accept it as a delicious thing. ;-)
While playing a game, follow the rules to make it more interesting, but as we are becoming more experimental day by day so don't you think that we should follow no rules at all? This is what I suggest if you really want to make it big and exciting. Foreplay does not necessarily means only licking and sucking of organs. Any sexual act, behavior, sign, remark, form etc can be considered as a part of foreplay. Primarily touching, erotic talking, kissing, embracing and teasing are widely accepted forms of foreplay. By touching I mean it could be a sensuous touch of certain body parts or the genital of a male or female.
The ways to perform foreplay is different for male and female but more than the ways, it is the fun and satisfaction that matters. For males, sex is more of a visual treat i.e. they don't get turned on unless they see something erotic or sensuous and for females, it is more of a feeling, a touch and an emotional satisfaction. So gals if you want to make your buddy happy talk to him. Ask him what he wants and which way. Porn movies have a greater impact on the sexual lives of couples and that too males are more into it. Men usually visualize their spouse or girl like a porn actress and expect them to perform things in the same way as shown in the movie. Technically, this is not possible for many of the girls. Why? Because there are no re-takes, no video effects and no camera tricks involved in a real life sex. It turns into a flop show when they are insisted to do it.
Keep this thing in mind that your spouse is no porn actor or actress. Those featuring in porn movies are highly paid artists and by no mean into love with each other. They simply do it because the director has instructed them that way.
How to Perform Foreplay on Males
It could be well started off in a public place but finally you need a quiet place to do it. Females read on the tips for pleasing your partners in the way he always wanted you to do.
* As I mentioned earlier that sex is more of a visual treat to the males, just freeze this point in your mind to melt your partner down (Rule 1). Even while performing the intercourse, these naughty boys always want to see the organs with a wide open eyes. Poor thing! Why don't they understand that they can't be a performer as well as viewer at the same time! Anyways, moving ahead girls, let him catch a glimpse of you in his favorite lingerie, tease him, strip slowly on some erotic and sensuous number and give him a nice visual treat.
* Another way could be of a body massage. Give him a massage on his genital. Don't forget to use lots of lubricants. May be you can use some liquid choco, which can be licked also. Let him see how well you can eat his body, (remember rule 1) moan heavily; use your tongue a lot (Rule 2), let him feel the animal in you (Rule 3). Males like it more when they see that their girls are more into sex and other sexual activities.
* Timing is the essence of great sex! This is what I have mentioned in one of my earlier articles - Time Matters! Male often woke up with a morning wood (hope you are familiar with the term) catch hold of it. Yes catch hold of the situation as well as his organ. Caress it well, use your tongue all over his abdomen, pelvic, balls and shaft.
* Erotic and dirty talking always does the trick for males. (Rule 4) This is the reason precisely why most men like phone sex so much. They love to imagine some other gal in lieu of their wife or partner. Go ahead give them a chance to do so. Why don't you have a phone sex with your hubby tonight? Do it, and when he is turned on like hell give him a perfect oral experience before you both get wild.
* Male often fascinate to have a bondage sex as well. Honey let try something different tonight, these words are enough to send shiver down his spines. "Let's do an enactment from our favorite erotica. Tie my hands and legs with the bed and rest you know." In this entire game, you will be the director who will take charge and the plot will unfurl as per your wishes.
It is not hard to keep your hubby in your control, if you know how to please him. And believe me there is nothing more easier thing in this world than to satisfy a male sexually. He will not ask for more if you follow whatever is written above in a true sense.
Foreplay for Females
So guys it's your turn to make her happy now. The first thing you need to understand that initially she needs all your love. Show her how much you love her (Rule 1). Saying that you love her is some kind of emotional satisfaction as well as social security for many females.
* Never make haste while dealing with your wife or gal. She might think you are in hurry to finish the act. (Remember Rule 1) even if you want to undress her, do it in a snails speed.
* More than anything, a female responds well to touch and caress. Do it. Give her a feather light touch when needed. Observe her body language, look into her eyes. Just touch all over her body. Females love to feel, (Rule 2) let her feel your warm hand all over.
* Dignified ways (Rule 3). Males prefer to go wild but not females. They do it with style and sophistication rather than getting wild and raw. Things like taking shower together, lip locking for extended hours, playing with ice, the idea of scented candles, flower etc. are a definite turn on for females.
* Rubbing her organs and kissing and prolonged kissing is preferred by most females. Here kissing also includes gentle biting on the neck, lower chin, earlobes, beauty bones, breast, nipples, and all over the sensitive parts. Keep in mind that females love to get a back massage. Did I say no to it! No darling never. Unlike the physical structure, the sensitive nerves of females are uniformly located. Once you locate all her love spots successfully, she will do whatever you will ask for.
* Never show that you can't eat her body as good as she does. A slow licking and biting in her abdomen, pelvic, rectum and vagina will turn her wild. Keep in mind that more than the vagina, the rectum has a greater share of sensitive nerves ending (even in males) so do not forget to stimulate that.
* Whisper to her while doing the act, which will make her feel more loved. Never forget to praise her body and different body parts (Rule 4). who don't like to get praised anyways, mostly females. Oh! They simply love it and as far as I know males are good liars. Sorry but it's an honest confession.
I believe these tips enough for both. If I keep telling you about the rules, we would be sitting here for seven days and seven nights. Now it's your turn to follow these rules and get into the act. I have mentioned at the beginning about odor of the body parts. Let me tell you a few more things about the body odor. During the act of sex, the testosterone level increases and our body releases a chemical called Oxytocin, popularly known as the love hormone. This hormone has a magical effect on the human mind and tends to bring the partner closer to each other. That is why we see an all time increased intimacy between the partners while having intercourse. However, many couples have a great likeness for the body odor which emits from the genitals and armpits and at the same time, many doesn't. You will not get the extended pleasure unless you don't accept this odor. So try to deal with it, trust me once you do it, you will get addicted.
Risk Factors
Mostly foreplay is considered as safe act and carries less risk factor than intercourse. If this act is taking place between two healthy partners who are practically free from any STDs may tend to enjoy it more. However, it is harmful when any of the partners is suffering from sexually transmitted diseases. In this case, exchange of blood or liquid from the body parts of the infected partner to the other partner may enhance the risk of infection. You can use a condom or a dental dam as a protection.
It is a truth universally acknowledged that what is prohibited is more attractive, moreover foreplay during sex is not prohibited at all. If it doesn't do any good, trust me it will not do any harms as well. Human beings love to break the rules, so break all rules and simply go for it and feel the ecstasy and warmth of each other body and have a great sexual experience tonight.
