Problems in Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Continuing With T

By Levi Reiss

Whether heterosexual, homosexual, or somewhere in the middle we all want to improve our sex life. Who wants to be alone? I really do believe that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are. We present a double series of articles for the letter T.

This article focuses on the problems and pitfalls that prevent you from improving your sex life. Another series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help you get what you want. Here we examine tense, toy, and trick.

T is for tense. Don't tense up or you may find yourself in the past tense. Of course there is nothing wrong with building the sexual tension. Just make sure that release is available, ideally with the tensionee. When you get his or her attention, you can build the tension but make sure when the time comes that you are intense, and not tense. Being tense can destroy the mood and the act itself. Let's say that your previous sexual encounter was far from a success. Be happy that your partner is willing to try again. Relax, at this moment tension is almost a recipe for failure. Relax, enjoy yourselves. One slowly consumed drink may be OK but don't deal with the tension by drowning it in alcohol. Relax, enjoy yourselves. It may work this time. If not? In baseball and some courts three strikes and you're out. But not always in sex and love.

T is for toy. Don't toy with people. Promising eternal love in exchange for a roll in the hay sounds as mature as a teddy bear or sucking your thumb instead of sucking... On the other hand, sex toys are OK if you are both fine with them. Or if tonight there is no both. Don't get fetishy. If you are more attached to your sex toy than to your partner you may be in deep trouble. Don't be so shallow. A toy never says no. In fact most sex toys don't say anything at all. Unsolicited business idea: Invent a doll that says "Not tonight, I have a headache." Potential market - Millions of guys who miss their wives and lovers and plenty, plenty of gals.

T is for trick. Don't play tricks on the important people in your life. Don't do tricks on the unimportant people in your life, not the subject of this paragraph and consequently almost the end of the story. As I was saying: Don't play tricks on the important people in your life. Little tricks are OK such as short-sheeting the bed. Now that I think of it, many people would be furious and their partners would be in the doghouse in more ways than one. (Which is still better than being in the cathouse.) Play a big trick and you may find yourself on your way. So tricking is tricky. And on Halloween go for the treat.

Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.

Levi Reiss has authored or co-authored ten books on computers and the Internet, but to be honest, he would rather just drink fine wine, eat fine food, and enjoy life. He teaches classes in computers at an Ontario French-language community college. Among his many web sites he is particularly proud of his new site celebrating all kinds of love including physical love at http://www.sexsexesex.com. You will find a wide range of jokes, articles, and quotes devoted to various aspects of sex and a great collection of photos. If you don't know French, enjoy the translations. Check out his global wine website at http://www.theworldwidewine.com.